Love is a wonderful feeling, and it is natural for everyone to feel it, and there is nothing shameless about it. Sometimes it seems to me that we come to the world simply to love, but some, and perhaps even many, are stumbling along the right path, to which God has instructed us. But sometimes it's so hard to admit to the person we love in love. Why are we afraid to say or hear the expression "I love you"? What's in it? We hide our warm feelings behind the cold block of insensitivity, but at night we regret the lost opportunity of recognition or we dream that someday we will say, we admit to this dear person, say "I love you". But, alas, this is just a dream. So why it is difficult to say - I love you? ? What in them terrible?
I think every woman will understand me and the course of my thoughts, and I'm sure that men also think so. This expression is equated with the deprivation of our freedom. After uttering these words, there are obligations that many people simply frighten it. Obligations - that's what we are afraid of, we are afraid to take responsibility, and then blunder. Any person is afraid of changes in his life, because he does not know in which direction and how these changes will affect his life.
Before uttering this expression a person is in free flight, like a bird, and after these words, he puts himself in a cage and becomes tame as a parrot Kesha. You can even say that the utterance of these words is equated with the fact that you put yourself in a cage, and thus lose your freedom. A person, from the parrot Keshi, is different in that a person knows about the cruelty of a human being, but does not know the parrot. He is afraid that staying in a cage for him will turn into a nightmare. Very rarely we dare to trust a person, and trusting, we are afraid of addiction. We are afraid that if we play enough with us, they will throw us like an unnecessary doll, breaking our hearts and cutting our wings, and then we will not be able to fly, and even more we will never be able to trust another.
The expression "I love you" binds our hands with shackles that prevent us from moving freely through life. It deprives us of a sense of confidence. And we are afraid that we will not be able to hold the fragile glass of love in our fisted arms and drop it and smash it to pieces with the heart of a loved one. What could be worse than the disappointment of a loved one in you?
Or maybe you do not allow a sense of pride to admit, and maybe you are tormented by doubt, but is that the person, and do I really love him? We are afraid to miss the best, and when we miss what we had, we understand that this was the best.
"It is better to do and repent than not to do and repent," said the wise, great Boccaccio. Of course, he was right, because having done or said, you will find out what is bothering you at night, and only in this way will you get an answer to your question after learning the whole truth. And you cease to suffer from the unknown. After all, it's much easier to learn and calm down than to suffer from the unknown.
And I want to consider the other side, one that is afraid to hear the cherished words. Remember, in our youth, we refused to even kiss, until the guy confesses love. On a dark evening after a disco, after taking you to the door of your house, he must say the coveted words that he could kiss you. And, it is true or not it was, in general, and it did not matter to us then, it was important to hear these words. We, of course, naively believed that this was true, and allowed the boys to kiss themselves, and even embrace, but, and now? Now we allow, and hug and kiss us, and even sleep with them just to not hear these words. Sometimes we are ready for anything, but not to words that will confuse us.
These words are pleasant to hear those girls who are still young and dream of a beautiful prince on a white horse, but not those women who are already accustomed to independence. That woman, who independently put the children on their feet, gave them to study in prestigious places, to the woman who bought herself a cool car and drives it to her magnificent work, do they need to hear these words from a man? After all, for them it is a step, they will get out of the way, and why change something in life, if already so well.
Confident business woman, you are not alone, around you are full of men who are ready for your attention to allow you to use yourself. Free as the wind, which flies suddenly blows and flies away. No commitment to a man, no scandals, quarrels, jealousy, tears, resentment, nothing bad and negative, which contributes to the appearance of wrinkles. And such a woman looks much younger than a married woman. Married women, I would say, some kind of nervous and not balanced, always fuss and fuss. Well, free women are in complete emotional calm, and feel at ease in any situation.
Is not it enough that he is next to you, that you go to the movies and restaurants, he tells you beautiful words, and your second half of the bed is not empty. Is not that enough? At the same time, for all, you feel yourself without obligations, we can say that between you naked sex, and nothing more. In parallel with him you can freely communicate with other men, and he with other women, because there is no obligation, there is no love, and there is no expression "I love you".
But when he tells you "I love you", then you can not say that there is naked sex between you, because if at least one side experiences feelings of love, then there is another link. And then, then there are obligations, but, of course, you have the choice to give him a "turn from the gate," or take him and his love and move to a different level of relationships, to a higher one, where you are not only unified by a physical connection, but also spiritual. You decide!
Confessions of love are not just words, they should not be empty, they must be hiding a huge amount of love, tenderness, affection, care and attention. Of course, this is not the entire list that a loving person should express to his beloved, as Archimedes said, "Love is a theory that must be proved every day!", So prove your love, and not only with words and confessions, but with actions.
And yet I believe and I hope that any person will find his second half. Half the time to find it, you still have to be able to tell about your feelings and keep it, so do not be afraid of your feelings, and do not be afraid to show them. After all, everyone has the right to happiness and love, but not all use this right!