How to get rid of parental care?

Often children perceive parental care for them as negative attitudes. Children believe that parents should not manipulate them, intruding unceremoniously into their personal lives. And parents are always interested in how you dressed today, what they ate, they give advice on how to correct mistakes made by you, in their opinion. It can be, even if you are already an adult, live independently and separately from them. Of course, parents do not like this behavior of their parents. But how to stop this nightmare? How to put an end to negative attitudes?


What are the reasons for the intervention?
The main reason is parental fear. They even think about the fact that the child has already grown up, do not want to. Very afraid to let go of your pet in adulthood. Can not imagine how important decisions will be made without them? How can your favorite child answer for your actions and your life?

What do parents fear?
They hourly think that something very unpleasant must happen to the child. Sometimes it turns out that the stick is very strongly bent. This is expressed in a significant limitation of the child's actions and actions. In the street you can get under the bus, in school they can be knocked down. If wages are high, then there is fraud. And for him can punish, met a beautiful girl - this is also bad. She will change their baby.

If in such a situation a person grows up, he is always filled with unnecessary phobias, which do not allow him to live fully. Incorrect behavior of parents in relation to their child grasps their egoism. They think about their peace, and not how the grown man will enter the world of people. And, as a rule, in adulthood, he enters a clogged and unadapted. It is difficult for him to make decisions independently, because his parents did not teach him.

Fear of unexpected decisions
Parents often fear the extraordinary revelations of their child. If all the engineers are in the family, and their child became addicted to music and wants to devote her life to him, then they give him bad thoughts about musicians. Over time, a little man begins to believe that musicians are addicts and alcoholics. So he gradually begins to forget his enthusiasm. And not the last role in this play the parents. But he could have become a famous musician, if not for the "right" advice of good parents.

How to prevent negative interference?
So, you are already an adult. The constant interference of relatives in your life begins to irritate you, prevents you from making seriously serious decisions. Take yourself in hand and tear the invisible thread that connects you to them. After all, the umbilical cord is cut off only because the baby no longer needs a mother's feeding. He begins to do it himself. Correctly explain it to the parents, thank for the custody and say that you do not need it anymore. It's time to go on life on your own.

Prepare your speech in advance, speak it, standing in front of the mirror. Choose the moment when parents are in good spirits, relaxed.

When talking, look into their eyes, the tone of speech should be calm, eliminate rude words. Before a responsible message, remind them of your eternal love. Say that they can always count on your help and attention. Think about how to prevent a serious scandal or conversation on elevated tones.

It can happen that parents will not back off from you without a fight. Abandon peaceful relations with them themselves. Yes, it will cause their resentment, disappointment in you, and maybe hatred. Do not despair. Time heals everything. They will eventually come to the conclusion that you are already an adult person, have the right to resolve issues on your own. Relations with parents will return to normal.

But it is possible to solve this problem in a different way, more effectively. Prove your actions and your rightful deeds, that you do not need parents' help anymore. They themselves will see that their tutelage is already hindering you. And calmly go away themselves.

Keep a warm relationship with your parents, try to understand them. If you do not have your children, then it will be very difficult. But when they appear, the actions of your parents towards you will be very clear. You will not be able to see anything strange in them.