Psychologist's comment
Truth is said that the idea is material. Elena's mother already at the subconscious level 10 years ago seemed to have drawn to her daughter the situation in which "she will not have a pair." First, you always need to be careful with your thoughts and desires, they have an extraordinary ability to come true. Naturally, the mother did not want her daughter to be lonely or unmarried, but she seemed to think in her mind that the ideal companion in life for her daughter simply does not exist. Secondly, successful and beautiful women in themselves create an image of inaccessibility. They are beautiful, successful, purposeful, often leaders, so the men of such women are either afraid or bypassed, for fear of such an "iron lady". A male leader will not allow them to command them, a male dependent does not have enough courage to approach such a "snow queen". Thirdly, an intelligent, beautiful, successful woman is often a careerist in her life. First she learns, then she seeks a promising job, moves along the career ladder, and then it turns out that she "forgot" to get married and have children.
We prioritize
In life, there is no way that it was all at once. It is necessary to choose. If you have love and family values in the first place, if you love children and want to give birth to them at least to the age of thirty, then put your career on the back burner. But this does not mean that you have to become a housewife and keeper of the family hearth. It is quite realistic and right to receive everything from life, to realize oneself not only as the mother of the family, but also as a person who loves his work. It's just that when you have to choose in life, you need to make the right choice, so that you do not regret it later.
Well, if it's just not there - a loving and loved one
But that's just on this and do not get hung up. Immediately in my head on this issue begins to spin the phrase: "There is happiness - it can not be".
A loved and loving person is, he lives somewhere, and you will certainly meet. The main thing is that you just do not pass by. Perhaps you will be a little upset if I say that this meeting can take place when you are not twenty years old, but thirty with a small tail ... Everything has its time.
That's just on this topic I want to share the situation from the life of my old good friend. When Victoria was about twenty years old, she had a great and seemingly eternal love. His name was Oleg. Vika and Oleg lived together in a civil marriage for about five years, and then "love," that is, Oleg, left. He soon married another, and for Vicky, it would seem, the whole world collapsed. Mood swings, depression, pessimistic mood - the symptoms of a lonely and abandoned woman, accompanied Vic several long years in a row. When she was thirty, she was still lonely. But our life is a zebra in black and white stripes. And even if these monotonous stripes alternate unevenly, all the same, sooner or later there will appear enlightenment in the form of a white strip. So it happened with Victoria. Now she is 32 years old. Over the past year, she received everything that she had expected for more than ten years: a career as a chief and a long-awaited loved one. Six months ago she married him. Now they are waiting for replenishment in their family. Now Victoria is not only smart and beautiful, but also successful and happy ...
Men love stupid and blondes?
Yes, men like fools and blondes, and they love them very much one night, and then they are already loved by other men ... A woman must be smart and wise at the same time. And men like to be conquerors, or at least think that they are achieving something or are conquering someone. Do not run on the first call of the man you like, but do not show your absolute coldness and self-confidence. A woman who knows what she wants, will definitely achieve this.
There are no princes! We destroy stereotypes!
The problem of beautiful and intelligent women is that by their beauty they create an image of inaccessibility, and their minds do not give the man the right to make a mistake. This does not happen. Men are ordinary people, not ideal. And you, if you do not want to be alone, must destroy that ideal created in your head. When you love, you do not see any shortcomings, more often they turn into virtues. Being beautiful, smart and lonely at the same time is just absurd. And if you can not change yourself, change your attitude to life, and to men in particular. Do not put the diagnosis right away: it's not my type. Try to communicate with a man, let him take you home, and if the "spark" caught fire, then let the relationship continue.
Draw conclusions
A beautiful, intelligent, lonely girl psychology from the side would characterize as the most potential bride. And so it will be, if you believe in yourself, love yourself and reconsider your life goals and priorities. You have everything to be loved and to love, you just need to believe in the reality of your desires. And always remember that "the best things happen unexpectedly ..."