But why then do your eyes burn with happiness? Maybe because of the fact that you now have a new, yet unusual for you status - "Mom". How can it be difficult to convince the newly-made pope that your love is enough for these two, the most dear to you people.
After the appearance of the child, the family faces many problems. After all, your habitual "childless" life has remained in the past, my mother devotes all her time and cares to the baby, and the pope tries to earn money so that his son or daughter had all the best. About such a favorite early hikes in the movies, cafes, outings with friends on nature should be forgotten for an indefinite time. And infrequent love games are suddenly interrupted by a baby's squealing or a phrase that somehow liked most young mothers: "Darling, I do not really care, I'm too tired." I would like to elaborate on how men behave after the birth of their wife? Instead of at least somehow defuse the situation and order her beloved wife's favorite flowers, the husband consciously or subconsciously begins to be jealous of the one who takes away much of his attention, namely the baby, even if the child was welcome for both spouses. As a rule, how a man behaves after the birth of his wife, very often becomes the cause of aggravation of conflicts in the family, especially in those cases when the wife herself is severely experiencing postpartum depression.
There is a widespread opinion that the father's instinct is manifested only by the third year of the child's life. But this opinion can be considered a delusion if a young mother after birth will be able to find the right approach to the upbringing of not only the baby, but her husband.
How to achieve that the family once again reign peace and love?
To begin with, find the courage to prove to your wife time and again that he is now not only a husband but also a father. Very rarely a man is able to understand this during the first months after the birth of his wife. The skills of fatherly care should be developed gradually and gradually improved, gradually getting your husband to feel himself the head of the family, realized the full measure of responsibility and began to feel deep affection for his son or daughter.
But for some reason, many mothers, as if led by some incomprehensible sense of guilt, are trying to take on their own backbreaking tasks, and simply can not allocate a free minute for their needs. What kind of man can feel the head of the family, if he never changed diapers, did not feed the baby from the bottle, did not bathe the child? You can not inspire your own father that he is not able to perform these simple tasks.
Men behave in such a way as to just pretend to be awkward and unskillful. In fact, they are quite capable of coping with the responsibilities of a young mother when she is absent. In addition, note for yourself that the earlier the dad learns to be alone with his child, the earlier he realizes himself as a father, despite the fact that he will tire of communicating with the baby no less than his mother. This contact is very important for both of them: the kid will start to recognize Papa before, and the father, in turn, will understand better why the child needs attention and love and dads and moms.
Be sure to talk with your spouse about what is causing you anxiety. Do everything possible to make the man realize that the child is not a rival, but his continuation, his own blood. Explain to him that your baby will not always remain so helpless, and soon you will be able to devote more time to your relationship.
Remember that men after the birth of the wife experience no less stress than the mother in childbirth. For him, after all, this is also a decisive step, he also has new concerns and responsibilities.
Relations in the family after the birth definitely change. The appearance of a child can not but affect the relationship of the couple. And very often these relationships are changing for the worse. The main thing in this situation is to remember that no matter how men behave after the birth of their wife, only now you can be called a complete family. Your child reflects the traits of both parents. Young dad can delight in the words: "How your child looks like you!". If the mother will more often point to the similarity of the child and the father, maybe this will help the latter to realize the child more as a continuation.
Even if you have not discovered a new cure for an incurable disease, did not invent a new device, you can say that your life was lived in vain if someone in this world told you "Mom".
As psychologists note, men after the birth of the wife often feel insecure, and the woman, on the contrary, becomes more self-confident, develops a positive attitude to life. Motherhood in all ages painted a woman, had a beneficial effect on her outer and inner world.
Recent research scientists have confirmed that a woman after childbirth - wiser. The reason for this lies in the hormonal changes that occur in the body of the nursing mother, which stimulate the brain. And the child in itself forces us to be more collected, smart, to seek and find solutions to a variety of complex situations.
In addition, our husbands also undergo psychological changes. No matter how they behave immediately after birth, after a short period of time they begin to be proud of their fatherhood. According to the results of recent studies, it is proved that men are also very worried about the birth of a baby, like women.
In a word, the birth of the first child is a serious test for a young family. And no one can guarantee that you will withstand this test with honor, that you will be able to survive with a smile all the difficulties that have arisen associated with the birth of a child. But the main thing, remember, what would be the behavior of the husband: positively it or negatively, only now you are a complete family and you can make this family truly happy.