The reasons for these conflicts of interest between him and her can be absolutely any details of their relationship: from under-salted pilaf, to suspicion of treason. Scientists argue that quarrels provoke stress in both participants, which affects each of them in different ways. So, for a woman a quarrel is more a channel for the emergence of negative emotions, a way of detente and, accordingly, a useful action. For a man, on the contrary, a scandal becomes a prerequisite for serious diseases and can lead to a real problem. And this opposition is connected with the peculiarities of the behavior of a man during a quarrel.
So what is the position in the scandal most often takes a strong sex?
It turns out that most men give preference to expectant tactics in a quarrel. For 100 scandals only in 15 they will really show violent emotions or give a way out of their natural aggressiveness. This is due to the man's understanding of his original nature: despite the widespread belief that he likes to take precedence over his chosen one not psychologically, but physically, any man is afraid to cause his woman physical harm.
There are, of course, exceptions - men who are confident that a woman's violent conviction provides the maximum mutual understanding in the family. But there are few such men and, as a rule, it is their unwarranted aggression that causes a quarrel. And, frightened by the prospect of physical harm in such a scandal, a woman with such a man tries to reduce all the disagreements to a minimum, yielding to him in almost everything and gradually accumulating the courage to flee to a safe world of loneliness sooner or later.
Psychologically healthy man in the literal sense of the word is afraid of himself and his uncontrollable reaction to the painful remarks of his chosen one in the process of quarrel. Therefore, he rushes for a walk or rushes to the company of friends immediately, as soon as he notices in the behavior of his lover the first signs of a ripening scandal. Provided that if he does not manage to escape from a quarrel, he certainly takes a defensive stand, trying to abstract from what is happening. And if a woman still manages to get him out of balance, he urgently searches for himself a channel for the emergence of aggressive manifestations. They often become things that fall under the man's arm. From here - and the broken walls, and the mobile phone, smashed on the floor, and the torn latch on the doors to the kitchen.
Another feature of the behavior of a man during quarrels is a reluctance to talk.
As practice shows, out of all that has been said during the scandal, 80% is spoken by a woman and only by 20% by her opponent. Nevertheless, often in this matter, a woman and a man change places: when the initiator of a stormy analysis of the situation is he, and not she. And this happens in about 36 quarrels per hundred. In this case, the man speaks more, and the loudness of his phrases depends on the degree of his irritation. Most men, it turns out, speak less quietly the more they get angry. And as the extinction in them, their ardor rises. If a man switches to a particularly high tone, then this is a sure sign of an early end to the quarrel: he will either run away for a walk, or just slam in the next room, ending the scandal in her half-word.
In addition, the man, despite his unstable emotional state, is trying to keep the situation under control in a quarrel. Which somewhat dissipates his attention to what has been said. On the one hand, this is for the second side - the moment is positive: the words hurt a man much more than a woman and the strong sex differs the most prolonged. Accordingly, the less bitter words, in the fuse of those thrown at him, he will hear, the more likely will be the chances of restoring harmony in the couple's relationship. On the other hand, it is this absent-mindedness that irritates women most of all. Because of her, then a man has to repeat many times that it was not only hurtful and painful, but he was followed by an instant apology, with the reservation that these words were said in the fuse and that there was absolutely no truth in it.
And finally.
The desire to keep everything under control even during a quarrel, or rather - especially in the period of finding out the relationship - is dictated by the man's reluctance to publicly demonstrate his problems publicly. A woman in a state of passion does not care at all about what her neighbors will think about her and her family life: most important for her is her feelings at this particular moment. But for a man, the public's opinion of his well-being is of great importance. Hence the well-known male habit of showing off the whole area to a brand new car and completely concealing troubles and strife in the family. And the main problem of any quarrel between spouses - the lack of understanding of each other's priorities - is also partly provoked by this masculine quality. A woman tries to get a man to express emotionally, experience about their further situation, understanding of her stressful condition and compassion. A man is not ready to listen to the claims and statements of a woman until she does not lower her voice to a minimum.
Usually the behavior of a man during a quarrel remains low-key. This is what causes the serious consequences of the scandals for him. Restraining the emotions bursting outward, he directs the flow of negative energy not inward, but inward. Accordingly, he does not find the way out of stressful experiences, the psychological tension in him accumulates, and as a result he influences his health state or passes into aggressive attacks on friends or casual counter-people, something that did not please him. According to statistics, the participation of men in casual fights in 72% of cases occurs just after his family scandal broke out between him and his wife.