The secretary of the husband, whether it is necessary to be jealous?

We, women, are pleased when a beloved man is a successful person. Interesting work, excellent salary, respect for others, the availability of promising acquaintances - all this seems to you to be something self-evident when it comes to a successful person. The image of such a man is associated with expensive suits, cars, a country house and ... a beautiful woman that you are. But not with other women, especially if this man is your husband. But on the horizon appeared a pretty lady. From morning till night this pretty person is close to your husband: he prepares coffee, performs errands, entertains guests who come to him and calls him on the phone many times a day. "A nightmare!" - you will think and be horrified - "Mistress!". But do not be scared at once. It's just a secretary.

And why is it even needed? - you ask. What does the secretary do? Secretar work requires the ability to quickly switch from one type of activity to another and is characterized by the breadth and diversity of the functions performed. The most important task of the secretary is to help the leader and save his time. The secretary works with documents and office equipment, conducts telephone conversations, sends mail, receives visitors, prepares and conducts meetings. The secretary is also responsible for a wide range of economic issues. As you can see, the secretary has something to do at work, so she hardly thinks about how to "surround" her boss.

You, of course, understand that the secretary is a difficult and necessary profession, you understand that this employee must be executive and have a pleasant appearance. You also realize that the head must have a secretary and know that, most likely, this position will be occupied by a woman, and preference will be given to an attractive and elegant lady. But you absolutely would not want such a secretary to be with your husband. Realizing that your beloved spends more time in her company than with you (you see only after work, and they are all day), you become jealous.


Step one: tie her up with her


You do not like when the husband lingers in the office, and his secretary calls him on the cell after work, clarifying the time of business meetings. You are extremely upset by the comment of a common friend who came to your husband to work. "You have a nice secretary, such an intelligent girl," he said, being your guest, and you began to panic. You imagined yourself a young angelically pretty girl, in a frankly short skirt and deep decollete ... suddenly she will surround your husband? The likelihood that your husband will flirt with his secretary is great, if for him flirting with other women is a common thing. But if a man you love can not tolerate intrigues, he is unlikely to flirt with his co-workers, even if they are very attractive.

And you should get acquainted with your husband's colleagues and subordinates to know with whom he spends his day side by side. Forewarned - means armed. Knowing who is running your husband, and, most importantly, who he manages, you will be easier to predict possible situations and analyze problems. Warn the husband that you will come to lunch with him and stay longer at his office. Make yourself a beautiful hairstyle and makeup, elegantly dress, especially if this is your first acquaintance with her husband's colleagues. In any case, when you get acquainted with his secretary, you can make more objective conclusions. It's good if you come to your husband for a corporate party. As a rule, they drink at parties. And from drunken colleagues at work you can get more information. But be careful with the findings - some women, out of envy of your attractiveness, for example, can specifically talk nasties about your lover. Be vigilant and trust your intuition.


Step two: be on your guard


In fact, you need to understand what your husband feels. Watch him for two to three weeks.

You should be pricked up if:

- he regularly comes home from work tired, or too gay, or drunk;

- he is constantly detained at work, more than 4 hours;

- he rarely calls you during the day, and if he calls, he talks coldly and detached;

- While at home, he answers the phone with the words "I'll call you later" or "you made a mistake with the number" more than twice a week;

- you found in his notebook some new numbers without a signature;

- he calls you by another female name in a dream or in conversations;

- it began to irritate your behavior, your habits and your relatives.


Step Three: Understand the feelings of your beloved


In a romantic relationship between the manager and the secretary, three options are possible. In the first case, she flirts, and the man is indifferent. This situation is most advantageous, because it speaks about the trustworthiness of your spouse. You will need to find out what caused the coquetry of the secretary. Perhaps she has such a manner of gaining confidence, and perhaps she is already in love. The best solution for your family relationship is getting rid of this lady. To create unbearable conditions for her work and make her leave, or just talk frankly with her husband about the transfer of his employee to another department - it's up to you. But keep in mind that your husband will need a new assistant at work, and if you can, find a substitute for his overly flirtatious secretary yourself.

A variant is possible, when the leader flirts, and the secretary is in perplexity. In this case, do not even mention the dismissal of the employee. After all, the problem is not in it, but in the man. This is his attraction to adventure, he wants new sensations and increased self-esteem. In this situation, apply all the techniques known to you to revive the love of the husband to yourself and kindle it with a new passion.

The worst option is the mutual enthusiasm of the head and secretary, or, more simply, a service romance. If you suspect a husband that he is cheating on you with his assistant, do not lose your head. Perhaps she is not the first with whom he is having fun, which means that you should have been worried long ago. Do not rush to blame the whole girl, provocateur could be your husband. If you tolerate the betrayal of your husband, and even allow yourself this, then it's unlikely that you really are worried about his secretary. But if you are a faithful and faithful woman - you began to suspect your spouse in deception, then it's time to talk. Prepare for the conversation: think through the possible options for the conversation and scroll in the head of the most negative option - then it will be easier for you to listen to the spouse. Gather more information so that your suspicions are not unfounded, although in many cases, men give out all the ins and outs in response to a successful bluff. Depending on the results of the conversation, decide - are you ready to be further with this man or is it an occasion for you to start a new life.
And most importantly, do not panic. Tortured woman, agitated and confused, can not objectively assess the situation. It hyperbolizes and dramatizes the situation. Of course, being cold-blooded, suspecting her husband of treason, is difficult. But still do not forget about the presumption of innocence.


Step Four: Demonstrate Your Benefits


You did not catch her husband in obvious lies or in treason, but found a reason to be on the alert? Are you sure that you want, by all means, to keep your relationship? Then you should work on them. Realizing this or not, your husband will compare you with the one to whom he now attracts. And you can fully influence the development of events. Try to suppress the desire to summon a husband to a verbal duel and "kill" him with hysteria or screaming. After all, "resurrect" it will be a gentle and patient friend from work. And your image will suffer. The best solution is to stay seasoned and calm, while demonstrating your advantages over the so-called rival.

For example, if she is much younger than you, constantly emphasize that you are more experienced - in sex, work, in the upbringing of children. If you are about the same age, emphasize that you, for example, occupy a higher position, manage the department yourself, including giving instructions to the secretary of your department. Try to let your husband understand that you have more in common than they do: for example, you have wonderful children, you have a wonderful home, your parents adore communicating with each other.

Pay attention to the shortcomings of his secretary by highlighting your merits. If you have a thin waist and a proud posture, and she is a stoop and a bit overweight, dress to emphasize your advantages. If you know several languages, ask her husband to help in the negotiations or translate the letter. Note that you are easier to climb and very fond of traveling if she is not a mobile person. Do not just talk about it, but act. Organize a trip to the sea, to the mountains, to the lake, or just a picnic with friends in the woods.

By the way, about friends. Get their support. If your husband's friends like to communicate not only with him, but also with you, most likely they perceive without enthusiasm the possibility of your rupture because of another woman. And this means that it will be inconvenient for him to introduce some other lady into the circle of his acquaintances, because he will not be supported, he will be uncomfortable, and, probably, he will even be condemned. And with you - so warmly and warmly the whole company, that you do not want to change anything.

"Rejuvenate" your relationship. Start again to go to dances and parties, return the old passion. Let the husband again want to conquer you. You can make him even a little jealous. Besides, maybe you've all thought of his secretary? Perhaps, she was not at all the cause of your temporary quarrels?