As a rule , the desire to create a nest overtakes the expectant mother at about the 30th week of pregnancy. The hormone estrogen pushes on everyday feats. Dowry for the baby? Only after studying the assortment of all catalogs and all stores! Cleaning? Overhaul! Sometimes the instinct takes and amusing forms. Sign: if the pregnant woman with a huge belly decided, by all means wash the windows, then soon give birth. For a future mother, these are so natural desires that they do not need any comments. And my husband ... To put it mildly, he's puzzled. And the brilliant wallpaper in a golden flower does not in any way meet his ideas about a cozy home. Dear Dad! Summon the remnants of a sense of humor to the aid and resign yourself to the inevitable: it nests the nest. Your life has turned into a hunt for discounts? Instincts are not subject to the intellect. We invite you to join the generic dominance of your wife and enjoy the role of head of the family. Recall: the head of the family - this is the one who does everything and pays for the weight.
"His wife is pregnant , and he does not even want to buy a baby monitor with a manual drive and remote control!" Naturally. You're a sane person. You can earn money, but you are not going to make inadequate purchases. Let and for the kid. But for some reason she is very offended. For your beloved, waiting for posterity, material values do not matter at all. She tests the breadwinner: but will he be able to provide and protect her chicks? Instinct of nesting requires action. And the best way to instill confidence into your mother is to open an account in the name of crumbs. For example, most species of birds have ritual feeding. When the female is poking (that is, ready to reproduce), she portrays herself as a small chick: she makes the appropriate sounds, pretends that she can not fly at all. And the male must necessarily bring something to her in the beak - a worm, a bug or a twig. And let him try not to do it! She immediately ceases to love him, because most pregnant women are preparing for childbirth. So you'll have to find out, daddy, what a pigeon in love is experiencing. Running after the twig!
Only without fanaticism
She is afraid to forget about the little things. That's why she needs another shoe rack and a bread maker. It is still necessary to inject some rational grain into the realization of the instinct. We clear the territory. From a cosmetic repair all the same do not get out. And if not you, then his wife will make it. And it is harmful to breathe paint and carry weights. But she will not take reasonable arguments. It is better to play an exciting game: imagine yourself a chick, that is, a toddler, for whom it is all, in fact, and is started. First, let our "karapuz" lie down on the floor - not cold? Not bad to warm. Let him crawl a little on all fours - not skvozit? If so, you will have to crock a gap. Secondly, determine where the danger is. Change the windows, set the armored door. Take away the dust collectors. Recycle the trash - finally and irrevocably. And there's nothing to make noise about the discarded audio cassettes. A pregnant woman is not up to relics. It is important for her to increase her living space.
Preparing the reserves
The future mother took it into my head to do conservation? Believe me, she will do it. And a pretty form for first-graders (to dissuade useless!), Too, will buy. Keep all checks as the apple of your eye! After giving birth, things will have to be returned.
Rejoice that your favorite is not a beaver who during the nesting season cuts trees and transforms any area beyond recognition. Your wife wants to bring romantic touches to the interior. Of course, after the birth, it will return to reality, and in a year or so new wallpaper will turn into an exhibition of children's drawings. But now she is not interested. It matters: to change something! It's good, if it's limited to ryushechkami. It's harder to explain why you can not take and move to the islands. Can you? Then go. Before delivery, of course!
Not depression, so aggression ...
Your wife is working out a sense of insecurity, trying to transform it into confidence, because most pregnant women are preparing for childbirth. Her baby is protected by the uterus. And my mother recreates the same reliable cocoon around herself. Help your wife! Okay with care! Do not be offended if the beloved behaves aggressively or, conversely, is sad. After all, the instinct of nesting awakens in her the main question: can she become a good mother? And each of her actions (from reading special literature to washing curtains) brings her closer to the answer: "Yes, I can!" ... There will come a day when the beloved will stop active activities and scramble into the corner. As a kitty, which soon becomes entangled. This means that the nesting is over.
The birth will begin
Converting your home into the most convenient and beautiful environment, do not forget that maternity leave is first and foremost a holiday! Have a hen party! There are three concepts.
Invite a girl to go shopping. They will help to bring bulky bags with blankets and caps. And they will choose as a gift to the crumb exactly what is needed.
Prepare sandwiches, juices, fruits and get out with the girls in the park. Take pictures, draw a spring nature. Later, through these photos and drawings, you can recharge the good mood.
Buy ready-made semi-finished products and put them on the table together with your friends. Look at the romantic film, dance to the lyrical melodies ...