The fact that you do not yet have your own home should not affect the quality of your sexual life. Let's look at how to arrange healthy sex, regardless of where you are.
In our younger years, we do not particularly attach importance to the place and conditions. We are constantly creative, invent something to ask Mother to stay at home and find a place where you can retire with your companion to the peak of a noisy and cheerful party. So why at a more mature age we can not do this? Why do we need an apartment with no relatives and children, with a large space and a double bed?
In fact, there is a way out, these are just stereotypes. You just need a little fantasy, remember how it was in your youth - and your sex life will boil like in the past.
Sex in the house of the ugly
Ourselves quite often in one apartment huddles several generations. Everyone has their own reasons for this - it can be the lack of money to buy your house or even rent any dwelling, the need to live somewhere while showing your house is being repaired and so on. What inconveniences and problems can overtake you in this situation? Some complain that in their apartment sex life was unhappy, and in the parents' home in general became more like a silent movie - no unnecessary movements and sounds. Most people in this situation feel constrained, can not relax, because they know that behind the wall is sleeping mom and dad. Other factors that affect intimate life include the fear that you will be caught at the most crucial moment, and that you need to restrain yourself in movements and sounds.
Of course, there is a way out. We all know that the situation itself is not so terrible as our relation to it. This suggests that you need to get rid of false modesty and, despite everything, take care of your own family and its well-being, and not about what thoughts will overcome other people. Well, of course, it's worth remembering about the simplest rules of decency.
- First, you need to take care that the door to the room can be closed. Therefore, you need a lock, or an elementary heck. If you are fond of unusual sex and priintimnyh pleasures use some specific attributes, then they also do not keep them in a conspicuous place, it is better to hide them, if you do not want your parents to see it.
- Relatives and parents who live by you do not need to know what you are doing in your castle. If you are confused by the creaking of the bed, then get a new one or just lower the mattress on the floor with the mat. Soft kovertozhe can turn into a great place at night, a springboard. Remember the old film "12 chairs", where the heroes with the help of a primus stove tried to muffle the sounds of kisses. Do not improve their tricks, do not disguise with the help of the music or loudly turned on TV. Surely at school you attended physics lessons and you know that it makes noise where they listen. Therefore, it will be better if you provide a degenerating room with all sorts of disks with movies and plug in a television. "Attach" the parents to some interesting series, and at this time, take care of a very important matter, for which it was all arranged.
- Many people are engaged in "this" in the shower, while telling the parents: "I'll go back my back." Water is a great way to muffle all sounds - it's tested. Moreover, parents do not need to know where and why you went. They are adults, they understand everything.
- Buy parents tickets to the theater or try to surrender to love when they leave for the country. Try to rebuild your work graphically in such a way that you can come home for lunch and leave the sutra for work later than your parents.
- In summer all the nature is at your disposal. You can arrange a romantic adventure in the woods, rzhanopolye, in the hayloft, just on a clearing in the open air and so on. Dissolve the sexual life of fantasy. By the way, do you know that the environment constantly adds us to sexual energy? This explains the fact that intimate closeness in the fresh air is still in our memory for a long time.
- If you connect the creative imagination, then you will have a bunch of different places where you can retire to a loved person. The most important thing is that there is a friendly atmosphere in the house, then you will not feel any restrictions in the space of possessions. Everyone knows this saying: "Take it, do not be offended!".
In a one-room apartment with a child
The young couple in the one-room apartment feels free and independent, only not with their parents. But what if the family soon increases? Many young parents begin to immediately ask: "If a child sleeps in the same room with us, then the last point will be able to have sex and whether it is decent at all?" What to do when the baby grows up and we can not sleep together in the same room?
And in this situation again there is a way out. Many couples who became parents in Soviet times had similar situations. Nothing happened to anyone, they are alive and everything is normal with the psyche. Just modern children know much more about intimacy, and in general your seven-year-old child probably will not believe that you are doing sports.
- There are families who have to live in the same room as two children. Many people decided this question by using a simple partition. If you do not have the opportunity to change the room so, then it is necessary to change the "dislocation". Do not forget that in each apartment there is a kitchen and a bathroom. You will surely agree that making love all the time in bed is boring!
- On weekends and holidays it is possible to take children to grandparents who are waiting for their grandchildren to visit. In summer, it is possible to organize a bed on a balcony or to put a folding sofa in the kitchen. Children are very curious, therefore they will stealthily sneak there to stay away from you or just to read some fascinating book.
- To intimate intimacy occurred without unnecessary sounds, it is very important to choose the right position. In your situation, it is advisable to forget about the posandrader and the missionary. Lie down facing each other. Only your partner should move, moreover, the shocks should be very slow. Or give preference to the position of the "spoon": lie alone on the side, you turn your back to the hilt and arch your lower back.
- You can also prepare the music in advance, so that later there will not be any misunderstanding. Be not ashamed to show tender feelings towards each other, even when there is a child in the room. Remember that now at the age of 5 years in the bookstores you can find special encyclopedias of a sexual nature that are written by child psychologists. You can buy one for your child and look at this book together, try not to be shy when talking with crumbs on open topics. And if suddenly the growing up child catches you behind an intimate affinity, you will not have to think up all sorts of excuses and explain what it is.
As a rule, the problem is not that the conditions are not the same, the problem is rooted in our head. If you can not cope with the fact that you have lost sexual attraction to a partner, if there is a child behind the wall, or in the room, then turn to a specialist: a sexologist or a family psychologist.