Since we are talking about the topic of why men refuse a woman in intimacy, then the conversation will go on about tenderness. It would seem that the kittens are tender creatures who love affection, warmth and peace. But let's imagine, for a minute, that we'll spend hours in their hands, stroking, kissing ... What kind of reaction will the kitten have? That's right, he will start scratching, trying to get out. This is a creature who loves affection. Now let's take their opponent - a dog, or a puppy, which, in principle, is not so important. So, try to do the same with the dog. It will not last even five minutes, we take the average dog, and not the withdrawn dog. Now we have to fantasize a little. It is necessary to put the woman, in the place of the cat, and the man - in the place of the dog. At this time, we need to forget about the conflicts between these breeds, we take only their habits and characters.
It turns out that a woman - loves affection, not too much, man - on the contrary does not like affection, he is both rough and playful.
Why do men deny a woman in the vicinity? This is due to the fact that a man is not used to caress. This is a strong sex. He must protect the girl, and not caress. So conceived by nature, but after all, the girls do not care any more. They want to talk with a man about close topics, about relationships, and men are not used to talking about such things, and that's it.
How, after all, to persuade a man to such a conversation? Here, again, you need to think logically. After all, it can not be that he does not need anything from you. Maybe he wants to talk to you, too. You need to find out from him what the topic is. Once you have collected the necessary information, you will need to choose the right moment for the conversation. He should be completely free, in a good mood. Ask him to talk to him on the topic that interests you. He immediately begins to refuse, saying that he is busy or something. You need to mention the topic that will be interesting. It should sound so that he would understand that if you talk to him, he can also get his share of "pleasure." Very often this method works. You need to know that a man has a child's character, you need to behave with him, almost that with a child.
Men refuse a woman in closeness because they refuse to them in their desires. And yet, in the beginning to show closeness is necessary only in a home setting, a man will not be glad that you will start to do it in a crowded place. He will be worried by what the others will think around, no matter how silly it sounds.
Another very interesting point is that men do not agree to all topics on all topics. There are, for example, such topics, which it is better to talk with a friend.
And again, if we return to the world of animals, a man refuses to a woman in the vicinity because they have enough. Do not try to impose on a person what he already has. It will be clearly superfluous. Better get rid of the contacts with each other for a while. Then, when he wants to caress, you can get what you originally wanted.
The frequent reason that a man does not want to talk at all, but simply comes home from work and watches television, is that he gets tired at work both physically and morally. At this time he is not ready for anything, he just wants to rest. You must provide it to him, and on the weekends - talk to him.
For relaxation, you can go with him to the cinema, to a restaurant, well, or to other public places. Be sure to ask him what he would like, but do not forget about your desires. Let him relax with friends, after which he may agree to talk with you.
If he denies you sex, then the main reason here is physical fatigue. Although this is rare, because men dominate this issue. Still there is an option that you do not like him in sex, so he decided to go "to the side", which is quite logical, although it is insulting for you.
Another problem can be with health. Talk with him on this topic, because a man never confesses himself, tries to hide the problem and solve it on his own, without the help of others.
This problem was carefully studied with the example of 4000 people, in this test both men and women participated. The main group included lovers, married couples, single and divorced people. They were all asked a question about sex, what attracts them in it, and what does not appeal to them. As it turned out, the couple had the most interesting results. As it turned out, somewhere around 70% of people interviewed live together without sex. These are the married couples who have lived together for 10 or more months. At the beginning of a family life together with sex they were all excellent, he, they had, was frequent, regular, nothing could affect sex. No work, no stress, no fatigue. But, after a period of time, the sexual attraction to his spouse or wife began to decline, sex, with small steps, began to turn into a rare occupation, which now took place solely to meet physical needs, and not because of sexual craving for a partner.
As we have just figured out, there are a lot of things that obviously hinder the development of marriage, the only well-functioning way is love. You should clearly understand that sex is not just a merger in ecstasy of two bodies, but only two people who have their own individual characteristics. Again, we return to love. After all, this process is usually called right, and not as it is now, that is: "Make love", and not "Have sex." The second case is just a physical action, but the first one ... When you completely understand these features, then you will understand that you are not afraid of any refusal of sex. Why? Because this way you can easily achieve trust and mutual understanding, which will be followed by physical intimacy.