He can not forget his ex-girlfriend
How can you really explain the refusal of a man from a relationship? And than the representatives of the stronger sex explain their reluctance to tie a serious novel?
The first and almost the most basic of the reasons - he can not leave his former girlfriend out of his head, with whom he had serious relations. Even with the appearance of a new woman in life, despite his own instinctive instinct, he can experience a variety of hints to his ex-girlfriend: nostalgia, regret that everything so happened, the desire to turn around, the fear of repeating the story. As a rule, there can be a lot of causes and in each individual case they are individual and directly dependent on what caused the rupture. That's it because of this man for all women's attempts to get close to him does not pay attention. After all, in his heart and thoughts sat the former, with whom he might have dreamed of a joint future. It will help only time, or at the very least, the help of a psychologist. You just have to be patient and wait, trying in every possible way to prove to your chosen one that next to you will be better than with her.
Aggressive women muzhchinam not to taste
Representatives of the stronger sex are ready to disregard the first step from the woman and her attempts to tie the novel if the lady, from their point of view, uses prohibited methods. It can be safely put: constant and "casual" meetings on the street (in a cafe, bar), pesky courtship too intrusive behavior repels the sensible of hardened romantics. And the thing is that every man loves freedom and when he sees a pressure from the woman's side, this is clearly frightening him, if this same woman for the present is not anyone to him. Here the question itself rises: "And what will happen when we begin to meet or we will cement our relations by marriage?".
Also, the postulates of the so-called "code of this man" play a huge role, following which the first step should always come from the man. Aggressiveness and assertiveness is its element. But a woman should be characterized by such features as complaisance, gentleness, but not at all the temper of the predator, ready to pounce on the guy, as if on a sacrifice and by all means make him his guardian, and in time and her husband.
However, this, of course, does not mean that you should sit without doing something and wait for "the weather's on the sea", when the man himself will decide (for some unknown reason) to go to the stage of serious relations. Men are much nicer, more delicate and gradually seduced. Be able to slowly "accustom" a man to yourself, and then you will not have time to blink with an eye, as he will take the first step and officially call you his beloved girl.
Men fear a refusal
As a rule, men are good at catching even the most important marks of attention from a woman and distinguish them perfectly, to whom they are referred, but too complex combinations of such hints and signs of attention will surely lead them astray. Especially desperate to understand all these female tricks and tricks even turn to a psychologist with question: "Does not she say that she likes me?" You probably experienced a very unpleasant sensation when sitting at home on the phone with the hope that it is about to ring (especially if this call is very important for you). It is insecure that he makes you another trophy, checking his skills of a real macho - a routine condition that accompanies any first (and not always the first) date. A curious fact is that men, no matter how strange it may sound, experience a different feeling. And this very feeling can arise even after the sexual contact. And suddenly it can happen that he can not fully justify all the hopes and dreams that a woman lays on him, seeing him with him in the role of his boyfriend, or it may be that a woman tries to conquer him, wanting to put another tick in her list "Broken Heart"! So the refusal of a man is still a non-proof that he does not want a relationship with you. Perhaps this is simply fear of what awaits him in these very relations, the likelihood of their soon finals, etc. Here the only way to correct the situation is to prove to him the sincerity of his intentions regarding your joint future.
It's never worth the spirits
A man, just like a woman, has a whole lot of reasons to refuse a relationship (and even after having been well spent in the home). We have given only a few that are among the most common. But it should always be remembered that for whatever reason a man refuses in reciprocity, one should never allow oneself to lose heart. Estimate the situation entirely on the other hand: maybe this man does not suit you at all and he has the same right to refuse, as you are in a similar situation. Remember that there are so many attractive, interesting and free men around you who, without forcing themselves to wait long, will themselves offer you a serious relationship and perhaps in the near future your hand and heart.