Just for women, society does not prohibit crying, complaining to friends or discussing their experiences on the forum. When the divorced man does the same, it causes a rejection reaction. So often a man after a divorce is forced to experience everything in himself, not putting his thoughts and feelings outside.
What do men feel after the divorce? Pain, disappointment, a sense of loss, the fear of having made a mistake, the bitterness of the mediocre lost years. Divorce is a global change in life that does not pass without a trace for the human psyche and the human soul. And it is proved that men experience a divorce much sharper and heavier than women. Unable to cry and speak, they push feelings into the subconscious. And as these feelings are completely negative and unpleasant, they can lead to physical illnesses, and sometimes even lead to thoughts of suicide.
The risk of the disease after the divorce in both men and women increases by a third. In the period of perinitial life, people six times more often turn to psychologists and psychotherapists. Men are three times more likely to lead themselves to nervous and psychological exhaustion than women, and they are more likely to attempt suicide.
Despite the fact that, with a superficial perception, women are more motivated to maintain a marriage, with a deeper study of the issue it turns out that men are going through a divorce much harder than women.
The general adaptation period after the divorce can last 1-2 years, in some people it reaches four years. And here there is another common error waiting for men. It is believed that too rapid development of new relations after the divorce is fraught with additional psychological trauma. And often it happens that a man feels that he can not bear loneliness. Women themselves, without reading smart books and psychologists' tips, often take a timeout in relationships for several months and even years. During this time they come to their senses, get rid of the burden of the problems of the past, and approach the beginning of new relationships freed from negative emotions.
Men behave exactly the opposite. Still not cooled from previous relationships, not having licked up wounds, they rush into new relationships, as in a whirlpool with a head. Because of a more acute sense of loneliness, about which there is no one to talk with, a man makes sharp steps in trying to find a new partner. Often they even hastily marry the first lady who has turned up, just not to be left alone with her grief.
We discussed only general answers to the question of what a man feels after a divorce. But after all, there are also individual features of the manifestation of experiences in the period after the collapse of the family.
If rude, the behavior of men after the divorce can be divided into three types.
The first type of men takes a militantly-hating attitude. They do everything to complicate the life of the ex-wife. Sometimes they warn in advance that the wife's life will turn into hell if she decides to leave. It's hard to imagine what a man feels, who is ready to spend his energy on fighting a woman. It seems that these feelings are far from the sublime.
The second type of men readily accepts divorce as it is. They do not try to be friends with the former wife, nor to fight with her. With a drooping head and with a disappointment in love and marriage, they go into independent life. And, by the way, such men are much more likely to maintain normal human relationships with their ex-wife, children, former friends and relatives.
And, finally, the third type of men - these are men who pre-preparatory training animates and stimulates. Before the divorce, they suddenly begin to feel the love more sharply, understand how they want their wife. However, it is not uncommon to change something that is already too late. Such men can do everything possible and impossible to restore relations. This tactic works only if a woman doubts at least that she wants a divorce. In many situations, this does not help a man return his wife. After all, any divorce is a process that lasts for years. There is no accidental divorce. Each divorce is prepared for years or even decades. Usually, relatives or friends only see the final titles of this event. And even if the divorce of the couple becomes unexpected for them, for the spouses themselves, it is usually a long-drawn-out decision.
The three types of behavior described by the man can be mixed and intersected in the most bizarre way. Sometimes a man is tossed between a hostile strategy and attempts to return his ex-wife, and ends with a peace agreement and acceptance of the situation. In general, it does not matter what behavior strategy after the divorce is chosen by a particular man. In any case, he usually experiences the procedure of divorce, as a rule, much more painfully than a woman. Even if outwardly remains completely calm.