Sexual addiction, or addiction, is an obsessive sexual behavior that is subconsciously used to achieve pleasure and psychological comfort.
Characteristic signs of addiction
For sexual dependence, as a rule, the following signs are characteristic. This is an inability to control one's sexual desires. This is a person's behavior that leads to harmful consequences, but the self-dependent always denies this. With sexual dependence in a person, the frequency of sexual impulses increases in modern times. In other spheres of life, the dependent person becomes simply unmanageable. With prolonged sexual abstinence, symptoms of withdrawal symptoms are also possible.
However, it is worth noting that the type of sexual behavior depends only when there are elements of intrusiveness, systemativeness, as well as utter ignorance of possible consequences.
Sex addiction to men and women
People who suffer from sexual addiction receive the same things from sexual contacts as drug addicts - the most pleasant feelings for an addict. Such feelings overwhelm their sadness, fear, anxiety and anger, and are also considered a means to escape from the vain everyday life. However, the modern need to escape in reality becomes so strong that addicts are practically not at all capable of resisting it. And from time to time these people realize their dependence and try to get rid of it, but they can not do it themselves.
Most sexually addicted people are men. They have a sexual addiction in the unusually high need for sexual contacts. And sometimes sexual addiction to the shift goes to the unusual forms of sex, and can even violate the moral and physical security of other people. For example, leads to incest, violence, compulsive masturbation, etc.
In women, however, sexual dependence in most cases is expressed in random sexual intercourse or sexual intercourse with strangers. They enter into a wakeful relationship in order to increase their self-esteem, as well as to achieve a temporary euphoria. These women just need to win and obey the men, although in reality they hide under their sexual desire to understand their own worthlessness. The fact is that by entering into the next sexual intercourse, sexually independent ladies assert themselves and for a short time escape from loneliness and grief, because in most cases they remain deprived of communication and tenderness. It turns out a kind of vicious circle. These women seek spiritual closeness, but they do not know how to get it. As a result, I replace my spiritual emptiness with the feeling of power, euphoria from my sexual victories.
The most common beliefs, and negative, sexually dependent men in the confirmation of their insolvency and uselessness. Some men mistakenly consider sex their most important need in life, actually equating sex with love. Quite often, male addicts are subject to such a belief that no one will love and satisfy needs without a sexual drive. And it is precisely these beliefs that lead to conclusions that are erroneous: "I can be loved if they only experience sexual attraction to me."
Similar beliefs among women also. The most common belief is the fact of weakness and helplessness. And also persistent conviction in the inconsistency of a woman to keep a man beside herself, caused by a lonely solitude, lays down the statement: "I will not be abandoned if I learn to seduce." Sometimes, following the education or religious canons, the lady is convinced of the disgust and viciousness of her body. These subconscious beliefs lead in turn to the formation of sexual behavior of dependent people.
The basis of sexual dependence in psychoanalytic understanding is anxiety. Quite often, such anxiety starts taking on the sexual structure of the human personality: for example, the sexual needs of the feeling for early sexual traumatization, for overcoming the state of rage, as well as depression or anhedonia (irritation and displeasure).
The addictive syndrome has an insurmountable character, since anxiety and fear decrease with it. Therefore, one of the main tasks of a doctor-psychologist with a sexually dependent person is the task of teaching him to control his negative personal beliefs, which generate negative nervous excitement, and also work with gradually increasing anxiety with the help of the body's internal forces. As a rule, addicts on a visit to a specialist agrees, but prolonged psychotherapeutic work really helps to reduce the quantitative aspect of dependence. The dependent person should, first of all, learn to communicate with people, because the ability to communicate really helps to get rid of loneliness, create, and successfully, a new relationship or restore the old.
Many people, faced with addiction, try to "resolve" the conflict by force. And in the eventual cases, the action, as a rule, is equal to the counteraction, and all efforts simply remain in vain. Professional counseling, as well as psychological help to solve such problems will be simply necessary. If you decide to change your life and help yourself, this is a great step in the way of changes for the better.