There are couples in which a man always feels the most intelligent, but his woman thinks very stupid. He constantly reminds her of this and categorically reacts to any of her words and proposals: you are not right. Why do guys do this, and what is the reason for such a negative attitude to a woman's mental abilities?
Complexes
Very often men are not as smart as they want to seem. And in the soul they themselves know about this, but in the hearing they never admit. If next to such a man is a woman who is smarter and wiser, for a guy this turns out to be a real blow. He perfectly understands that a girl can convince others in his wrong. And this means that he will lose his authority before friends and relatives. Naturally, the young man does not like this script. He does not want to fall from his pedestal and begins to belittle the mental abilities of his heart. Most often these guys do not listen at all. As soon as the girl starts talking, they immediately shout that she is not right and knows nothing. And the man can not argue the above, so the situation decides by shouting, unpleasant jokes or moral pressure. In such a situation with a guy it is impossible to argue or argue, because he does not want to know the truth. He just wants to hide his weak mental faculties.
The manifestation of despotism
Unfortunately, there are more complex and unpleasant situations in which the guy constantly tries to show that his girlfriend is not right. It's about despotism. Unlike the notorious people, despots are smart enough and cunning. They know perfectly well what to say and where. And in the mental faculties, the girls publicly doubt only because they know that the more a person thinks, the more difficult it is to control him. In the relations of the despot and the victim, control is the basis. Despots never allow their women to think and make decisions themselves. When a despot begins to communicate with someone, he sets up a "pseudocontact".
What is it about? Contacting people, we always ask something, we are interested and so on. But sometimes people do not want to contact us. Despots know how to manipulate our consciousness in such a way that it seemed to us that this communication is necessary. Often, initially, the girl does not even notice that her boyfriend is a despot. She is sure that the young man is very caring and tries to help in everything, correct where she is not right. But over time, the victim of despot will be wrong in everything. She constantly has to listen to whole tirades because she does not know anything and can not. What is this for? It's very simple, in this way the despot "binds" the victim to herself and wants to root in her mind the opinion that she is not capable of anything and will simply lose ground without his strong shoulder and wise head.
In fact, everyone despotrevalno estimates the mental capabilities of his partner and the smarter she is, the more he convinces the woman of the opposite. Without even realizing it, in his deeds the dictates are guided by the fear of loss. He does not want to remain without a beloved wife, but he thinks that otherwise it will be impossible to keep her. In addition, despots try to make from their halves the ideal people that they once thought of themselves. So it turns out that criticizing his woman, the despotic man simply tries to adjust it to the standards. If this does not happen, the girl is in all wrong. Despotic behavior is a psychological violation. If a pair can not accept an opinion that is different from his own, then he clearly is not an absolutely adequate person. Those who have a stable psyche never suffer such paranoia. Such men give their women freedom of choice and want them to self-actualize, learn something new and so on. Uniquely there is no obsessive fear of being abandoned. If a man on any occasion closes his mouth to a woman and convinces her that she is not right, and then the decision is ideal - that means, before us is an individual with a disturbed mentality who does not and can not adequately assess reality.
In this case, the woman ceases to have the right to vote. The man just does not hear and does not want to hear her opinion. It is worth noting that despotism may be more conscious or less conscious. If a person is fully aware of what he is doing, he blames the woman for not being right to intimidate her and convince her that she can not live without him, since no such dull and stupid chicken is needed. Those who do not realize their destiny simply think that a woman is wrong, because she does not behave like her imaginary ideal should do. Speaking of the fact that she is wrong, the guy disorients the girl, makes her get upset. She no longer can understand who is right and who is wrong. And if a man has a sharp mind, he can confuse the woman so that in the end, she really will believe in her stupidity, short-sightedness and even underdevelopment. Thus, the despot will receive full control over her and will manage her all her life. A woman, in turn, simply comes to the conclusion that she really is not capable of anything, therefore she will always live the mind of her young man and from a certain moment will begin to say that she is always wrong and she should be silent, because her boyfriend knows himself , how to correctly enter.