But to be alone with God is doubly responsible. In our hours, the wedding was simply pomposity. The rite became some kind of public show, once again to walk and drink. But it is worthwhile to know that such a step should not become a tribute to fashion, but a deliberate, measured, mutual decision.
The church does not welcome and condemn the divorce, but there is a condescension towards human infirmity. The procedure for dethronement after divorce and permission to enter into another marriage can only be performed by the bishop. In order to appeal to the bishop with a request to discredit and remove the blessing, it is necessary to have a divorce document with you and that there are no canonical obstacles to entering into a new marriage. But in Orthodoxy there is also a restriction on the secondary church marriage - no more than three marriages.
There is a list of motivations for carrying out debunking after a divorce. It is very big. In 1918, the Cathedral of the Russian Orthodox Church enumerated this list.
The first and most important reason for the church divorce, as recorded in the Gospel, is the adultery of one of the spouses. If one of the parties of marriage has departed from Orthodoxy, changed the faith of confession. The entry of any of the spouses into a second marriage. A good reason for debunking is not the ability to live together, because of self-mutilation of one of the spouses. Similarly, the disease with syphilis or leprosy gives the right to dissolve church marriage, vices that are considered unnatural if a person is missing and is wanted for a long time. Another of the reasons for debunking, which nowadays occurs more often, is an encroachment on the health and life of one of the spouses and children. Collaboration and snohachkie, too, will turn to the bishop. Similarly, if one of the spouses is terminally ill is mentally ill, can not be responsible for their actions.
This list of motives is valid even today. But in 2000 this list was supplemented with some other reasons. These are the most common phenomena in our life. The procedure of debunking is possible, if one of the spouses is sick with AIDS, this disease is witnessed by the doctors. Another reason for the dissolution of church marriage is the illness of one member of the family with drug addiction and alcoholism. To do this, you need to provide medical advice, only on this basis you can get the dissolution of this marriage. Also for the removal of the blessing, there is another reason, in my opinion, the most disgusting and terrible, if a woman makes an abortion with the disagreement of the second half. Exceptions are permissible if an abortion is necessary for medical reasons or pregnancy is a threat to the life of a woman.
As such, "the procedure of debunking after a divorce" does not exist. The process of dissolving church marriage is that you will be given permission and blessing for a second marriage. But at the same time, marriage must be officially registered with state bodies. Only in this case you will be able to marry a second time. Civil marriage in the Orthodox ethics is considered cohabitation and fornication, it is considered a sin - adultery, therefore such marriages do not crown. Intimate relationships in unmarried marriage - this is a very big sin.
If you nevertheless decided to legalize your relationship a second time and came to a common decision to appear before God for the connection of your souls, you should ask to debunk the first marriage to the local Diocesan administration and you will be prompted how to properly compile and write a petition to the bishop. It is compulsory to have a certificate of marriage in the first marriage, a document on the dissolution of the first marriage and that a new one has been concluded. Visiting the church after the divorce of ex-spouses is not considered mandatory. One of the spouses may file a debunkment if it has the above reasons.
Before deciding on the wedding, remember that this is a sacrament, which must be carried through all of life without a drop of regret. Stronger than the union in heaven no one has yet come up with! You are now responsible not only to each other, but to God. Therefore, the attitude to this rite must be very serious. In my opinion, it is not necessary after painting in the state. bodies immediately flee to the church and pay tribute to the tradition. Maybe it's worth living a few years in a legitimate marriage, and eventually, realizing that in the whole world it's your second half and you are ready to take responsibility for your loved one and future children. Think about this serious step! The family should be Faith, Trust and Love!