Virtually all children from one year to three years are hysterical. Hysteria is a nervous fit, when a child shows his negative feelings by crying, screaming, stomping with his feet. Some children fight during hysterics, others fall to the floor and can fight about it with their hands, feet and head, rolling on the floor. The main reason for hysteria is to achieve the desired result, to defend your point of view, to solicit something from your parents.
Thus, hysterics is used by the child as a way of influencing the parents. And if the parents have not yet understood the secrets of correct behavior during childhood hysteria, they will probably agree with the child in everything to just reassure him. So a year-old child begins to learn how to manipulate his parents, realizing that if he only starts rolling on the floor and crying loudly, any of his wishes will be fulfilled. If each time to indulge in childish whims, then you will be very uncomfortable and awkward from the fact that the baby starts to make hysteria in the store, in the kindergarten, on the street, on a visit. And later it will greatly affect the formation of the nature of the child. He can grow self-willed, selfish, with a bad temper.
So, what should parents do during childhood hysterics?
First, remember that it is possible to prevent attacks of hysterics by correct behavior with the child. Children's attention is easily distracted by interesting pursuits. If you feel that if you refuse to buy your favorite toy, the kid again intends to use his favorite method of influencing you, try to act quickly and unexpectedly for him. For example, distract his attention from the neighboring colorful shop window or invite him to go to his favorite children's playground. If you still could not prevent a fit of hysteria in a public place, it is better to take the child to a less crowded place to give him time to calm down. You also need to be calm yourself. The child is badly affected by the fact that you start screaming, and sometimes it can scare him.
In no case should you be angry and raise your voice on the child during his hysterics, so you only prolong it. Do not argue with the child and do not explain anything to him, he still does not understand you at this moment. The best way out of this situation is to leave the child alone. Let him cry for pleasure. The hysteria lasts a long time only when the child sees that they are watching him. Children like to cry only at the audience. If no one is looking at him, he quickly becomes bored with crying. Seeing that my mother is engaged in his own affairs and is not at all upset about his crying, the kid usually returns to his usual mood.
Some stubborn people need an individual approach: they will not leave the room and will not approach the mother until the mother herself makes a step toward reconciliation. If your child is of such stubborn creatures, do not blame him after he has calmed down, it is better to talk to him kindly, suggest something to do together: draw, read.
One of the unpleasant consequences of nervous overexertion during hysteria is attacks of suffocation, when the child becomes blue and starts to choke. It is better, of course, to avoid such dangerous conditions. But if necessary, do not show the baby the appearance that you are scared. Some special tricksters are able to imitate even attacks of suffocation, if the usual hysterics to my mother is no longer valid!
Attacks of hysteria usually pass, when the child begins to grow up and understand what's what. If the nervous state is normal for a child, and tantrums are repeated 3-4 times a day, then this is not an indicator of a child's mental health. It is necessary to show it to a neurologist, since the increased nervous excitability negatively affects the state of health in general.