In fact, each person in his nature loves in his own way, with his own love. From this it follows that the love of each single pair is unique, because they unite two different types of love, creating their own unique "subspecies". Nevertheless, it is possible to identify the main characteristic features of love, as well as several typical forms of manifestation of this feeling.
How is love manifested?
Love for the opposite sex is manifested as internal changes in the body of a loving person, and by external manifestations in the form of increased care, attentiveness to a partner. As a rule, all manifestations of love are divided into three large groups:
- Verbal (external) manifestations of love - this group includes verbal (verbal) manifestations of love in the form of affectionate appeals and wishes, various kinds of praise, verbal expression of feelings ("missed", words about love), harmonious course of conversation on general interesting topics.
- A group of extra-verbal expressions of love are manifestations of love in the form of certain actions and includes gifts for the beloved person, physical contact (hugs, kisses, smile, intimate relations, etc.), etc.
- Mixed manifestations of love, which include the first two forms of manifestation - help in anything, promises and their fulfillment, visits to friends of a loved one, joint implementation of any cases.
In addition, love is also manifested by changes in the inner state of man. This is due to changes in the hormonal background in the body. The first reaction to love and love is the adrenal glands: they release into the body a whole mixture of hormones (cortisol, adrenaline and norepinephrine). The same, in turn, cause a surge of emotions of falling in love, not always pleasant. Cortisol gives the body a turbulent rhythm of energy, norepinephrine "gives" narcotic sensations of pleasure and sexual arousal, but the rapid heartbeat, increased sweating, rapid breathing and active blood flow causes adrenaline.
As a rule, all of the above endocrine changes are accompanied during love and from the physiological point of view contribute to the main human mission - the extension of the genus. If people could reach the highest form of manifestation of feelings - love, then the surge of hormones decreases. An interesting fact: love has sublime manifestations (fidelity, affection, and a kindred union of souls); all these feelings are generated by the "hormones of monogamy" - vasopressin and oxytocin. It is known that oxytocin is produced during childbirth and breastfeeding, and vasopressin is produced in men during sexual arousal. Thanks to these hormones, and there is such an exalted feeling as love.
Contradictory character
Why does love have such a contradictory character? Today, a man tells you that he loves, and tomorrow he spends the night already on the other. Yes, and it's not always easy to understand your feelings ...
First, all the culprits are the same hormones. The basic instinct works here like a watch. On the other hand, there are people, like animals, not born for monogamous relations. Constant change of partner, eternal search - their meaning of life. Only then these people often do not find sincere and sexual comfort. Often they are told about them: "They themselves do not know what they want."
Some in their relations are guided by prudence and mutual benefit. It connects already "the power of reason," a person is looking for someone with whom he will be financially comfortable in life. This is where the underwater stones lie. People who married from considerations of mutual benefit, most often "go to the left" and hate their chosen ones.
When looking for a partner, a woman, and a man, more often (even without realizing this) is guided by external characteristics. This is understandable: to extend the genus, we choose the best partner for their physical data, which can give a good healthy offspring. Most often, these men are polygamous. For Mother Nature, it is quite a profitable fact: a man should give as much as possible high-quality offspring, but for a woman - it is a total disappointment in men and in life.
Soul mates
The truth of life is good: "Choose for yourself such people with whom you have and will have something to talk about, in the future it will come in handy."
If a man and a woman have a common circle of activities, the same level of education and intelligence, then there will be no imbalance in mutual understanding. Even it will be possible to study together foreign languages, learn new sciences and read similar books.
One sex will not be full, and if life is not enough "for the soul", then the relationship sooner or later will give a crack. Although, it is important to weigh the pros and cons and choose what is closer to you.
And what about sex?
At the same time, without harmony in intimate relationships, there will be no normal relations as such. Without a normal sexual attraction to each other, and as a result, without normal good sex there will be no ideal relationship. If something is wrong in the intima, then, perhaps, the woman will still suffer, but the man is unlikely. Therefore, it is worth choosing a partner and a physiological principle.
Are there ideal relationships?
It turns out that for a perfect relationship, there must be good sex and a sincere conversation. Only here often it turns out nestykovochka: if it is good in bed, it is not very good in mutual understanding, and vice versa. And what is the reason? Not in the influence of the same hormones? Often, in the beginning, there is a mutual attraction, ardor, passion, sex, and then relationships, if any. On the other hand, this does not mean that purely platonic relations in the future will be doomed to success.
Nevertheless, there is still an ideal relationship. If such relationships have developed, then they will not be comprehended by the contradictory nature of love, and the forms of its manifestation will be the most inoffensive. Simply for such a relationship, there is still need for mutual respect, understanding, and, most importantly, of course, love! ..