These words seem too fantastic, romantic, naive, full of some kind of childlike love. But that's what we think, that's why we fall in love and marry, we make a choice. But over time, for some reason everyone leaves, and people go to divorce and betrayal. Why does this happen, what are the psychological causes of adultery and how to maintain the faithfulness of your spouse? Many women ask this question for thousands of years, but few of them give the right answers to these questions.
Treason, adultery, infidelity, betrayal, adultery - this concept was given different names, but they all share the same meaning. What is hidden under this concept? What are the psychological causes of adultery? We all understand, we represent its significance, but not all of them go deeper into its essence. And the concepts in different people are also not identical: for someone, betrayal is a voluntary sexual act, for others - a kiss or even a thought. In addition, the perception of this problem is different for each of the sexes. Men are more slopes of betrayal, and their reasons are different. In addition, the very fact of betrayal, they perceive morbid, when the change is physiological. For a woman, on the contrary, emotional betrayal, the husband's love for another woman seems much hotter and more unbearable. This is justified by the fact that women much more appreciate emotional and spiritual contact, and often because of his lack, lack of emotional support, they commit treason. Because of this - the girl changes more morally, and not physically. For men, adultery of a woman is a major blow to her own "I", so efforts to forgive his wife must be much more significant.
But, despite the bitterness of betrayal, they are still committed by both sexes. Although some believe that cheating - it's even useful and the rights to restrict a partner they do not have. So there was a new kind of relationship - free. A couple supposedly together and at the same time for them there is no restriction on the fidelity of the other partner. Such relations look like mutual consumption, besides, they do not give the feeling that we really need - to feel loved, the only, the other, the chosen.
The main reason for the psychological causes of adultery is the lack of love. When people do not fit together, their relationship does not represent anything, feelings burn, and you think about cheating with someone else. Involuntarily, just flew in my thoughts and seemed like a good idea. In this case, the desire to change the clear sign that the relationship should be finished. After all, when there is even no desire to take any measures to correct these relations, and sometimes you become more and more contemptuous, disgusted, ask yourself what is holding you next to this partner. In this case, the output will not be treason, as a need for feelings and relaxation, but new, lasting relationships.
For men, betrayal often lies in self-assertion, the need for new sexual adventures. A man can change for the sake of "sports interest" in order to prove to himself his importance, relevance, superiority in sex. Also, a man can change when he simply lacks something that, just, can give him a mistress.
From this it follows that treason is not always the reason that a man has stopped loving you. Just as a big mistake will be that a man will sooner or later pass from his wife to his mistress. In fact, he can still draw from it the need that he lacks in his wife, and at the same time promise her to divorce his wife and marry his mistress. But why he will not do so now, the man will explain different reasons, like: from the fact that he does not have time, many conflicts, you need to wait, the wife is sick ... And the longer he promises it to her, the greater the probability, that this does not happen. In fact, many men do not want to part and part with their role as husband. Mistress in most cases - a very temporary person.
Treason can happen simply out of boredom, grayness, unbelief. The most dangerous for men for this period is the so-called "middle age crisis", when a person commits a reassessment of his priorities, as well as evaluates all that he achieved during all these years. The cause of treason in this case may be the desire for something more.
Infidelity can manifest as a consequence of a person's mental problems. One of them, for example, may be his unpreparedness for a serious relationship. When such a man needs to move to a new level in the relationship, he begins to fear, in the mind develops a lot of internal conflicts, unbelief, the best way out seems to run to a mistress whose attitude to nothing obliges. Other internal problems may be poor self-esteem (treason as evidence of one's attractiveness and significance), a system of false stereotypes, prejudices.
So, treason indicates the presence of a problem in marital relations or in itself. In the end, if there is a desire to change, one should think: which of the problems you are now inherent in, how to solve this problem, how to minimize the risk and the possibility of betrayal. The same thing shakes your partner: solve together the problems of your marriage: help the partner cope with his uncertainty, cherish his pride, give him affection and love, let him not look for it outside your home.
Do not constantly be jealous of a partner and everywhere to look for a trick for treason - this you will only make worse: both to yourself and to your partner. Jealousy is, first of all, a sense of weakness and insecurity in their abilities.
Work on your confidence, eradicate the problems that create it, enjoy your marriage and remember that where there is love and harmony, there should be no reason for betrayal.