In this difficult situation, especially if it's hard for you to part with your husband, you need to take yourself in hand and analyze the situation. Who was the initiator of your parting? If the husband, then you need to seriously think about why he did this, that you could not give him in your relationship, that he preferred parting and divorce. Perhaps he found another woman and goes to her? Think about it, think seriously about what was lacking in you.
Maybe you stopped paying attention to him, stopped courting yourself, maybe you have too much maternal instinct and the whole meaning of life you now see only in children? You will say that the children are sacred. But children should never become between a husband and wife. Children will grow up and go their own way, they will have their own lives, their families. It is very foolish to invest in children all of their tenderness, care and attention, absolutely leaving nothing to her husband.
Of course, he found a woman who will pay attention to him, and it is now difficult for you to part with your husband. It's difficult - it's softly said, only now you understand how much you love it and do not want to lose it. And what did you think before, when you were completely obsessed with children only? Lovely women, remember that to always be desired and interesting for her husband, you should always look beautiful, even at home, be brushed, with make-up and throw out your old coat at last. And God forbid that your husband saw you with a mask on his face! You should always be sexual for him, always find an excuse to seduce him, flirt with him, regardless of children, or a bunch of domestic things. If the wife will stand at the stove and cook dinner in a short sexy skirt, then the husband will not wait for dinner, but what will be after dinner, he will want you! How often do women forget that one should not like other people on the street, but their own husband. and then wonder why they leave their husbands.
If, however, you were the initiator of the divorce, and while it is difficult for you to part with your husband, then once again weigh all the pros and cons. Perhaps you have acted recklessly, under the influence of emotions. Or maybe you've been thinking about this for a long time and finally decided, but despite this, the parting is given to you with great difficulty. So you need to think again and again. To part simply, but there will be no return road. Establish relations after the divorce on your initiative will be very difficult, but most likely impossible. if you understand that you still love and without it you will be very hard, try to fix everything until it's too late.
Try to talk frankly with him. Only without mutual reproaches, quarrels. In the evening, stay alone and talk with him, calmly discuss all your problems in the relationship, explain to him why you decided to leave him, explain that you did it on emotions, but now you are ready to calmly discuss everything and find a way to save your family. Be as frank as possible and open in this conversation. Even if this does not help, you will know that you have tried to build relationships and will not blame yourself in the future.
What if it's difficult to part with your husband if a divorce is already inevitable, if he does not go to reconciliation? First of all, humble yourself with this situation. Enough to cry, enough to whine, complain to everyone around, seek support and comfort. If a divorce is unavoidable, and you perfectly understand that this is the end of your relationship, then you just need to accept this situation. It is necessary to stop rejecting reality, but to look at it with a meaningful glance. Yes, it's all terrible, but it's not the end of the world. He is not the only man in the whole world, and if you do not close yourself, you will be able to meet a man even better and build new relationships, taking into account your past mistakes and life experience. What to do if it's hard to part with your husband?
First of all, give yourself the opportunity to cry, suffer and "mourn" the broken relationship. To do this, give yourself three days in which you will be closed alone in the apartment, take the children to your relatives, turn off all the phones and the doorbell and all these three days you will suffer with all your might. See your joint photos, videos from your wedding, cuddle with his things, you can crawl on the floor and burst into tears, smearing them on the cheeks, you can not comb your hair, do not dye, do not dress, do not eat. Suffer with all your strength, theatrically suffer, as if you are playing the most important role in a tragic play and around are full of spectators who value you. Weep all tears until you have nothing to cry about. But most importantly - give yourself this for exactly three days!
All the time you must remember that for suffering you have only these three days, after which a new life begins, so do not miss the time, suffer plenty, then there will be no such opportunity. In the morning of the fourth day, start putting yourself in order. It will be very good if you make changes in your appearance - repaint your hair, make a new hairstyle. Be sure to make a face mask, take a bath with aromatic oils, do a manicure, go and buy yourself a new dress or at least a new underwear. And understand - a new life began, which will be much better than the past, which you already "mourned" under the full program, for the rest of your life forward.
Go back to your usual life, but in any case, do not shut yourself in, look for new acquaintances with men, become the initiator of these acquaintances, for example by posting on the Internet on the dating site your profile. Watch yourself, always look good in all circumstances. Go on dates with men. And love yourself! After all, the most important person in your life is yourself, and life is not given to us so that we suffer, but for that we enjoy it. And how we manage our lives depends on ourselves.