Why do we really want or do not want to get married?


Honestly, everyone has their own opinion about this. And the reasons for marrying (an awful word) are also personal for each of us. And sometimes they are not at all. Just "it happened", or "did not work out" ... In fact, it is very interesting: why do we really want or do not want to get married? Perhaps, confessing to ourselves, we will save ourselves from many problems in the future? And not only yourself ...

I WANT TO GET MARRIED!

Like all normal girls, I wanted to get married. In 16 years - virtually and detached. In 19 - it's crazy and as soon as possible. At 22 I was glad that I did not "jump out" for the first person I met and did not "break my life" - in short, I enjoyed what I had. At 25, I again wanted to marry, now the soul demanded home comfort, household comfort and stability. And at 27, I suddenly realized - what a happiness it is to live as you want yourself! Do what you want, come home when you want, do not wash dishes, cook dinner, do not answer calls, wear transparent chiffon blouses without underwear, put tattoos on any part of your body and sleep with anyone you want, in the end! Not life, but a fairy tale! Only sometimes it rolls something like nostalgia. Like some kind of envy to others. Maybe, after all, this is my unrealized dream of a stamp in the passport makes itself felt? ..

1. I WANT TO FAMILY. Yes, I want a family, children and, after all, a husband. I want someone to love me, to be jealous, cared for, worried that I wear heavy bags and have little rest, gave me flowers and cleaned my shoes. I want to "be someone's" - a wife, a mother and, as a consequence, a mother-in-law or mother-in-law. Even if I have a lover, I want to be afraid to offend my husband's betrayal, and not my own forever searching for something "I". I want to be under someone's protection, in someone's fortress, behind someone's stone wall. Perhaps I'm a thing? And looking for a buyer? Well, so be it.

2. I AM AFRAID OF LONELINESS. If for someone it's an empty apartment on a festive evening, then for me the phrase - "Do you have anybody now?" A lonely man is a lost man. He always has to prove to others that he is "not a camel." You see, it was not invented by us and it's not for us to change the cycle of nature. If mankind is destined to be divided into pairs, if it is written to him on a genus to produce his own kind, then do not invent something new. This is the law of nature. You can call it the instinct of self-preservation. By the way, living together is much easier and much more interesting. If only this voluntary union. And if your husband will be not only a good lover, but also a true friend, then, you are lucky!

3. EVERY GIRL SHOULD LEAVE MALE. I understand that I am succumbing to the stupid instinct of the crowd, but I completely agree. Apparently, we were brought up like this. In the first place is the family. Career, a favorite thing, some personal interests - it's all "for later." "You're a girl!". Installation in childhood all had one thing - to sit and wait for the prince. As if you do not have others. By the way, and where is the guarantee that the prince is looking for you, not the princess? .. No, in no case should you detract from your dignity. Yes, I am the best, kind, beautiful ... But I do not need to forget about flaws either. Because this is the case when you can say "love" not "for something", but "contrary" to something ... Unfortunately. The "prince-princess" alliance is so rare and so fragile that it does not always attract a marriage option. Perhaps it is worth looking around?

4. "MOM, DO NOT BURN!". Mom, really, in truth, honestly, I swear - I'm married! Now you do not have to worry about "my future". A man has finally appeared with me. And note - my personal, husband. And it does not matter that we will live in his one-room on the outskirts, because in my kopeck piece he refuses to enter. And we will ride on his "five", and my car will be put in the garage, because "it is now difficult to service two cars for us. But most importantly, Mom, I'm very glad that you are glad. And now, in a conversation with neighbors or colleagues at work, you can "put it together" - "... but my brother-in-law!", And look meaningfully from side to side. I hope, now I have ceased to be that ugly creature, without which in the family well in any way! Although earlier expressed easier - "a woman with a cart, a mare easier."

I DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED!

Why do men get married? I do not know. Women, in the majority, marry for the decision of the, first of all housing, then financial problems. And when both are decided, then tell me - what's the point? There is another category - "pilots". Well, those who are "on the fly." A stupid definition, by the way. Although for those who want to combine - the option is acceptable. Reliability (the fact that you are getting married) - 70 percent. Although I'm in place of a man in such a situation, I would not willy-nilly marry. In this case, there is discrimination of the rights of the strong half - why does it abruptly become a scoundrel only because of the unwillingness to have a child and start a family? The tale of the sleigh that needs to be carried should be told first of all to the girls. In order to take the decision to go to bed, they continued to make all subsequent decisions on their own. I do not want to get married! Because, as beautiful or picturesque, but it's a burden. And I do not have the confidence that I can pull it. I am the way I am. And it's hard for me to change myself. I do not like cooking, I'm too lazy to iron things, and I just hate cleaning the bathroom. I also never go out on time to work, so when I shut the door, after me in the apartment - as if Mamai had passed! I'll clean up in the evening. And I'll take out the garbage in the evening. And anyway, I see no reason to have someone else in my apartment.

1. "HAVE TO BE AS ALL". Against such an argument, I apologize, you will not trample on. When everyone is standing in line for "something", for some reason, and you should be in it (queue) to get up. Why "get married"? Because everyone is out? And I do not want to be like everything. I know, to be unmarried is to be minus in the eyes of others. A free woman causes fear. Especially - a woman who is able to live without help, to make a career, to support relatives. Unwillingness to "be like everyone else" is not yet an excuse to refuse marriage. It is not necessary to formalize a relationship, you can "try" the civil ...

2. FREEDOM. Strange as it may seem, I treasure it very much. Not in the sense of riotous life or relationships, but the preservation of life as before. In a marriage it is unlikely to work. Habits, tastes, friends, work, after all! All this is afraid of losing not only men. It's ridiculous to defend independence after Mendelssohn's march. Or to swing the rights in the kitchen - whose turn is to wash the dishes ?! But I also do not want to turn into a submissive home servant. A thin line of doubt. Fear of "losing yourself". And where is the confidence that the present I am the REAL I? ..

H. STRAX. I'm afraid of destroying the relationship. Legal marriage relaxes - "Now we are married, where will you get away from me?". In principle, nowhere. I just can stop loving, I can cool off, I can not like you, I'll get bored! I am now an integral part of "our family life"! As, indeed, you. I'm afraid of losing romance. Why go to the movies? We have the same DVD. Which restaurant? Can not we eat dinner at home? .. You're crazy! How much are these shoes??? Logically, this chain should end with the phrase - "We need to part ways ...". Normal fear, normal phobia. It's only fools diving into the pool with a head.

4. WHAT NOT, THAT CAN NOT BE DESTROYED ... If we are not registered, then we can not divorce? .. We can not quit each other, because in principle each other "was not selected"? Straight a tale of eternal love. It does not matter what I want, what I strive for and what I'm afraid of. We ourselves draw to ourselves the situations in which we subsequently find ourselves. And if I'm still not married, then, for some reason I do not want this. And if I do not suffer from this, and if I feel comfortable living the way I live, is it worth paying attention to the opinions of those who do not agree with my point of view? Call it the crown of celibacy, remember the blue stocking and even you can brand me as an old maid. This is your view of MY life. But not mine.