Today you can get under stress press regardless of place of residence, age, profession. At the same time, the level of anxiety invariably grows, but the resistance to stress, that is, the ability to withstand anxiety, decreases. Too high a payment for the blessings of civilization! How to learn to cope with anxiety?
The person disturbing
Homo turbidus is a special kind. It mainly lives in large and medium-sized (more than 500 thousand inhabitants) cities, although recently it is found in any settlements. He is educated, he prefers mental labor to the physical. Despite regular meals and two days off per week, it looks tired and painful, often complains of headache, mood jumps and bad sleep. He constantly thinks about something, plans something, worries about something - it is almost impossible to find him in a serene calm state. The alarming man himself understands: something is wrong with him - he is too turbidus. Sometimes, completely exhausted, he decides to send everything away and completely change his life. He rejoices at his decision for several hours, and then ... begins to worry: "How far away should we send everything?", "And suddenly, far away, there will be no mobile communication?" You have to disappoint: it's easy to change homo turbidus it will not be possible - it was formed for a long time under the influence of many factors.
What do we get? What do we lose?
City "anthill". Life in the city is good for many - a comfortable way of life, a variety of leisure activities, a wide range of acquaintances. On the other hand, the metropolis itself is a source of anxiety. High houses, dull colors, a large number of cars, a feeling of "loneliness in the crowd" - all this depresses at the subconscious level. And people too. There are too many of them in the city. And someone constantly violates the personal border of 50 centimeters: we feel comfortable only if in these limits, next to us there is no one or only very close. When someone else appears on our territory, we are alerted, we mobilize forces for defense. And in this anxious and alert state we stay for several hours a day. On the street, in the store, transport. Moreover, each of those who got into our borders is experiencing the same emotions: after all, we also violated his personal zone.
"Trap" of technological progress
"Well, thank God! You can not stand at the sink with a mountain of plates," - we think, when buying a dishwasher. Especially since a washing machine, a vacuum cleaner, a microwave oven are already available. "Do not flatter yourself!" - German sociologists warn that you studied the lives of middle-class families every few minutes, you will not clean dishes, clean carpets by hand, but you will spend so much time and energy on servicing your assistants that the free time will be even less. And the experience - more. The technique so accustoms to itself, that sudden problems with it can cause the present nervous breakdown. A person who always drives his car will be forfeited for the whole day, if it does not suddenly start in the morning. And from the stress received in public transport, and from anxiety: "What happened to her, dear, happened? And where to get money for repairs?"
Informational "sea"
It is known that, the more television channels in a settlement, the higher the rates of general knowledge in people. On the other hand, there is a limit! Specialists from the University of California, Berkeley in the course of the study How Much Information? ("How much information?") Estimated that one minute of viewing the unpleasant news is enough to hold in the state of anxiety the next 12 hours. At the same time, the terrible repels and attracts at the same time, creating a hang-up effect: a person can not tear himself away from the screen, although he experiences fear and disgust. Another fact: for each office worker a day falls to 700 KB of information, in other words 700 KB of stress! Opportunities for self-realization. We work more than our parents, and we are striving to find not just a job, but an occupation for the soul, which will feed and provide a peaceful future. But to calm down ... does not work! Competition in the labor market is directly proportional to the population: every year new personnel appear on it - all as one striving for self-realization, possessing more and more in-depth knowledge. Particularly vulnerable are people aged 35-45 years. And a lot of strength has already been given, and it's hard to compete with the youth. Courses of advanced training, mastery of related profession are popular in this age category because of the desire to at least insure themselves a little. But emotional disorders associated with anxiety still occur when students are experiencing economic crises or changes within the same organization.
freedom of choice
A modern person does not owe anything to anyone. We can live as you please and with anyone. There are few rules concerning life, and they do not exist in the form of strict prohibitions, but simply recommendations. And it's great when a person is so free - so he can prove himself as a person. But freedom is the biggest source of anxiety. Because, since you yourself choose what to do, you yourself answer for it. On the one hand, a good choice is huge, on the other hand it is not a domestication.
Fear of loneliness
This is the main female fear. "A free man, a single woman" - in the captivity of these stereotypes, we are still to this day. Many women are sure that if you become a man for everyone, then he will never leave them. But this is the way "from oneself", while the path of man must go to himself. Become interesting to yourself - and the fear of loneliness will disappear! 2.
Fear of old age
On ritiphobia - fear of wrinkles - make a lot of cosmetic companies. In fact, this is still the same fear of loneliness: we are used to believe that "old = no one wants." What to do? Often carry out an audit of personal achievements in life of youth and loss of reputation, "- by the general level of anxiety, the name is much ahead of the strong one.
