Here we are talking about personal freedom in a relationship (marriage), but for most of us these two words are incompatible. Since ancient times it was considered that if a woman and a man are married in a legal marriage, then they belong to each other. Of course, in marriage it is important to feel that you belong to someone. After all, marriage was created precisely in order to settle property issues. Remember, many already many years ago and a woman was considered as a man's property. So now, this belief sits in almost every one of us. Patriarchate prevails in our minds so far.
The happy relationship between a man and a woman, marriage and personal freedom in the modern world have a close relationship. A measure in the relationship between a man and a woman is both love and freedom. Certainly freedom!
If there is no love, then personal freedom in the relationship between a woman and a man can imperceptibly turn into such things as debauchery, anarchy and democracy. And without freedom, love over time grows into a duty and duty, a sense of attachment and a sense of ownership. And, God forbid, there can be selfishness and violence in relationships! Often the cause of the crisis in the relationship of spouses is the lack of freedom in the family.
We can not live without personal freedom, the divine component of our being. Subconsciously or consciously, we are looking for freedom. Sometimes this search ends in divorce or another form of relationship.
Each person has an inherent desire for personal freedom. Some express their freedom by original behavior and clothing. Others - free sexual relations. But this external appearance of freedom is the result of inner unfreedom.
What are the conditions necessary for the development of personal freedom and inner emancipation? After all, emancipation will give us the opportunity to gain true freedom in the modern world around us. The scale of thinking, the desire of the individual for constant development, awareness, the manifestation of love and the absence of complexes - that's the right way to achieve the goal.
If initially to lay this principle in the creation of marriage, even with the emergence of relationships, then the desire to make a partner their property will disappear. Then the number of divorces will decrease, and love will be stronger (freedom enhances feelings of love). The space of love will expand and your happy children will grow up in it.
And if you do the opposite, keep your partner stronger, then marriage will come in a relationship. Why does not a person resort to save a loved one nearby: they adjust themselves, tolerate, break themselves, humiliate themselves, lose their appearance. But these manipulations complicate things even more. The world, as is known, does not accept secession. And the one who tries to isolate some part of it and keep it next to it inevitably loses it.
Acquires only the one who knows how to give!
Be like your children - they sincerely love everyone (unless of course parents spoil their child)! Remember, children often repeat that they love this or that person. Parents panic and think that their children do not like. Forcing the child to love only themselves, they thereby sow "seeds" of the future problems of their children. These seeds will prove themselves not only in the family, but also in the future family life of the child. Many personality problems in relations between men and women originate in childhood.
Freedom originates in our head! It is in the mind of man that the greatest amount of unfreedom is accumulated. Fill the world with a new worldview, free the mind from the old trash! The proposed principles of building a family will help you to get rid of delusions and fill with a new energy of freedom. Be happy!