Therefore, in order to understand why a young man does not like his mother, you need to understand her motives. Only knowing the reasons for dislikes, you can decide something and do it, if the guy arranges you in all respects, you must fight to have his mother accept it. Of course, you can do nothing and simply ignore the mother, but this will only exacerbate the situation. Remember that any mother is very important is the happiness of her child. Perhaps the guy does not like her for the reason that she does not see him as a reliable man. The older generation often do not like modern young people, because they believe that young people can not achieve anything and create a normal family.
Of course, this is not the only reason. Therefore, in order to understand what to do if the guys do not like your mother, first try to sit down and calmly talk to her about this situation. Remember that this person is much older and wiser than you. Therefore, perhaps she is really right. Often, when we love, we try to idealize our object of lust, and we do not notice many of its shortcomings. When someone is looking at him from outside, he sees much more and simply tries to warn us against mistakes and wrong conclusions. Therefore, if the guy does not like not only your mother, but also other close people, still think about her words. Most likely, for her is not spoken by maternal jealousy, but by common sense, which is not enough for you now. So try to think more objectively and try to understand why Mom says that way. Perhaps you will agree with her and reconsider the relationship with your boyfriend.
If you think that my mother is still wrong, try to convince her. Just do not solve problems with the help of screaming and scandals. Remember that for a mother you are still a child. And when, without presenting arguments, the daughter starts hysterics, her mother once again becomes convinced that she has not grown up, and therefore can not make sound decisions. The consequence is the mother's desire to decide everything for you, because she is wise and adult.
So, instead of repeating like a parrot that your boyfriend is the best, and she does not understand anything, find out what exactly is not like your mother. For example, if she believes that a young man is not ambitious enough and can not achieve anything, then convince her that this opinion is erroneous. To do this, tell your mother about the achievements of your guy in studies and work, about his plans, and most importantly, their implementation. Let her understand what a young man wants and can become in life by someone, and you will never be lost with him.
If the mother does not like the appearance of the guy (for example, he is the representative of any subculture), calmly explain to her that the person's expression in clothes does not at all affect his mental development and socialization. If the mother understands that, despite the tons of metal that your young man is weighed on, he works on two jobs and receives only excellent marks at the university, her attitude will change drastically.
In addition, a young man must himself be able to please his parents. Of course, do not force the guy to walk on the string and behave in a prescribed manner. But still, when he is in the circle of your family, let him behave within the framework of culture. If a young man from time to time comes with a bouquet of flowers for his mother and a bottle of cognac for his father, sooner or later parents will appreciate his signs of attention.
Also, my mother should see that the guy respects you and protects you. So let him try to behave in the circle of your family as a true gentleman. By the way, it's good, if for him it is a normal form of behavior, because in the case of a game for parents, you still need to think about whether the mother is as wrong as you think.
In addition, it should never be arranged with the parents to clarify the relationship. You must understand that, in the first place, every rude word spoken in your direction, Mom perceives as a personal insult. Of course, on the one hand, she understands that in all relationships, things are not always smooth. But, on the other hand, she is primarily a mother who can not allow a stranger to her to offend the most native and beloved being - you. So try to dedicate as little as possible to your mother in your interpersonal conflicts with a young man. Remember that any bad word spoken in his direction, in her eyes crosses a dozen good. The more you tell how bad your young man is, the more mom will be convinced of her rightness.
Do not forget that when we are offended, we become inclined to over-hyperbolize everything. Therefore, what you tell your mom, can really look from your words much worse than it really is.
You should never take dirty linen out of your hut and scatter it to friends and family. Of course, when you feel hurt, you want to share your pain. But in a short time you calm down and forget about what happened, but your parents remember everything and start to treat your boy with even greater suspicion. And this is not so much their fault as your own. So always try to restrain yourself, talk about a good guy, but do not bend the stick. A. Most importantly, remember that even if the mother is not right, she is still a mom who does it all just because she loves you more than life.