These are only fairy tales ending with the phrase: "And they lived happily ever after." In life, it often happens that the choices we make may not be final. Marriages break up - this is a sad truth. But divorce is not an excuse for closing yourself, on the contrary, it's time to open up again. But you need to do this gradually.
Rule one: "Pity yourself"
Many will say that this is the direct way to depression, but let's understand. After the divorce, most women are depressed, they have a depressive development, life seems to them gray. You can, of course, listen to friends and smile in all 32 teeth, but let's face it, the cats will not stop at this shower. Do not hold resentment in yourself, throw it out, cry, scream, break the old service. Invite a best friend to visit and discuss with her what your former goat is.
Get rid of his things left in the house. If they cause vagrusity, then they do not need you at all.
The main mistake of friends is to drag a girl, broken by divorce, "into the light." It's still too young for you to rejoice. Yes Yes exactly. While you are completely unoccupied from your inner baggage, your jokey joy will only trample down sadness. And repressed feelings are a time bomb. At this moment, you need to cheer yourself up, say that everything will be fine, it will all work out. And to start acting only when you believe it.
Rule two: "Love yourself"
Look at yourself in the mirror: your eyes are blazed, your face is swollen with tears. It's time to say goodbye to this monster. You need an internal installation. Passing the stage of despondency to the stage of "the first step to a new life" is the most difficult. After all, as soon as you begin to feel sorry, it's not easy to stop.
Reception here will help from childhood. Return to the mirror, dump all the contents of your cosmetic bag and proceed to the combat coloring. Do not overdo it, apply makeup carefully, do not neglect the advice of girlfriends, which can also be involved in this procedure. Do not forget about hair, they also require styling. And now look at yourself again. Well, is not she beautiful?
For better effect, we write down to the gym, go napa-procedures, yoga and other places that will help you to transform. They say that after the break, the girl becomes more beautiful than the former. The rubbish !!!! If you will change, it's only for yourself.
The third rule: "Rest, rest, rest!"
Some people recommend going into work. But not everyone has the opportunity to concentrate on things, when the head is clogged with completely different thoughts. It is better to allow yourself to abstract from problems and relax. It is desirable to choose a place to relax away from your house. If you can go abroad, go. Countless excursions, shopping, admiring of foreign beauties will leave you completely to forget that you are divorced.
But there is one strict rule! No novels! Senseless relationship you now to anything. Wedge wedges do not need to knock out, do not look for a replacement for your former, to no good it will not. The main thing that you need to drive yourself into is: "I'm not alone, I'm free." Enjoy this feeling. Feel how the wings spread behind your back, as the weight of responsibility of the same member of your family falls off your shoulders. Live a little for yourself, pamper yourself.
Rule four: "Again in battle!"
But now you can talk about new relationships. Very often after marriage, girls do not seek to tie serious novels. Fear of stepping on the same rake pushes them to casual relationships or free relationships, which only rely on sex. We will not condemn such methods of recovery. There is another type of women who, on the contrary, do not seek knight acquaintances and meetings, they close themselves and are afraid even to try. In this situation, the salvation must be sought again in friends.
It is they who need to scrape on the susek and dig for you a suitable candidate. It does not have to be your future new spouse. Let it be just a good guy. Your goal is not to build a new relationship and throw it into his bed. To begin with, you need to feel like a woman again, remember what is male attention, what is light flirting. All your skills have remained with you, but you have not used them for a long time.
If such meetings escalate into a new exciting novel, then we should be so lucky. But tune in to the fact that this is just a man: the future husband is not a potential guy. For now, let it be the one who will definitively cure your broken heart.
Rule five: "Understand and forgive"
Sooner or later there will come a time when memories of yours will stop causing you pain. On his behalf, your heart will not be beat, but if you run into it accidentally in the store, you will not lose speech. Vyba go ahead, and you do not need to fight each other, hate each other and try to prove something to each other.
No matter who initiated the break, now only the joint past binds you. Nobody says that you need to be friends with families and go to each other's friends. Just realize that in your break you are both to blame, someone more, someone in less, do not repeat these mistakes in a new life.