Fear of betrayal
And there is no confirmation of suspicion, but still it seems: someone has it ... Imagine that the partner really has a connection on the side, you broke up and now you are counting only on yourself. Life did not end there, did it? Think about what, how and when you have to do. Strangely enough, the loss of the "most terrible" situation is soothing. 7. Fear of condemnation Notorious "What will people say?" poisoned life is not one of the fair sex. Its origins - in the woman imposed by the society of the role of "obedient", "good girl", which begins as a child. And even in adulthood, it is important for us to receive the approval of those around us.
Fear of illness
Women are more than men predisposed to hypochondria (fears of health) and iatrogenia (anxiety caused by the words of a doctor). The reason is our impressionability, emotionality, the inclination to speculate. What to do? As a rule, our bodies provide warning signals in advance - you just need to listen, draw conclusions and visit a doctor.
Fear of pregnancy ... or infertility
In fact, it's about ... self-doubt. In the first case, the fear of losing a partner prevents the issue of contraception from solving at the dawn of relations. And in the second, doubts about one's own fertility are doubts about the importance of one's own female self. What to do? Increase self-esteem!
Fear of mice ... as well as spiders, frogs, thunderstorms, darkness, etc.
In fact, in 90% of cases this is not fear at all, but a flirtatious method of female manipulation, designed to emphasize its weakness and defenselessness and to awaken a knight and defender in a man. Well, the origins of the remaining 10% of these phobias are in children's fears, and psychologists are engaged in them.
Fear of the future
Constantly and without a good reason to worry about the future is typical of young children who are not yet able to control their lives. If such a fear is found in an adult, it speaks of either a neurosis provoked by severe stress, or infantilism. In the first case, it is better to turn to a specialist, and in the second it is necessary to grow up!
Fear of unemployment
This is a relatively "fresh" fear, which came in return for a patriarchal fear of losing a bread-winner. Paradoxically: women are much more than men who are afraid of losing their jobs. And this despite the fact that women, as statistics show, find a new one more easily. What to do? Reread this phrase. And calm down.
Fear for children
This fear is caused by the maternal instinct, so you do not have to fight it. Anxiety for babies, their protection and support is the most natural state of a woman. It is not right when there is none at all. This fear is the driving force of the development of society. If, of course, it does not acquire hypertrophied dimensions, preventing you and the growing generation from living.
How to stop worrying?
The best thing you can do is go to an abandoned village and settle in a hut without any comfort. And it would be nice if wolves lived in the woods nearby. This is not a joke: the more a person has pressing problems, real reasons for experiencing, the less he worries "for nothing". But if such a radical option does not suit you, make at least some minor adjustments to your life.
Surround yourself with nature
At home and at work there should be more natural colors. Green, beige, blue, yellow - and no "acid" colors! Get a "garden" on the windowsill, which you need to look after. More walks in the park - nature harmonizes the internal state. Spread the curtains and put flowers on the window sill. Cloth (even transparent) adds alarms, as, indeed, and fully open windows. Plants, on the one hand, create the effect of privacy, but on the other, they leave the world open.
TAKE PHYSICAL WORK
It is work - fitness does not replace it (although it is also useful, since any activity contributes to the production of serotonin, and it suppresses anxiety). For example, wash by hand (but do not start a general wash!). The lesson is especially suitable for women: water is a woman's element. Or do trimming of trees in the country - staying in the fresh air gives an additional calming effect.
Eat long, tasteful
And cook slowly. Slimfud is becoming more popular, and many celebrate its health-enhancing effect. At least once a week, give the food a decent attention: choose the original recipe, buy the products, prepare them yourself. The nutritional value of these dishes is very high, and the psychological value is even greater: they bring the family together and give a sense of stability. No purchase cake can compare with a homemade delicacy, especially if all members of the family participated in its preparation.
Take an example from our smaller brothers
Look at how the "families" of dogs live. They constantly shake each other, squeeze, bite. Do the same. The more physical contact occurs with close people (sincere, warm), the more protected each one feels. Psychologists even know the exact figure: 7 hugs a day for both children and adults. However, there can be no overdose.
Add sex!
No "I'm so worried that I do not care." Sex is one of the best preventive drugs. Orgasm prevents the development of stress and the emergence of a neurosis, because it is a discharge of accumulated negative emotions. In addition, during orgasm, oxytocin is released, a resting and peaceful hormone.
Click on your alarm button
That is, the most emotionally respond to stress: the more anxiety, the more emotion. Do not hold back tears and do not calm those who want to cry - this is the right reaction. Discuss the event with your loved ones, talking more about your experiences, state, detailing how and what exactly you did. Repeat your story times 5. Already on the third story, the anxiety will ease.
Distract from the "black" news and broadcasts
Just imagine in all colors how exactly such programs are created. After that, you hardly want to become a part of this industry. And you turn off the TV. Another option: look at what is happening as a historical fact. Do you think that our time is the most alarming? In fact, there were already crusades, epidemics, wars. What concerns you now is also part of the story. "And it will pass away," - these words of King Solomon will help you take things wisely and a little detached.