These questions worry dozens, thousands or even millions of girls, girls, women all over the world.
She was one of them. It all started like everyone else, according to the traditional banal script: First there was love ... And not just love, but "LOVE" with a capital letter. The one about which they compose verses and write in books. A great, blissful feeling that never seemed to disappear. A feeling that gives fireworks of emotions and sweet experiences. And it seemed that he was that unique and unique, beloved guy, whom he had been looking for so long and had finally found. And now a boring, everyday life should turn into a fairy tale ...
But, unfortunately, everything is not so simple. With the passage of time, everything changed. The tale ceased to be so colorful, the pictures faded, and the idea arose that a happy-end would not be ...
One day, while sitting outside the window on a quiet winter evening, she flipped through pages of her past and remembered with tears in her eyes how it all began: She looked with a loving glance at the boy and listened admiringly to every word of it. She showered him with compliments, and there was no falsity in her words. She sincerely considered him the best, the most beautiful and the most affectionate. And every minute spent with a loved one seemed like an eternity, and I wished that these relations never collapsed. And this love was not one-sided. And every act, even the smallest, never remained unanswered. Her favorite guy idolized her.
Where has all this disappeared? And what's left? There are no long, sincere conversations, there is no previous mutual understanding and mutual trust. There are no more pleasant surprises, unplanned love scenes and a home was deprived of the same comfort. His whole life was a mystery to her, the solution of which lies behind a screen of indifference.
Relations with your beloved fell apart. And it was impossible to wait, otherwise it would be too late to correct something later. So many questions disturbed her, and there was so little time to make decisions ...
You should deal with all the issues in order. And so, the relationship collapsed, and the last months of life flew into the tartaras. But why did everything come together so? What was done wrong earlier? Perhaps, feelings have cooled down, love has passed, and love and at all was not? If before the perception of the guy was distorted by some illusions, and now, having recognized you in reality, he wants to escape, maybe you should not hold him? After all, no one is worth a girl's tears and every girl needs a loyal, reliable guy, not a critic. Let's draw a conclusion: probably, relations with the beloved guy are falling apart just because he did not love enough, or not enough to love. Do not confuse love with affection and you need to decide for yourself once and for all, whether the guy is worthy of your suffering and whether you want to return everything.
If the relationship is very important, and you want to save them, we will deal with another question: What if the relationship with a loved one is broken?
Her situation was that: she wanted to keep a relationship with a guy, bring everything back to its original place, and she did everything right:
First of all, she needed to calm down, relax. In such moments it is difficult enough to be alone, so it's best to turn to a friend, a psychologist, a priest ... Yes to anyone! Only to pronounce or cry out all that is painful. Now that she has found peace, it's time to sort out yourself, to analyze the situation, to find mistakes. We must understand that the past can not be changed. You just need to forget it (even if it's difficult), leave in the past thoughts about how recently the relationship with the guy she loved so much has collapsed, turn the page and start all over again.
And, the new present, of course, should be better than before ...
To begin with, she carefully studied herself and realized what had changed in her. Self-esteem has disappeared, or its level has significantly decreased. Then she began to rethink why and for what merit she loves him so much. (Perhaps such actions seem to be just self-flagellation, but it has been verified experimentally that the guys want love with those who know how to understand themselves, understand their mistakes and skillfully control them.) The goal was the following: to change and become just such, self-confident and all-controlling girl. In order for everything to work out as intended, she needed a source of positive. Previously, they were a guy, but now they can become something easy and affordable (food, cosmetics, clothes, entertainment), which gives pleasure in all its manifestations. In general, she needed to fill her life with light and joy, find pleasure in everything that surrounds.
And at the moment when she was busy with her own happiness and enjoyment of life, the previous relationship was back. The favorite guy realized how sincerely he loves her. She loves her laughter when she is in a good mood, loves her tears, if they are happy, and is afraid that she will give her positive emotions to someone else. He realized how terrible it was to be alone and lose love. To save it, you need to sacrifice something, do something, make tough decisions, take risks. After all, as one great said:
"Any relationship is as thin as glass, but we begin to understand it only when we lose this relationship. Up to this point, we see and feel that the relationship is becoming strained and their collapse is near. But often we continue to do nothing. "But in vain! It is inaction that leads to failure.