If you have already tried to make efforts to build a harmonious and strong family, but still believe that your marriage is best not to be, or there is another person with whom you really want to be together, perhaps the way out is to part.
Most divorces occur after a series of family quarrels and conflicts, and although one spouse usually does not want or is not ready to take this decisive step. But if, on the whole, relations proceed without special emotional outbursts, then the breakdown of relations is not so obvious. It is sometimes difficult for a woman to take responsibility for parting, since the initiative is punishable: she may be afraid of public condemnation, reproaches from her relatives (her and her ex-husband), or afraid to regret his action in the future, when there will be nobody but himself, some resort to provocative measures.
And how to push a man to divorce? After all, it happens that while a woman is hungry for change in her personal life, the man is happy with everything. Usually this is typical for too busy or weak-willed men, "mama's sons", whose satisfaction depends on comfort in the house, cleanliness, the presence of a hot dinner, and generally the usual order of things. What is surprising, among the bored husbands, there are some who are not even embarrassed by the apparent disdain for the wife of their conjugal "duties." It is generally accepted and it seems to be obvious that in order to provide a favorable environment for a man and receive his recognition and good relations, it is necessary to have respectful attitude, caring, love and affection, sexual attraction, kindness and a number of special women's secrets ... It would seem that it's easier ?
Do the opposite and get the opposite result - this is one of the reasons why you can get your husband to divorce! But if you try all the "black" methods of turning yourself off from a husband like giving up sex or cooking dinner, rough treatment and inadequate behavior, you have not achieved the desired result, think: what is the motivation of your spouse? Push him to a divorce with you, you can only compute the keys to manipulating it. What does he want? What does he want from his family? If he ceases to receive positive from family relationships, but does not want to change anything, it means that he is motivated by other motives, and which ones, still need to be understood.
The status of a family man suits him, perhaps he was instilled from childhood with the thought of the immorality of divorce, maybe he, like you, does not want to face a public assessment of his personal life, etc. In any case, the "underground" methods of persuading his point of view to the need for divorce will not yield results when we are dealing with a similar situation. Why go down to unworthy behavior, if your goal is to divorce, and not to spoil relations?
Talk to your husband. Find out who wants what. Tell him about your thoughts about later life. If he is categorically against or does not even want to listen to your arguments, state directly and categorically your desire. You are in any case entitled to file for divorce on your own initiative. But who knows, maybe your confessions will make completely different adjustments to the development of your future relationships and you change your mind ...