Pitfalls of love at a distance

He is entirely yours, roses are opening in your heart, you want to sing and shout about your happiness. But here's the ill luck: he personally will not be able to sing - he lives in another city or even in another country. Or maybe at the other end of a huge metropolis. Because you can not cuddle up with your loved one, share the joys and sorrows of the past day, but simply because he's not around, the cat's scratches and such melancholy are on the soul! Some meetings are able to turn our lives around. What can I say, if the one with whom dreams for happiness are connected lives far away! Such relationships can make you think seriously about changes that you never planned. Virtuality of relations
Because of the email, e-mails, chattering in ICQ and Skype, every evening phone calls there is a deceptive impression that you know everything! How are things at work in his life, what problems worry him, who of his friends has a birthday, what plans for the evening ... However, in all this one can see one huge "but": in his plans there is no you. Although he claims that far from his beloved everything is not cute and not at all fun. Probably, so it is, but it does not make it any easier for you!

The exhausted girl wants to be with him: walk, hold hands, hear his voice, feel dizzy from kisses and hugs ... Instead, you spend the evening alone, dreaming of the day when you finally meet. You began to notice that you look with envy at the happy couple, kissing and embracing on the escalators in the subway. It becomes especially sad on the eve of the Day of all lovers: you dreamily look at the hearts, postcards, teddy bears and other lovely trinkets that he would like to give him. If you can still spend this day together, then it will be an unforgettable event! But even in the most wonderful moments, it will be restless at heart: after all, soon a beloved man will again flee from you for many kilometers, and your faithful companions will again be the telephone and the Internet.

Be careful, jealousy!
There is an opinion that romantic relations "at a distance" are the most durable. If the chosen one lived nearby, then you would have already called a hundred times and asked where he goes with whom, and why he did not take with him to the bar or play billiards. And in the current situation, you need to have time to say the most important thing - how bad each other is without each other. So it's unlikely that you will begin to express discontent. And so the union seems perfect!

But you are trapped by a danger, ready at any moment to separate your hearts, is jealousy. He did not call the day you agreed or did not send the letter on time? Probably met another - you immediately think ... But suspicions and reproaches are capable of destroying any, even the strongest love.

In addition, scientists have proved that a man should receive at least twelve gentle touches a day: you can gently stir up his hair, hug his shoulders, gently take his hand, touch his cheek to his bristles ... After receiving the necessary portion of affection, he will not want to search its somewhere on the side. But how long can he endure when you are not around? Sooner or later he will need affection and tenderness. And at this time you better try to be near him.

Idealization of the beloved
Another pitfall is the idealization of a partner. When the gentleman lives far away, and the calendar of your meetings is measured in weeks, if not by days, you can easily finish the "light image" by giving it qualities that are not really there. You are in for a great disappointment, which does not mean that the chosen one was worse, no! Just a portrait created by an ardent maidenly imagination did not coincide with reality. But if you try to see the good qualities of each other, your happiness is safe.

Are you ready to move?
Often, a geographical circumstance becomes a real obstacle. After all, you can not always be from a loved one for miles from him. Sooner or later, if your relationship survives this test, you must rejoin. But the question is: who will move to whom? If your man sees the prospect of your relationship in your hometown - fine. But if you have to move to Russia? Are you ready to change your settled way of life and move to a city that is unfamiliar to you or even another country? After all, in your hometown there are parents, friends, work, and you have to move to a strange, unfamiliar place ... Not everyone is able to get along in a new place, even with a loved one who provides all-round support.

But in any case, the correct answer can only be given by your own heart. But if in your destiny there is a person who turned it over, enjoy a magical feeling and try not to think about possible problems! True love will stand the test of distance - like everything else.