Our children's fears are, in the main, the fruit of the fantasy frightened by someone or something of a child. In general, it does not really matter how to define our childish fear. It is important that our children's fears are not needed, because sometimes they make our life unbearable and defective. Perhaps the biggest disadvantage of our children's fears is their unreasonableness and the lack of connection with reality. Fear is really useful, because it's not in vain that nature rewarded us with this feeling. Previously, when a person lived in a wild environment, he often saved him from certain death.
Let's see what our children's fears are connected with, which very often imposes our social environment and technological progress of our crazy age.
Usually our children's fears arise in a variety of situations. For example, sharp and strong noise, the rapid appearance of a stranger in front of our eyes, the sound of the water of the pipeline in the apartment, a vacuum cleaner. This list can be continued indefinitely, since the childhood fantasy is unlimited. Accordingly, our children's fears can be the most bizarre.
It happens that in childhood we, being frightened of the darkness and obscure shadows from the unusual light, in adulthood, not reporting to ourselves, are afraid to remain alone. In addition, it happens that we, frightened in childhood, begin to fear flies, clowns, stray animals, dentists, punishment for a small mistake and so on. It is possible to enumerate dozens of the most innocuous things at the sight of an adult who may be frightened by the child's psyche, triggering our childhood fears in adult life.
Most of our childhood fears, appearing for a short time in childhood, disappear without a trace, but sometimes it happens that the bright shock experienced by us in childhood also remains in adulthood when we are ruled by the harsh world of reality, and the subconscious mind, adjusting to it, is looking for output to the outside. When we hide our children's fears, then, of course, we produce a better impression on those around us than a person frightened by a visit to the dentist.
To reduce their acquired fears in childhood, we begin to engage in auto-suggestion that there is no danger. Thus we try to prove the incorrectness of the course of thought of the erupting memories from the childhood period of life. But in fact it's just an adult trick and an attempt to deceive ourselves. As life shows, this way of auto-suggestion works, and our childish fears recede into the background, giving way to the adult logic of man. So, inspiring ourselves that we like, for example, a stray dog, we are actually starting to experience less of the child's fear of the animal. However, our root to the dog of fear grows from childhood. Perhaps, as a child, you were frightened by the barking of a dog, and now you start and try to avoid the dogs.
The most paradoxical thing is that the more we fear something, the more our subconsciousness begins to bring our children's fears to the surface of consciousness. It is like a chain reaction, which is constantly growing. Once, succumbing to our childish fear of dogs, we can find out after a while that we began to be afraid of other things that were looked at before quietly. This applies to you.
Imagine yourself as a child and do not try to suppress children's fears, but look at them with wide open eyes, leading with them an internal dialogue to resolve the conflict. Let's return to the same example with the dog. Look at the homeless dog, imagine how badly she lives on the street. Penetrate with compassion, and then, in place of child fear will come a new feeling - pity, and behind her healing love. You will soon be able to pass without fear past the dog. The key to understanding our childish fears lies not in concrete realities and facts, which we fear and try to avoid, but in the reasons that motivate us to do so.
Do not learn to fight childish fears, but learn how to analyze them. Then you can forget about them forever. Consciousness will begin to re-write our children's fears in a new form of love and understanding that they are not reality, but only a child's imagination.