According to research, 5% of people have such charisma, but it would be wrong to call all the others non-charismatic. A charismatic person is always a leader, even if the main quality of his charisma is not leadership. He is different in that he behaves in life, and not life leads him.
The path of common strivings
Finding your charisma - strong qualities of a person - is not at all simple, and often requires outside intervention. People, as a rule, get used to themselves, with their qualities and often can not really answer the question what is their most attractive quality. Psychological protection usually works here, so this task can not be solved on the move. Professionals, who by virtue of their abilities can see hidden charisma in other people, use different ways to extract it to the light.
The main thing that you need to know, starting the search for charisma - strong qualities of a person: shyness closes it, and the best qualities start to manifest non-constructively.
For example, a person who has a strong quality - communication with people, starts to chatter more and more from constraint than usual, and a person who has strong analytical qualities closes in himself and can not say a word. Therefore, you may have to first work on self-confidence. After charisma - strong qualities of a person, not always and not all can be manifested.
Remember "the case of successfully overcoming the crisis and try to draw a symbol in the form of a force that helped you get out of it. This symbol will allow you to see the strong qualities that manifest themselves most clearly in crisis situations. The shape of the symbol helps to overcome internal inhibitions. Then you can think about how to give your strength to people, how to show it.
You can try to find charisma on your own. Techniques are known, they are quite simple, but without professional participation they work well only if charisma is intuitively manifested, and a person is ready to accept it. It often happens that before you engage in charisma, you have to work on the harmonization of the individual.
Once a person realizes his strong qualities, they begin to manifest themselves in behavior on their own. Changing habits and views, in any case, it is these observations that psychologists do literally after one session on the discovery of charisma.
When a person has realized and accepted his charisma, one can engage in its manifestation in all aspects of the image:
gabitarnom (how do you look):
verbal (what do you say):
vocal (as you say):
kinesthetic (as you move);
environment (what surrounds you);
materialized (business cards, booklets, things that you give and that bear the imprint of personality).
First, it is worth concentrating your efforts on 1-2 directions. For TV characters, the most important manifestation of charisma is a gabitic and kinesthetic image, for the sales manager - gabitarny and verbal. When a person has charisma - a person's strong qualities are manifested in appearance, people are easier to understand him, which always contributes to confidence.
Work can go in many different ways. The psychologist often gives general directions, the coach can work with more detailed manifestations, it would be nice to consult an image maker, a vocal specialist, etc. Something a person can easily do himself when he starts to feel confident in a new quality.
To appeal to any specialist was the most effective, it is important to understand what you are aiming for. You must first answer yourself to the questions: "What do I want?" And "For what?". And by asking these questions, you need to reach your ultimate goal. For example, find a close and single person. With this task you can already go to a specialist. This applies not only to the disclosure of charisma, it concerns any goal and task.
As practice shows , for women it is usually most important to search for your new gabitic image, manifesting your charisma through clothing, accessories and cosmetics. The direction of the search will help determine the test.
For women, self-search for a new image is somewhat easier than for men. They should rely on intuition and go on contemplative shopping. Walk the shops and try to understand what kind of emotions cause these or other things. Try to find clothes that cause your inner "Ooooo!". Such clothing reveals your essence, your charisma, especially if you associate it with yourself. Try to understand its essence, what you like - material, cut, color, features of the style. Do not be afraid to look into expensive boutiques and try on a dress that is in the display case. If you understand that this is yours and analyzed what you like, you can easily find a thing with the same essence, but it's affordable.
This method is not suitable for people with a strong psychological defense. Indirect attribute: such people often have a painful attachment to a single color (usually black). To understand how much you are trapped, you should abandon the habitual clothes or favorite color for at least a week and try to find other suitable colors. That is, deliberately drive yourself into a situation of discomfort to find new comfort. However, only a psychologist can remove such protection, since it is associated with internal psychological problems.