Psychologists are often treated by women who do not feel satisfied, despite the fact that they finally managed to lose those extra pounds. Yes, they recognize that they have become healthier and more energetic. That they had the opportunity to wear sexy outfits. And that now men often give them admiring glances. But for some reason, there is no happiness.
But when they were just about to lose weight, their imagination drew such tempting pictures of the future "harmonous" life! It seemed to them that all the old problems would disappear forever with superfluous kilograms. But not everything is as simple as it seems to you. And it is better to prepare in advance for the emotional surprises that arise in the process of your weight loss. If you resort to psychological help and self-hypnosis, you will have much less chance of experiencing stress, because things are not going as you expected.
Treasured dreams
Many women with lush forms dream that, having lost weight, they can easily realize their most cherished dreams. However, harmony does not guarantee the solution of all your problems. According to observations of psychologists, many fatties relate the disposal of extra pounds with a turn to success. For example, some say to themselves: "If I lose weight, I can easily find a prestigious job." Well, others do not doubt for a second that on them, like flies on honey, the handsome millionaires will start to fly.
But in fact, everything remains the same. Woman, losing weight at the cost of incredible efforts, day after day, month after month, waits, when her life will magically change - and all in vain. And from unfulfilled hopes falls into depression. In addition, according to experts, it is these people more often than others that gradually return to their former weight. This time is forever.
How to behave? In this case, psychological help is to focus on a specific goal. And select among your plans those that in no way depend on your weight in kilograms. And go to the goal regardless of the scales. At the same time, decide what advantages you have already got with the harmony. For example, it can be a reduction in blood pressure and cholesterol. Or the opportunity to wear a fashionable mini-skirt. Dreaming of something special, of course, is also necessary. But be honest with yourself and try to choose goals that have at least a minimal chance of implementation. In this regard, probably, you should not build illusions about your artistic talents and present yourself as a popular singer.
But at the same time, you should not completely abandon the lofty goals. And let the weight loss in no way guarantees you an immediate appearance on the stage in a duet with Philip Kirkorov. It is not ruled out that the harmony you have acquired will allow you to become more confident and resolute towards a dream. After all, you could ultimately lose an incredible amount of kilograms! So why do not you take part in the regional pop song contest?
Position of relatives
Perhaps it will seem strange to you, but sometimes close people are negative about the fact that the woman was carried away by the process of losing weight. Apparently, the changes that occur in it, cause them a whole range of feelings. For example, a friend may envy your willpower, because she had not managed to lose weight a year earlier. And the husband will start to be jealous of you, noticing your magic transformation. And this is when you are particularly in need of psychological help when losing weight! This attitude is usually expressed in impartial remarks or actions. Mom can express regret that her daughter becomes bony. A husband - that his wife, disappearing in the fitness club, stopped paying attention to him and pushing him to a service romance. A friend, inviting you to visit, demonstratively put on the table high-calorie dishes.
How to behave? Pass unpleasant comments by the ears and apply the techniques of autosuggestion when losing weight. If close people refuse to support you, support yourself! Do not get hung up on their opinion. But keep in mind that your loved ones, most likely, do not know how displeasing their behavior is. Open their eyes. Tell me how hard it is to give you a loss of extra pounds, and ask them for psychological help. You'll see - if they love you, they'll understand. For example, if your mother is offended, when you give up her cake on a visit, ask your mother to show a different culinary talent next time. That is - to invent a low-calorie dessert.
Do not forget that you and your loved ones are connected by something more than a search for consensus on the question of whether you need to lose weight or not. After all, you appreciate each other for mutual attention. So just try to avoid the topic of eating. If you want to see your friend, do not come to her dinner, and go shopping together in search of fashionable clothes. But you must also meet the "wishes of the working people". And if your husband suddenly becomes sad about traditional sit-ups with pizza, then immediately invite your friends to your home for tasting original vegetable dishes.
Insight
There is nothing surprising in that the transformation from clumsy bbw into a slender beauty causes a flurry of approval from the outside. And at first it is really really nice to hear the surprised exclamations of "How great you have changed!", Or "I hardly recognize you!". But over time it starts to tire and even annoy. And then for all the delights you begin to catch the double meaning: it turns out that in your former weight you were just some walking monster, which you should not pay attention to! And having heard compliments from people who before you, as they say, at point-blank did not see, you with good reason start to suspect that, being fatty, could not represent for them any interest at all. And then you get the impression that your human value depends entirely on your weight in kilos. More precisely - inversely proportional to their number.
How to behave? Psychologists are sure that the majority of people who comment on your magical transformation do it for the best of reasons, because they sympathize with you and therefore want to tell you something pleasant. Another thing is that not always they get it tactfully. Nevertheless, just thank them for the compliment and forget it. In the end, they want to give you psychological help. If you constantly hear enthusiastic exclamations from the same people, try to politely hint to them that you are uncomfortable constantly feel like a bug under a microscope.
But keep in mind that among your surroundings there may be ill-wishers who envy your success. That's their comments will just be hostile. Like: "I see, you're trying to lose weight again." Do not let them undermine your confidence in the success of your planned event. And for this, calmly inspire yourself: "I just constantly take care of my health".
To again not gain weight
Studies show that about half of women who managed to lose weight substantially, without psychological help and self-hypnosis, return to their former weight again during the year. Especially the risk to recover from those who got rid of extra pounds in extreme ways is great. For example, with an overly strict diet or debilitating physical exertion. A great role is also played by the character of a woman. One, having allowed himself a "sin" in the form of a superfluous chocolate candy, the next day he will sit on apples. And thus neutralizes unwanted calories. And the other in such a situation will begin to scold themselves with the last words for the weakness they showed. And drown his grief in a glass of filling.
How to behave? Pay attention to weakness shown to delicious things in your strength. If desired, dissatisfaction with one's own person for eating over the norm can become a strong motivation for deterring oneself in the future. For example, when going on a visit, remember the previous sad experience and for a day, attach a piece of paper to the refrigerator on which it will be written in big letters: "The next 24 hours - nothing sweet!"
Do not be afraid at the same time occasionally allow yourself unforeseen indulgences - from a half-yearly eaten roll, which you casually received at a cafe by a friend you met, there will be no harm. And from the missed on the occasion of your wedding wedding anniversary, an extra kilogram on the body will not appear. But you can keep a good mood, so that you will be much easier to keep the weight you have achieved.
But even if you allow annoying "blunders" in the diet not from time to time, but constantly, do not let despair cover you. It is better to look for more effective deterrents. Apply to outside psychological help and self-hypnosis while losing weight. They say that the presence in the closet of clothes of only one size helps a lot. And as soon as the blouses begin to tighten with difficulty on the chest, and the skirts - at the waist, urgently take action!