The rules of parting: how to do it painlessly?

Termination of relations is always difficult. One way or another, this is a whole page in life, and abandoning it along with all the existing habits is not easy. But the next stage promises new opportunities, so it's so important not to mar the painful parting.


First of all, you need to admit to yourself that once you were happy together. Reproaches and resentments will lead to nothing, just be grateful to each other for everything that once was with you. Keep good memories, and then in the memory of the partner you will also remain in a positive light. There was no common future - well, that does not mean that one of you is bad.

So the fairy tale is over

Magic sometimes ends - the one with whom you felt like a princess, after a while was far from a prince. But where did all its minuses come from? The answer is simple - they always existed, they simply remained unnoticed during the time of falling in love.

It happens, and vice versa - a person has not changed at all, but the relationship is not the same as before. In this case, it is worthwhile to think carefully about the causes of the gap - after parting, good memories can lead to useless regrets. Yes, and others often rush to reproach you for parting, because from the side of the relationship often seem better than it really is. Do not give in to reproaches, remember all the minuses of your relationship. You definitely deserve more!

Decisive measures

The worst way of parting is to make a tough statement about your decision. Moreover, one should never stop a relationship suddenly, simply ignoring all messages and calls. Give your partner a chance to express their opinion about the problems. Perhaps, there is still love between you and a sincere conversation will help fix your relationship. If not, an open conversation will help avoid frustration and stay with your partner friends in the future.

Do not start a conversation about parting in a public place. This is a serious step that does not need to be made public. Find out the relationship among the crowd of strangers just disrespectful to you both and the things that connect you. Only in case you suspect that a man can react too negatively, you should choose a decent restaurant for a conversation.

Evidence

It's not your fault that the relationship is over. So even if, after your quiet explanation of the reasons for the gap, a man gets angry and shows a negative reaction, you should not blame yourself for it. The only thing that should bother you is dividing up your co-owned property or, in the absence of it, returning all your belongings left by the former. You do not owe anything to your partner, so you should not leave your personal accounts or anything else in his possession.

Relationships are for two people

If you are the initiator of the break, and the reason for this is another man, it's completely useless to strike at a man's self-esteem. Lean in the conversation that you stop the relationship not because of another person, but the reason - the problems in the current relationship, so as not to hurt the partner's feelings in vain. Do not destroy the relationship with a sincere and understanding person. If the situation is completely different and the reason for parting is precisely the betrayal on the part of the man, then benevolence will be superfluous. Why stay friends with someone who does not respect you?

And most importantly, remember - you do not have to suppress your emotions. Parting is painful, so you do not have to be strong. Without suppressing sadness, you will cope with experiences much faster and very soon you will realize that in the future you will only be happy.