Solving all psychological problems - inside you


Everyone at least once in his life felt that this life had lost all meaning. She stopped at the very edge of the abyss and is about to fall into the abyss. Crashed - not having time to skip a dangerous turn. And no matter what the reasons were. The important thing is how not to have time to make the last decisive step and not really fall into this abyss. In any, even the most desperate situation, there is a way out. The main thing is not to lose heart and try to look at the world with optimism. Remember: the solution to all psychological problems is within you.

The world is collapsing into small pieces not only through events, unpleasant situations and problems. Sometimes we finish the job ourselves. We ourselves destroy what has not been destroyed by troubles and adversities that have fallen on us. We ourselves break these little pieces into even smaller particles in the hope that our troubles will break with them. But this is not so! We are just destroying our own lives. We do not care that sooner or later, out of all this dust and a huge pile of microscopic fragments scattered in an eerily chaotic order, we'll have to glue together what was.

In time to stop - perhaps this is the main task for those who lose interest in life. Not easy? Yes, it is not easy. But the world is arranged in some magical way so that no one is given more problems, adversities and sufferings than he actually can bear. And understanding of this comes only when everything is already behind. When many opportunities are lost and lost in an empty time. Of course, in a difficult period, when a person embraces horror and despair, it is not easy to understand that all these feelings and emotions will sooner or later go into oblivion. But, having only a fraction of human optimism, one can cope not with the problems themselves - but with oneself. Do not forget about optimism - the way to solve psychological problems.

Optimism is a quality that is not inherited. He does not get in the form of a birthday present. Optimism is a quality that needs to be cultivated in oneself. Maybe, to some extent here plays the role of auto-suggestion. But if a person is tuned to a positive outcome of any business, then even a negative result does not cause him a strong disappointment. Optimism rather teaches that everything that is not done is done only for the better. Therefore, even in the most terrible circumstances, a person endowed with this quality will be able to see the way out of the circumstances.

If you never have problems, you will never know how happy you really are. If the soil never leaves your feet, you will never know how hard you stand on your feet. Sometimes it happens that without a collision with certain problems, a person will never know his own potential. It's like in childhood, when parents bring a child to music school, and teachers open a real musical gift in it. But if parents did not take the kid by the hand and showed him this magical world of music, then the world as a whole could lose another genius. A child would never know what he is capable of.

No doubt, it is better that in this life everything happens in this way - calmly and in a kind way. But it would be real magic. Therefore, for many people their own potential opens only when life drives them into a trap of fear, resentment, disappointment, pain. Even our oddities that slept in our head and heart are revealed to us only in certain situations.

If you never get to the edge of the abyss, you can never know who lives next to him and who is a true friend. Perhaps, it is true friends who do not allow a person to take the last step into the abyss. A man who found himself in an unattractive situation. When his world began to look like a dark darkness, sometimes just do not need advice. Not material help - but just a listener. Of course, it is much more pleasant when you share your victories and joys. But learning to listen about troubles, disappointments is much more important. Maybe someday you will be the only safety rope that will allow someone not to stumble. And time will pass, and someone will also tightly squeeze your hand so that you do not collapse into the abyss along with your destroyed happiness. It's kind of a mutual guarantee, when people extend a helping hand to each other. And so we sometimes hold onto this life thanks to friends, close people, relatives. And sometimes thanks to those people about whom we would not have thought that they are able to listen and help. Different situations - different people. And wherever this world rolls, in the opinion of many, each of us is able to be an unselfish and reliable friend. Not because we hope to get the same help someday. And because we just do not want to lose faith in people and ourselves.

There is another great helper - this time. Time really heals everything. Someone needs more time, some less. But in any case, in time all wounds are cicatrized. It is time that gives us to understand that all our problems have become just another stage in life, during which we managed to learn something. Be patient or stronger. Responsible or stricter towards themselves. Tender or calmer, more confident or smarter. Time passes, and we begin to understand that they have acquired important experience, new qualities and began to look at the world around differently. Maybe because one day they looked into the abyss of despair? Just one moment, just one look - and it will take us a long time to forget what we saw on the very bottom of this terrible abyss. But human memory has one unique quality - very often a person does not remember the unpleasant moments of his life. Maybe it can be compared to the fact that a woman almost does not remember the pain she feels during the birth of a child. That is, she knows for sure that it was very painful. But does not remember how it was. So we can remember that once we were overtaken by pain and fear. But we do not remember our feelings. As if some sort of defensive function works in our memory, so that the horror that has gone through does not bother us for the rest of our lives. Therefore time is a good ally.

As one of the most famous and most beloved female heroines said at the very end of the novel about the frenzy, love and search for happiness Scarlett O'Hara "I'll think about it tomorrow." Before taking the last step into the abyss, drink a glass of your favorite wine. Talk to your best friend, watch a good movie and cry in the pillow. Perhaps, waking up in the morning, you will understand that your tomorrow tells you a different solution to the problem? And tomorrow there can be as many as you like. Exactly as much as you need to move away from the edge of the abyss a few steps back.

No one wants to want to experience the adversity of fate, get into unpleasant stories, lose their own happiness. But the world is too complicated. And a man demands too much from the world itself, and sometimes from himself, so as to avoid misfortunes and desperation all his life. Of course, do not stand behind every corner to see a black cat and be afraid of every risky event. After all, constant anxiety is also not the best option for any person. Being ready for trouble and constantly fearing them are completely different things. And the depth of the abyss can also be different for everyone. Maybe sometimes you do not even have to look into it, so as not to be disappointed if you do not have to see the bottom. It is worth remembering only that anyone in this world needs someone very much. Someone will always wait for him, love and believe in him. Someone for whom it is worth stopping in time. Or someone who needs to stop at the time. Life is, of course, not a fairy tale and not a popular melodrama. Where, at the last moment, the one who does not give him the last step comes to the aid of the protagonist in the most incredible way. And on the other hand - do not we want to believe in fairy tales? And it is likely that such a faith is capable of overcoming any abysses, distances, spaces, adversities and troubles. Because we ourselves are also a little magicians. At least for someone one who sincerely believes in us.