Indian yogis claim that just thinking about something negative, we are already letting it into our lives, we are already giving the right to evil and fear to exist in us, destroying our inner light, knocking us off the true path. You do not have to hide or run away from negative and unpleasant thoughts, you need to learn to forbid them to visit you.
There are several ways to cope with the heavy thoughts that have fallen on you. The easiest way to think about something else is positive, pleasant, easy. If this does not work, you can resort to the next exercise.
Psychologists have established that with many life problems can be fought, creating in his head special visual images. The best visual image for finding peace and getting rid of negative emotions is a combination of white color and water. To calm down, you need to sit down, completely relax, regain your breath, close your eyes and imagine white cool water (the water must be white, milky, and not transparent). Feel the whole body, as gradually the water covers you entirely with its pleasant coolness, hiding under itself all your body from the top of the head to the tips of your toes. Enjoy this wonderful sensation of 30 seconds, no more. Then imagine how this water slowly flows to the floor in a special funnel (you should clearly see this funnel), and with your water all your unpleasant thoughts that so tormented you also leave.
There is another very common and very effective psychotechnique, which helps to get rid of all that extra and disturbing things that have accumulated in your head. You should not make an attic from your brain for unnecessary things - do a general cleaning there. Imagine that all your wrong thoughts are things, for example empty boxes, crumpled candy wrappers or legless chairs. From such items there is no use - one harm. Here, and throw them with feeling or pour gasoline and burn. Naturally, all this should happen in your imagination, but you have to convince yourself that these are not just images, but unpleasant thoughts. To facilitate the process of presenting the necessary images, you can draw a problem on a piece of paper, and then joyfully tear the drawing to shreds.
For those who do not have time to create strange pictures in their heads, for those who do not believe in all sorts of psychological quirks, there is another way to deal with stress and negativity. We need to do business. It is best to engage in some kind of creativity, by completely dragging all your attention to yourself and making you concentrate, gathering together so that there will simply not be room for other thoughts.
Good in such cases, and heavy physical work or long-term employment in the gym. This method is especially effective in case you are offended or angry with someone. Then you should start cleaning the house: wash all the dishes, wipe the dust from the highest cabinets, transplant the flowers. Or go to a fitness club and there with pleasure to beat a boxing pear or a sparring partner in karate. In the end, if your sports subscription is over, and the house is already shiny from the ideal order, break something: a cup, a plate, a Chinese vase ... enough power and desire. So you throw out all the accumulated negative energy without serious consequences for yourself and others.
Negotiate and express yourself - it has long been proven that a correctly formulated problem is already half solved. Gather girlfriends at home or in some cozy cafe and post them all your unpleasant thoughts, doubts, what you do not give rest, let them listen to you. Take note of their advice and comments is not necessary. If the problem is too personal or you have reasons to not trust your friends, write an extensive post on the forum or blog. On the Internet, the degree of detachment from the context is greater, especially if you write on a new site for you. For a completely private one, a personal diary or a piece of paper, temporarily become one. Detail and accurately describe the current situation to him, and then hide it written somewhere or destroy it. Of course, you can still go to a psychotherapist, but we have not yet taken it very much, and the services of a professional listener are very worthwhile.
Well, finally, a typically feminine way to get rid of all the annoying nonsense - shopping. Have fun and taste the shopping, buy stuff, and then go to the hairdresser - cut your hair, color, go through cosmetic procedures or just adjust the manicure. And in your renewed head, the old despondency simply will not survive, because you know how to calm down if negative thoughts have arisen!