If your baby cries in kindergarten, then you should know the features of your child's nervous system and, of course, be patient. Naturally, you want him to quickly learn to kindergarten, but you need to take into account the fact that the whole baby can adapt only after 2-3 months. What should parents know?
Features of the nervous system of the child
All the kids are different. Some immediately cross the threshold of the garden, start to cry sobbingly, and then when mom leaves, they calm down. Other babies cry throughout the day. There are such children who immediately begin to ache and feel bad - this is also a protective reaction in an unfamiliar setting. Every kid experiences separation from his parents very hard. Of course, if the situation in the kindergarten is affected, then the child can experience all this faster. Otherwise, the crumb may never adapt to the conditions that are alien to it. As a consequence, there may be constant tears, tantrums and illnesses.
Which children best adapt to the kindergarten?
Educators and children's psychologists say that children who grow up in families with many children are best used to unfamiliar surroundings. Children who are brought up in communal care, and children to whom parents are referred to as adults and are brought up on equal partnership relations, also adapt to the kindergarten.
When crying causes harm to the baby's health?
American experts say that crying can harm the baby's system. Doctors say that tears should be present in the child's life in moderation. Thanks to their research, they found out that if a child cries continuously for more than 20 minutes, then it strikes a strong blow with the health of crumbs. Those children who shed tears more than the allowed time, throughout life, are experiencing more problems, because from the very childhood they get used to the idea that no one reacts to their cry for help. Moreover, prolonged crying destroys the child's brain, and this later leads to problems with learning.
When the baby sheds tears, his body produces a stress hormone. It is this hormone that is harmful to the system.
Do not be afraid that the baby will cry. All the children are crying. Doctors say that it's not the blight itself that is harmful, but that the kid does not receive any response to his cry for help.
When you can not give the child to the kindergarten?
Parents should know that boys between the ages of 3 and 5 are much harder to get used to a new environment than girls at the same age. For kids, the age of three is the most difficult, because the kids break the psyche and the "I" of the child is formed. If the baby is sent to the kindergarten in the most vulnerable period for him, then his psyche can suffer greatly and it will be impossible to correct it, and the adaptation period can last up to six months.
It is at the age of 3 to 5 years that children are the most difficult to part with their parents, because during this period the mother's connection and the child are strong. It is necessary to sever this connection in a special way.
If the baby is often sick, then you can forget about the kindergarten, otherwise, at the end of the day, his immune system will be completely weakened. If the child is very hard to survive the separation of his mother, then it is better not to give it to the kindergarten.
How to adapt the crumb to the kindergarten?
To begin with, you need to go to the kindergarten with your baby and spend a day there so that the child can see what other children are doing there. If you just bring your child and leave it for a whole day, then it will be like a minimum inhuman. Nerve cells of the child will suffer a big blow, from which the crumb will come to a long recovery.
The father and mother should definitely go with the child to the garden and stay there with him. When the parents are near, the child is calm. If you go for a walk, then go to the kindergarten so that the child can play with other children, for this he will not need to part with you. You should also bring the crumb to the kindergarten, when the children are taken home by their parents, so the baby will be sure that nobody will leave him there and he will be taken home anyway.
It is important that the baby does not see how other children cry, so you need to bring your child an hour later, for example, not at 8.00, but at 9.00. Moreover, at home, be sure to feed the child in the usual home environment, because in the garden he will surely refuse to eat.
In the first week, you can stay in the kindergarten with the child, so the baby will understand that he is safe and his mother is next.
In the second week, try to leave the child in the garden, but not for the whole day, but only until lunch, and then take the baby home.
In the third week, you can bring a child for a whole day. For the first time for two weeks the child will understand that he is safe in the kindergarten, he is taken care of there and nobody will offend him, and even on the contrary, he will be interested in listening to fairy tales, playing with other children and sharing his new toys.
How to help a child if he constantly cries?
If the baby cries in the garden, then this is a direct indication that he needs help. Any little man is defenseless, and his nervous system has not yet been completely eroded. You should ask the teacher when and how long your baby cries. Perhaps most of all he shed tears when you just leave in the morning? Or maybe in the evening, when he is afraid that you will forget to take him? Could it be a time of quiet sleep when he can not fall asleep? You have to find out the reason, the child cries, and then eliminate it.
If the crumb is crying, when he is led into the garden by other members of the family, and not by his mother, then let them not drive him yet. Rebenoksnachala must adapt.
Ask the teacher what toys like your baby most. Maybe it is calmed by a favorite teddy bear? Perhaps he likes talking to the girl Masha? Maybe he likes it when the teacher reads a story about the threescore. It is necessary to resort to such ways, when the baby cries.
Constantly talk with the child, do not look at the crying baby and remain silent, do it even in cases where the crotch can not yet talk. This will help your child to calm down. It's good, when on the way to the children's sheditors tell the crumb that interesting things are waiting for him in the group. And when you take the baby, be sure to ask how the day passed in the kindergarten.
If the child does not leave home with a doll or a toy, then let him take her with him to the garden, this toy is probably for every child. With it, he will feel secure. Especially well, this will help if the child is very hard to get used to an unfamiliar environment. In addition, you can give your baby his favorite thing - a handkerchief, a towel, a scarf. So the little one will feel much more comfortable, because with him there will be a small part of the home environment.
There is another secret that will help the child to get used to ksadik. You can give a crumb a key and tell him that this is the key to your house or apartment and until you take the kid out of the kindergarten, you yourself can not get home. So the child will feel needed and important, moreover, the baby will be sure that its the evening will be taken away. You can hang his key to him, so when he cried, he would be able to look at the key and calm down, thinking that his mother or father would soon follow him.
Do not need to respond to the first signs of hysterics baby, the tacon will understand that you can be manipulated. Stand on your own, if you decide that the kid needs to go to the kindergarten, then experience with him the first month of getting used to and try to be sensitive to the problems and needs of the child. Thus, you will help him to find peace in an alien environment.
Try to come up with some nice traditions when you leave the crumbs in the garden. For example, teach him to send an air kiss or kiss him on the cheek. You can come up with another sign that will tell the child that you love him, then he will get worried and gain a sense of security.