Now there are about 20% of families - this is a marriage between people of different nationalities. As for the creation of a family with Russian people, about 85% of such marriages are families in which the husband is a Dagestan and his wife is Russian. Dagestan women marry Russian men much less often: such marriages make up only 15% of all marriages with Russians.
If you are interested in the relationship between a Russian woman and a Dagestan man, or if you are planning to associate your life with a Dagestan, you will find some of our recommendations for what is worth preparing for and what is worth considering.
First, Dagestan is a multiethnic country. They live Avars, Kumyks, Russians, Tabasarans, Chechens, Nogais, Jews, Dargins, Lezgins, Laks, Azeris and other peoples. So, from the beginning, it's worth knowing what kind of people your elect belongs to, and studying the culture of this particular people.
Secondly, it is worth preparing for the fact that the groom's relatives may not be quite ready for inter-ethnic marriage. In Dagestan, marriages between peers are considered to be the strongest. Nationality, culture, social status, financial status, faith should be the same. Moreover, some Dagestanis are sure that it is worth creating a family with a member of a related clan or fellow villager. Strangers have to fight longer to be received by relatives of a future husband or wife from Dagestan.
In Dagestan, many marriages are still arranged by parents. So a marriage between a Russian woman and a Dagestan can ruin their plans. And although in recent years, morals have become more free, it is important to consider this feature and not be nervous if the parents will at first try to arrange the marriage of the son with the bride who they themselves like. If they see that this is impossible, most likely, they will not interfere with the choice of the son.
Some traditions of family development in Dagestan are gradually disappearing into the past, but others appear, unexpectedly for everyone. For example, theft of the bride is now rare. Brides steal only in the villages far from the cities, and even more often with her consent. But in recent years, the tradition of paying bride money began to develop.
If your elected Dagestan is the youngest son in the family, it is possible that you will have to wait a long time for the wedding. Relations between family members in Dagestan are built on the veneration of elders. And if the elder brothers of your fiancé are not yet married, then his family can ask to wait until they arrange their life. This does not mean that this family sees something seditious in the relationship between a Russian woman and a Dagestani man. This is just a tradition that is accepted in Dagestan.
If you want to connect fate with a Dagestan man, you generally need to be prepared to participate from time to time in performing different rituals and observing traditions.
For example, in Dagestan, as in Europe, it is customary to check feelings. Before the wedding, it is customary to conclude an engagement, which can last several years. And only if the young do not change their minds over these years, the wedding is going to be played and played.
Most weddings in Dagestan now do not differ from typical Russian weddings. This is a trip to the registry office, feast, songs and dances. But the pre-wedding rituals of a Russian woman can surprise.
For example, in some villages of Dagestan during the engagement, the groom's relatives can arrange a "women's holiday". They come to the house to the bride with full suitcases of gifts. Basically, it's jewelry and dresses, so that everyone's fun comes, when the bride and her friends have the opportunity to try on many different outfits without any shopping.
After the wedding, the wife of the Dagestan should show two main features: modesty and respect for the elders. Modern Dagestan women in large cities can wear pretty bold clothes and ornaments, but in villages and small towns it is still customary to walk in a long skirt or dress.
A wife must respect and obey her husband, but women's cunning is also expected of her. Unlike some Western cultures, in which manipulation by the wife is considered something indecent, Dagestanians are not only acceptable, but desirable. Do not squabble, not hysterics and not direct instructions should seek his wife Dagestan. In order to persuade her husband of the decision she needs, she must show cunning, charm and an uncommon mind.
Daghestanians, unlike many Russian men, devote much more time to raising children. Russian women may find this unusual. However, after the birth of a child in a family where the father is a Daghestanian and the mother is Russian, a woman can expect surprises. The word father for the child in the Dagestani family means a lot, and a woman may face the fact that over time her children will listen to their father much more than to herself.
This has its pluses and minuses. Plus is that male education forms a special type of adaptation to the world in the child - the ability to remake the world for themselves, their needs. Cons - if the role of the mother in the upbringing of children is minimized, then children can grow excessively demanding and aggressive. It is customary for Dagestanis that a woman herself is able to defend her rights to take part in the solution of important questions concerning children. It may seem unusual for a Russian woman to be unaccustomed to this: in Russian families, the wife has this right by default, and sometimes even the polar situation occurs when the father is not included in the upbringing of children until adolescence.
If you profess the ideology of "child-free", that is, do not want to have children, then probably you will not get married with the Dagestan. Because in their culture, the foundation of marriage is the birth and upbringing of children. A woman who does not want to do this will always be perceived as inferior, and quickly fall into an outcast.