As far as I remember, it was written in the Old Testament that even if the spouse was ready to forgive the traitor, he should not do this, since the marriage was still terminated. So divorce after treason or not?
Since the advent of Christ, the question is put differently, and forgiveness is always welcome. If adultery was the result of a simple error, a minute weakness, followed by repentance, then it's best to forgive. However, if, for example, a wife knows that her husband is cheating on her and intends to continue to do so, then I think that there is simply no reason to keep such a marriage.
I remember there was a conversation with a woman whose husband was cheating on her. When it opened, she forgave him. After a certain time, the truth opened again. And she still decided to part with him. Someone from the common acquaintances, having learned about this, said to her: " You first think of children. By the way, he earns good money. And you thought, what will you live on? "Then she replied:" It seems to me that if I get along with it, and will continue to live like this again, the children will think that this is absolutely normal for the relationship. And when their own life in the family begins, they will not think that this is impossible. It's for the sake of the children that I'm leaving. Let them be difficult, but children will understand that there are things in which the family simply ceases to exist . "
"Is this woman right?" Since if she had forgiven her husband, the children still saw her hurt from the betrayal that had happened, and this would have become, for them, no less a lesson than the mere absence of a father. However, they would also earn a lesson in patience, forgiving love.
That is, in this case, it makes sense to get divorced, since the sinner who has sinned has absolutely no remorse, if he ... - it is difficult to find a word, so let's call things by their names - a scoundrel, just a scoundrel. We all have some imperfections with which we somehow try to fight, we repent, and then - no: the scoundrel is a person who in his life relies not on certain moral standards, but on his own selfishness, his own profit, but not sparing the family, children. I do not think that we should try to keep such a marriage, we just need to get divorced after treason.
- A much more difficult question is when that person who has sinned, repents, is going to return to his family. However, the second spouse still suffers and no longer trusts the former lover, can not return those feelings that were before the betrayal. Now love has died because of the betrayal of another. A person is not sure whether he will have enough strength. Will love return again? Will the betrayal again? How to make the right decision - forgive or not forgive? To be divorced after treason or not?
- My subjective opinion: you need to try to forgive. Perhaps, as a result, you will manage to overcome this.
In this case, I really want to wish one thing: if you decide to forgive - sincerely try to do it. And that in fact often happens such situation: people as though forgive, however at any arisen disagreement with it reproach, after change always recollect this case. No, if you still made the decision to revive what seemed to be broken, you must resolutely forbid yourself, remember about treason. Of course, you can not forbid your heart to remember this, but it should not be outwardly outwardly.