The situation is aggravated and the realization that the mistress has come to everything ready, because she did not have to rent a flat with a man at a time when both were students, she missed the stage of darn socks when her husband earned a penny, did not make sandwiches for work at a time when the beloved did not have enough money for lunch in the dining room or cafe. She came with a man who had been brought up by her husband for years. And if she did not, she took a rather bold attempt to destroy the established relationship.
At first glance, such a woman is worthy of condemnation. But so she is happy and satisfied with the situation? And is it worth thinking that after achieving its goal, did it get what it really deserves? Maybe she should not be condemned, and such a woman has the right to sympathy?
Nobody will argue that not only family feasts bring the feeling of happiness that every woman needs. Joy should also manifest itself in small things. And here it turns out that it is not with a mistress that a man will discuss his son's successes in regular competitions, he will not come to share his joys and sorrows with her, it will not be with her to celebrate the New Year and other unremitting important holidays.
How to be in such a situation and what to do if you feel that you are in love with a married representative of a strong half-human? There are several possible options, which will be discussed later.
The ringed man is a taboo
It often happens that a man hides from his new acquaintance that he is married. But as soon as you have learned the bitter truth, do not let develop relationships, chop them in the bud, leaving for such a man only the role of a friend or colleague. But sometimes it's easier to say than to do and not one woman has fallen into such a trap, believing that flirting or one-time sex will not threaten them.
It is such a carefree approach that leads to serious problems: a woman falls in love with a married man, understands that her feelings are real, but she does not count on reciprocity, let alone building a family.
In order not to get on the net, it's best to immediately decide for yourself that in any, even the most harmless games do not get involved. If you can not restrain yourself when you see a loved one, it is better to avoid such situations in which your ways intersect. And of course, no lask, kisses and other tenderness. The earlier this decision is made, the faster it will be to get rid of dependence.
We jump out of the rushing train
You got involved in a relationship with the "zhenatik", they knew that even though you sometimes enjoy, yet the realization that the situation is unstable acts depressingly. A survey conducted by psychologists showed that two to three months is enough to determine a man and find out if he is ready to leave the family. If you understand that the lover is satisfied with the situation in which he has both a wife and a lover, for the couple of months allocated to you, you simply will not have time to become attached to a person, that the break will bring a minimum of suffering.
Men are even more categorical in this situation: they are almost ready at the moment of the first meeting to determine for themselves, a woman can become a wife in the future. The task of the same mistress in this case is to unravel the intentions of the man.
Practice shows that if you are not ready to spend all your life in your mistresses, it will be less painful to gather once by force and stop the relationships that have become too tiring. Sometimes it will have to be tough enough, because sometimes men do not want to just give up and are ready to fight for a good lover.
Do you love? Fight!
Women who seriously believe that the lover's wife is seated by a mugger wife, that he has long forgotten what sex is with his wife, that the children are against him and yet the wife does not let him go away, but for divorce you will have to pay all the property, first thing you need to realize, that the man, most likely, is lying. If you are ready to be patient, you can start fighting for your own happiness.
Psychologists in this case recommend not to be too optimistic about the favorable outcome, but still those wishing to join the battle for the loved ones will be able to create the most comfortable atmosphere in the house, to rejoice at the slightest desire of the man to at least help in some way, gratefully accept even the small gifts like a banal box of sweets. It is also worthwhile to avoid any talk about a legitimate spouse, so that he does not have the desire to equal you. Have to sweat in bed. And in the end you will have to play a scene in which, tragically breaking your hands, you will put forward your favorite ultimatum: come with things for a week or more do not come at all. Understand that in case of a positive outcome, you will become his wife. And this is the situation to which not every mistress strives.
Humility and once again humility
Deciding to become a mistress, you must clearly recognize that only in isolated cases, men are resolved to abandon the legitimate family. Most often a mistress, resigned to her status, remains a lifetime of second roles, because the lion's share of his time, the man pays all the same family and work.
In order to maintain their mental health, a woman who agreed to the role of a lover, should be able to fill the free time. It is important that in her life there was an interesting work, friends, friends and, possibly, another man. In addition, do not wait for a married man like a god, let him make his meetings with you. Remember that the representatives of the stronger sex consider an ideal woman to be a muse who lives on joy and is able to recharge the energy of others.
It also happens that a woman suits everything in the current situation. Often, ladies who have been married and have children, but do not want to bind themselves with family ties repeatedly, start lovers. For them, a lover is a source of positive emotions, material support, but no more.
Whatever it was, if the relationship turned into a painful obligation, it's time to review them and, possibly, to break. And the sooner this gap occurs, the easier it will be to survive a complex life situation.