And remaining with their feelings, feelings and fears slowly drop their hands. So what to do when there is a drug addict in the family?
Emotions.
To begin with, you need to cope with your emotions, no matter how strong they are. Your confusion, does not help the case, only aggravate the situation. It must be remembered that a drug addict is a sick person, with a predisposition that is transmitted genetically, and can be transmitted even after several generations.
Do not blame yourself. The fact that your relative or family member is a common misfortune, not your fault. This situation usually leads to problems at work, with friends, money, health, in general, when, due to feelings of hopelessness, a person starts to find a way out of the situation with the help of drugs.
Addiction is a serious illness, but it is possible to cure it. Therefore, be determined and begin to act.
The same should be followed the emotional state of a relative-addict. Sometimes, what you notice will help you.
Ask, listen, read.
In the fight against drug addiction, especially when you look for ways to influence the patient, use all the resources: radio, television, the Internet. Do not avoid the same consultations with specialists, such as narcologists and psychologists. Before taking any measures, be attentive to the compliance, the council you found, the life circumstances in which you are. And, of course, be guided by your common sense.
Always remember that you are not alone, just there are those who are silent and take everything for granted, but there are those who are ready to do everything to pull the native person out of this dependence. Know that a drug addict in the family can not be cured if he does not want to. Therefore, you will need maximum efforts, because you probably understand that it is almost impossible to force a person to do what he does not want.
There are many anonymous organizations that offer free assistance not only to drug users themselves, but also to their relatives, teaching them the rules of behavior, safety and advise how to persuade a drug addict to abandon drugs. There you can find support and understanding of the same people as you, get life advice and share your experience. Usually such meetings are anonymous. It will not be bad if you visit several such organizations, so you can get more practical information, as different specialists with diverse practical experience work everywhere and meet situations of varying complexity. Among them there may be many talented specialists who can offer their own system of action.
You can not help shouting business.
Usually if we can not reach a person, we somehow try to shout at him, as if he has problems not with drugs or alcohol, but with hearing. A drug addict in the family - in his own way too deaf to requests, cries, entreaties, their loved ones. Your threats, especially those that you can not do, will also be aimless. Therefore it is worth to be extremely careful in the choice of words.
The addict becomes very irritable, aggressive and in some cases completely uncontrollable. Therefore, your threats can provoke him to act. Keep yourself, be calm, do not try, something to prove to the patient, if he is high. Influence should begin with the provision of external factors. Do not solve the problems of the addict for him, do not give money, even if he got into debt. Do not offer your help yourself, and try to block all the ways that he could get it from someone. Do this so that he himself will ask you for help, and so he forced himself to hear you.
This is not a sign of indifference, as many can, but a way to make a person realize the complexity of the situation. Do not be frightened if at first it causes aggression, irritation, attacks of anger and so on. Do not respond to threats to leave home. In any case, the addict will return there.
Hide from the addict valuable things, money and other items that can become for him a way to earn and buy drugs.
Be firm in your statements and threats, if you still decide to apply them.
100% result.
If, in solving a problem, someone promises a 100% guarantee of a positive result, as well as a very short time for solving the problem - do not believe it. Drug addiction is not a cold, it is not treated with medicines, it also requires a long time and gentle gradual influence.
Currently, statistics say that a positive result will be only in 30 - 50% of cases. Of course, this is very small in comparison with the desired result, but in this situation it is not just a matter of desire.
Therefore, despite your zeal and desire, do not rush to grab the first opportunity. After all, usually under a beautiful advertisement, there is a lack of professionalism and not competence. Especially you should be concerned about the fees for consultations and classes you attend. In most cases, such services should be provided free of charge, with the support of many charitable foundations.
It's also not worth to be guided by the tricks of magicians, healers, fortunetellers who promise to rid you of the problem in one session, and with what through a photo, hair, etc. It is impossible, if such practice was effective, then such people would have already given their services for a long time at the level of drug treatment centers and rehabilitation hospitals.
If you really want to help, your loved ones, it's better to turn to traditional medicine, do your best and have patience. It is also necessary to ensure the support of all family members, because the addict in the family is a common problem. After all, only through joint efforts you can achieve the result.