Who is in love, he knows - the feeling is inexpressible. Such a flight of the soul, such causeless joy can not be experienced in any other state. Because it is so easy to determine whether you love or not. But what changes and how, if your love is not mutual?
Oh, much is changing! Especially when it already becomes obvious. As long as the opportunity remains to create the illusion of reciprocity and live it by deceiving oneself, one can still feel somehow happy. But how to be, when all the signs above the "and" are already placed, and there is no doubt, no hope? How to survive this nightmare, how to survive? How to get rid of memories and gnawing anguish and pain, rending the heart?
Few people will believe, but there is a ready-made recipe. It is known a long time ago, it is simple and complex at the same time. It's simple, because it's absolutely clear what you need to do. And it is difficult because it is very hard to overcome yourself. In fact, the question, if formulated so - is unrequited love: how to get rid of it? Is incorrect. Yes, love is undivided, but you should not get rid of it. It is better to get rid of the wrong attitude towards her.
First of all, what is love? The state of the soul, characterized by a sense of happiness and joy. So why get rid of it? Is there anyone who does not want to be happy? For some reason, it is not enough now who asks himself this question. If love is unrequited, immediately labeled as "unhappy love." And this is because love for oneself overcomes and outshines everything else. And so much that it remains unnoticed the obvious absurdity of the phrase - if love is happiness, then how can happiness be unhappy?
In fact, unhappy love does not happen. There is only an incorrect interpretation of the behavior of the lover or lover, which implies a mutual feeling. All hopes, expectations and a model of a happy future are bound to be closely connected with it, without allowing any other possibility. But in fact it is other person, with the feelings, the hostility and sympathies. And if his heart does not belong to you, what is his fault? Is it that you built the castle in the sand? In the fact that you are still in love, even in love, and are not ready to take "no" in response?
Think about it, are you really the "aggrieved party", which only remains that you should feel sorry for yourself? What has changed from the fact that you have learned the truth - your love is destined to be undivided? You began to love less?
Believe me, sincerely loving people do not need anything. They know perfectly well the simple truth to genius - in love the main thing is not to receive, but to give. That's why it's really very easy to be happy: love and do not expect anything in return. After all, the very feeling of love available to people is a great happiness.
Are you sick because of unrequited love? Try to imagine for a moment that the object of your adoration has suddenly disappeared forever. What will you feel while doing this? If there is nothing or relief, then the clinic, as they say, is clear - you did not like it, so all this will soon pass like a runny nose. And if the heart clenched and turned cold, if the thought "no, just not this!" Was born, then you can congratulate yourself - your love is real, strong and deep. And, most likely, you will immediately understand also that for happiness you only need to know that your beloved is somewhere around here on this planet. He is alive, healthy, happy, and even if this happiness you do not give him. The main thing is that you have a love that no one can take away.
If you look at everything from this position, you will imbue with what you understood, then you will regain balance soon enough and return to the world of joy and happiness. In fact, those who fall into depression or try to commit suicide because of unrequited love, trying to get rid of suffering - in fact, just weak people and egoists. Their own happiness for them is more important than love, more important than the happiness of a loved one.
But you're not like that, right? You know now the recipe for unshakable happiness - it is simple and proven for centuries. And you just need to help yourself a bit - to learn how to love sincerely, selflessly, regardless of what will happen next and whether there will be anything at all. And this is the simplest and most effective way to get rid of unrequited love, which is only a path to happiness.