Most of us are very attentive to the health of our children: it is necessary to appear an easy cough - and we are already ready with tablets and broths. We monitor the work of all organs and systems of the child's body with the exception of one thing: the nerves of our children are a priori in order. But is it? Nervous disorders in children and their signs are a topic of discussion for today.
It all begins with infancy. Why does the child cry a lot? As a rule, they explain it simply: he has a capricious character. In fact, he cries for completely objective reasons. Either he is improperly cared for, or he is physically unwell, or he is mentally ill. That is, there is no such thing as whims. What we call a bad character, as a rule, means that a person is sick with a neurosis. Alas, today the statistics on nervous diseases in children is disappointing: more than half of schoolchildren could be diagnosed with a "nervous breakdown" if their parents had come to mind to visit a doctor. But, unfortunately, only the most neglected cases turn to the clinic.
NERVOUS DISORDERS: BUSINESS IS NOT INSTITUTIONAL ...
Usually they say: "He's nervous." In fact, this concept can include anything you like, because the list of diseases whose symptoms give a picture of "nervousness" is not only extensive, but also varied for internal reasons. Deviations are congenital (for example, as in children-neuropaths), exist in the form of prerequisites, and may be acquired as a result of severe life tests or improper education. The immediate organ of defeat is a separate part of the brain, as well as the nervous system or the psyche as a whole. In this case, the type of nervous disorders in children and their signs can be detected only by a doctor.
ATTENTION: NEUROSE!
What inevitably makes up a significant part of every person's life? Family problems, difficult life situations and stresses. Not every organism, confronted with them, will stand the defense (after all, some people, even after falling under ordinary rain, immediately catch cold). So the child, having found himself in a difficult situation, can give a neurotic reaction (arrange a hysterics, close oneself, etc.). If such reactions are a habit, then most likely the child has neurosis (in Greek - "nerve disease"), a disease that needs to be treated by a neurologist. Experts believe that it is always based on internal conflict: it is he who "doubles" the child and makes him emotionally unstable. It often happens that children manifest the so-called monosymptomatic neuroses, which are expressed by only one, but rather bright symptom (stammering, tick, enuresis, etc.). Often, parents themselves provoke a child's development of neurosis through wrong actions.
DISTRIBUTED PARENTAL MISTAKES
♦ Parents give the child an increased load, giving it to two schools, different circles, etc.
♦ Parents see their own shortcomings in the child and try to fight them.
♦ The mother does not show her love to the child, making it clear that her location needs to be earned.
♦ An unemployed mother surrounds the child with excessive care.
♦ The child becomes a witness of scandals in the family.
Your actions:
Of course, only a pill nervous breakdown can not be cured. Most likely, with the help of a doctor you will have to reconsider your way of life. After all, in order to prevent the child's neurosis, you should first of all control your behavior. There are rules that must be observed:
♦ Do not try to stop manifestations and symptoms of neurosis (sleep disorders, masturbation, etc.) - it is much more important to identify the causes.
♦ If you yourself are suffering from a nervous breakdown, try to be cured at least for the sake of the child.
♦ If you yourself had problems with your parents as a child, try not to allow this with your children.
THAT SHOULD BE CAREFUL:
♦ overestimation of peers in mental development;
♦ fanatical infatuation of the child with some object (for example, only in Chinese or only in higher mathematics);
♦ if the child goes head to head with the game and replaces it with reality (for example, he tells everyone that he has become a dog, and walks all the days on all fours);
♦ If he loses interest in life, ceases to follow himself;
♦ If the child has hallucinations (he speaks to himself, listens to something);
♦ If a child lies and lies in full serious fantasy (for example, that at night they take aliens to him or that he dispersed the clouds).
IT IS INTERESTING:
About "physicists" and "lyricists"
In the course of interviews of several thousand parents, it was found that the outbreak of neuroses is at an age when children go to school (8-12 years). Psychologists attribute this not only to a change in the way of life and an increase in the burden during this period, but also to the peculiarities of the method of teaching existing in schools, which, as a rule, is underlined by the "left hemisphere" (that is, oriented more towards mathematicians and techies). The right - the humanitarian - hemisphere develops much more slowly in the process of studying, although children with such an orientation are no less.
"Horse and quivering deer"
Psychologists have inadvertently divided people into groups: according to the type of temperament, according to the instinct that dominates them, and so on. Knowing these classifications, you will be able to determine the type of your child and educate him accordingly. For example, regardless of the sex of the "ego" (courageous) child, it is necessary to restrain it from growing aggressive, and "genophilic" (feminine), on the contrary, to protect from neuroses and not to suppress its individuality. Similarly, do not constantly urge and adjust the phlegmatic, try to curb the restless choleric, cheer melancholic. If you try to adjust the child to general standards, it will inevitably lead to nervous breakdowns and internal conflict.
Neuroses - who are at risk
♦ timid children who are not sure of themselves;
♦ children who are not given any autonomy;
♦ disturbing by nature, overly cautious children;
♦ too obedient, "driven" children (with increased suggestibility);
♦ Children with reduced or, conversely, increased activity;
♦ sensitive children who do not know how to stand up for themselves;
♦ children prone to strong experiences of even the most minor failures (or luck);
♦ "unwanted" children (for example, "the wrong" sex) or children born in a time that is not suitable for parents (the very heat of study, a profitable contract, etc.).