And where does this interest come from?
Now many pseudoscientists explain our behavior as purely biological. Like, there are "highly primitive" men (there are a lot of them from primates, monkeys), and low primitive - such intellectuals, for whom morality is primary, and instincts are secondary. The same they say about women. However, this theory on closer examination is very far-fetched.
The desire to get better genes, as a rule, is not so strong that the woman paid attention to him, guided by him. And if a married woman has a sexual interest in a man - it's not a matter of eroticism, which she lacks, or aesthetics. Beautiful, aesthetic, well-built representatives of the opposite sex always attract our attention.
Another thing is that this fleeting attention in most cases is not realized. We subconsciously "celebrate" potential partners, spending a fraction of a second on it. And if a married woman at work has a man to whom she is experiencing sexual interest, about which she dreams - then, in the family something is wrong.
Do not wind
In fact, it's quite easy to track down and stop the sexual interest in men from a married woman "at an early stage". When things are not so bad, and the family has not yet been destroyed, the woman's confidence in her man as a man is not undermined - it's time to take urgent measures.
But if the dreams have already passed a certain measure - then anything can happen.
- Firstly, a married woman, showing a sexual interest in a particular man, puts herself under attack, her family and her pride.
- Secondly, career can suffer if it happens at work. Or any other area of life in which sexuality interferes.
Relations with relatives, with friends, but at least with the teacher of the older child, if so it turns out - they are all significant enough not to mix them with sexuality. Sex is a word for two, and a woman, if she is married, has already made her choice about this.
And certainly, if you noticed in yourself at least a spark of passion, do not inflate the flame from it - you'll have to put yourself into a fire in the end!
Therefore, the first rule: whatever you feel, you should not wind yourself up by painting the imaginary and true virtues of the man to whom the interest is directed.
Maintain relationships first!
The current relationship is the most important, however it may be. Perhaps with a few exceptions:
if the husband is incapacitated ("vegetable", excuse for directness)
or if he violates some absolute rules: not to beat a woman, not to humiliate children. In general, it threatens the normal life of the family.
In other cases, any sexual interest in any man needs to be stopped in time. Hold the horses, see what the man with whom the woman once associated fate.
In a new relationship, no matter how much she wanted, a woman goes "with old mistakes."
And only if she did everything possible, and is sure of this - you can give in to a new strong feeling.
Magic focus for no longer in love with her husband
To your own sexuality did not become a cause of discord in this family and the future of a continuous and hopeless disarrangement in life, you must definitely try the "magic focus of falling in love".
Try to give your man a tremulous and romantic perception of you and your relationship. It is much easier to do this than it seems. The "focus" is that men love what they invest in relationships.
But in the hectic everyday worries, we forget to thank them, to confirm the significance of their contribution. As if this were self-evident.
Tell me, would you be pleased if you were praised every time for a prepared dish - already because you did not have to cook your home?
Here and the man. Confirm his masculinity, praise, thank - just "swing" gradually.
And what is most interesting, this simple "trick", which is recommended to all husbands cooled to each other, acts, as they say, "in both directions." That is, you show warm feelings - perhaps those that are not yet available. The husband "warms up" and begins to see in you a woman. And gives this heat in return.
And then already, together with warmth and sexuality, moreover, and manifested from the native and close person with whom the years have been lived, there simply will not be time or desire for other men. And that's what we were trying to achieve, is not it?
Interest in interest, but the head "include" it is necessary!
No matter how a woman says that, they say, "we tend to go on about the feelings" - there is a need for every burst of sexual interest to include logic, analysis.
A quick analysis of a potential candidate for a small novel, even if both, in principle, agree and the relationship is not affected, will get rid of the heap of hassle.
Well, take a closer look, before you want a man: at work he is handsome, "licked" by his wife. And at home he throws socks, demands "to eat come on!" Or thoughtfully picks at the nose, sitting in front of the TV in a stretched T-shirt.
What, you do not want this anymore? Is there such a home?
That's the same :)
This is how sexual desire is overcome, if it is obvious that the challenger is by no means the prince. And since there are very few princes of royal blood, and their lists are on the Internet, super-cool sex with an "interesting man" will be from strength a couple of times - and then, if you are in love with him.
So, whatever one may say, it's not worth it. And you need to try to return sex only to the family.