In our time a large percentage of families come to a break in relations. Divorce is a strong source of stress. After the divorce, most people experience a spiritual and emotional crisis, so he just needs psychological support for divorce.
What happens to a person during stress?
After an unpleasant divorce, stress is experienced very hard. A person falls into a deep depression and it seems that all good things have ended on this. Appetite disappears, there comes a complete apathy. I do not want to communicate with anyone, it seems that it's better to hide from everyone so that nobody worries. The person, having closed from everyone, can spend a long time in depression. Therefore, even if a person does not want to see anyone, relatives and friends need to start "gently" contacting him, psychological support is simply necessary. After all, you can not drag out depression and you need to start a new stage in your life. Contact the therapist for emergency care. He will give useful advice for your case.
How to help psychologically survive a divorce for a loved one
It is necessary to gradually bring a person to the fact that divorce is only an unpleasant part of his life. Adjust it for a better life, give recommendations on how to take the first steps. This is very difficult for the suffering person, but convince him that he must do it.
Do not leave your loved one alone with your thoughts. Communicate, go to the cinema, theaters, restaurants, guests and other institutions. Explain to him that avoiding people of the opposite sex is not worth it, that he will certainly meet his fate. Do not let him hide, because enough already to worry. It is very useful in such situations to go out into the countryside: fishing, in the woods or at the dacha, because fresh air always invigorates. Watch cheerful TV shows together, read anecdotes. Try to find a new hobby: study knitting or embroidering, drawing or weaving from straw, etc. At first, he does not want to do this at all, but eventually interest will develop himself.
Help him to do his own appearance. Go shopping, buying new beautiful things. Suggest a new hairstyle, sign up for a massage. This will give him confidence, and self-confidence is the key to success in life.
Fitness, aerobics, gym, etc. will help get rid of negative energy. After all, through physical exertion, negative energy comes out, accordingly, the burden of stress is reset. If you do not like to practice in the hall, then sign up together in the section of basketball, football, or dancing. If you and he are not afraid, then you can offer to jump from a parachute.
When a person remains alone, then convince him to avoid unpleasant memories, but rather advise him to create a cozy atmosphere, prepare something very tasty, turn on the TV, wrap up and enjoy a pleasant viewing. This will help him relax.
What happens after a while after the divorce
After a divorce, a woman begins a stressful condition immediately, and a man much later. After a couple of years, men usually fall into depression. Women have already gone through this and it is interesting that after the research, women who survive a divorce get better mental and psychological health. Many are very glad that they have got rid of men's oppression, others have found a new happiness. Unfortunately, there are those who have spoiled their lives without coping with this stress, since they did not receive support from divorced people. These are those who fought their grief with the help of alcohol, drugs and other negative means.
Remember that the most important thing is to quickly get out of stress and start a new life, even if it is very difficult. You need psychological support during the divorce. In this period it is very necessary to communicate with people close to you, so do not interfere with it. But having survived the stress of divorce, you must draw the appropriate conclusions, work on your character and on yourself. This will help in the future build a strong new family.