Let's try to analyze the situation from life.
"He seems to be getting cold towards me after a date!" This behavior of a man is explained by the fact that in a normal family environment he does not have enough sex. This deficiency he makes up with the help of you. To prove this, you need to compare the number of calls and SMS messages from your chosen one to the meeting and the day after the meeting. After a meeting, usually bright and full of romanticism, messages are replaced by meager everyday phrases, or even completely absent. Such a partner wants to meet you only when he wants and surely he does not feel to you. You are just another entertainment for him in a boring, ordinary life.
His plans for a stable future . Your lover on the next vacation planned a tourist trip to foreign countries, but for some reason only with his family. So, he does not think the future without her, and you do not have a place in it.
Oh, how taciturn he is! Your affectionate words and speeches that you are trying to convey to your loved one, he as if does not hear or ignores at all. Of course, any woman wants to hear from a man that she is the most beautiful and tender, but usually it's dry phrases in the form "For now, dear, everything was fine." Perhaps, affectionate speeches are hidden from you in his soul, but the uncertainty that he really loves you more than his family scares him. He perfectly understands that if he allows himself to admit that he loves you more, then you will certainly pressure him, forcing him to leave his family for you. To this turn of events he is absolutely not ready.
"He does not care where I am ." Surely, you noticed how during sex your partner uses a lot of caring to you phrases: "Do you like it or that? When is it better and where is better? "But in ordinary life, he is not very interested in your life, just does not consider it necessary to waste time on empty conversations. He does not care much about your health, if you are sick or will give yourself a cheap SMS message, knowing that you had a very difficult day.
"I'm his big secret . " How would you like to spend an evening in a restaurant or go to the movies. But for some reason, whenever you invite him to a society, he finds an excuse. It would seem that there is nothing terrible, if you walk along the streets of the city. But your chosen one continues to ignore your requests to spend time outside your home. So, this is an excuse to think how much you are dear to him.
His interest in you is unstable . His visits to you occur at a certain periodicity. That you spend together almost every day, then suddenly it disappears for a long period of time. The reason lies in his relationship with his wife. When their relationship is spoiled, they seek consolation in you. But if everything is in harmony with the wife, then at this moment he does not think about you and there can not be a divorce.
How long have you been together? Three months, a year or a quarter of a century? Studies by psychologists show that there are two periods of time after which a man decides that it is necessary to break off relations with his mistress. This is 3 months and 1 year. In the first 3 months, the man only in that case decides to leave his wife to his mistress, if the family relationship is far from ideal. However, if his family is more relaxed, then your romance can drag on, but only for a year. Nevertheless, on vacation he leaves with his family, and not with you. So, it's time for you to break off relations with this person, because next year there will be the same course of events.
All this is an occasion to ponder whether it is worth continuing relations with a person who does not think of life without his family. After all, you will simply lose your youth, not gaining anything. In life, there are cases when families disintegrated when a man went to his mistress. Simply, these marriages were initially programmed to fail due to some compelling reasons. A family is a union of two loving people who once made an informed choice to spend the rest of their lives together!