Your husband uses the excuse that "you need to get back on your feet".
Usually men say: "I bear all the material responsibility for the family and I do not want to" produce poverty, "I'm not ready to give up my career, I need to achieve material independence and prosperity." Sometimes such words postpone the appearance of the child for a long indefinite period, often - for "never".
Perhaps, this tactic of persuasion will help in this case.
Any parent wants to give the child the best of the possible, but not always the material side should be fundamental. Quite often, children who get everything they want, grow up to be selfish and dependents. Try to convince her husband that for his child will be more important than his father's love, not expensive toys and clothes. Children - this is the most important thing in life, this is the pinnacle of love. An apartment in a prestigious area and a large bank account will not make a child happy. Only strong parental love and care can do this.
The reason for the refusal may lie in weakening the feelings towards you.
If your beloved man, presenting his future, does not include you in his plans - this is a very bad sign. Most likely, he is no longer sure of his feelings, and living together with you is not part of his future intentions. In this case, the refusal to start a child becomes understandable.
Tactics of persuasion, which should be used in this situation.
Try to resolve conflicts within the family, and then start a conversation about children. The birth of a child will not keep your husband and will not save a decaying marriage. Even if your pregnancy stops a beloved man, then, it is unlikely that this will last long. And if your deceit reveals itself, then your family happiness will disintegrate immediately.
The husband does not want a child, for fear of responsibility.
If your husband is afraid of responsibility, then, most likely, he was brought up so. He is not against the child theoretically, but does not understand what he will do with the child in practice, if he suddenly appears. Such a man says a lot about children, but constantly mentions that before you have children, you need to think about the responsibility that they will have to bear for them. Apparently, the reason for refusing to have a child is in childhood.
In this case, try to apply this tactic of persuasion.
Try to teach him to take care of someone. Let it be a dog or other domestic pet. Tell him about your happy family, about your love for your caring father. Often go to visit friends who have children. Seeing a friend in the role of a happy dad, your husband will understand that, perhaps, not everything is as scary as he represents.
It happens that it is not yet time for a man to have children.
Marriage for him is not a step in adulthood, but another entertainment. Such a man is frightened by the appearance of a small creature, for which it is necessary to bear adult and constant responsibility. Age in this situation does not matter - some men already at twenty can mature to become a daddy, and some in fifty it is difficult to imagine. Theoretically, they want to have children, but sometime later, in the distant future. Such men rarely get offspring, because they always find an excuse for postponing this important event.
Try to apply this tactic of persuasion.
Try to talk more often with your husband about possible offspring, and prepare him for it in advance. On the questions, how much more to wait, require specific answers. If the deadline is right for you, let your husband understand that you are waiting for the promised time and do not intend to delay the birth of the child. Thus, you show your husband that his words are the law for you, and if he values you, he will take his promise with all responsibility.
Your man does not want children, because he already has a child.
Quite often, men who have a child from the first unfinished marriage, do not dare to have children in a subsequent marriage. For them, the child is associated with difficulties and multiple responsibilities. They do not understand how much pleasure can be obtained from the constant care of children.
In this situation, try to apply this tactic of persuasion.
Of course, to persuade a man with experience of unsuccessful paternity is much more difficult than inexperienced. Make it clear to the husband that the child brings not only problems, but also joy. On the example of your family, tell us that being parents is both a heavy and very pleasant share that will bring many joyful moments.
The child's health is not allowed by the man.
This is the only serious reason that prevents the procreation. Many men, knowing about their problems, are embarrassed to talk about it and are dissuaded by "unwillingness to have children."
Perhaps this tactic of persuasion will help in this case.
If you actively push on a man, then soon it can lead to a divorce. He, unconsciously feeling guilty, does not want to spoil your life and will disappear from it - suddenly you are lucky, and you will meet a person who will give you the joy of motherhood. Give your husband to understand that you are not comfortable with an outsider, that you want a child only from him. Try to let your husband tell you about his problems. Convince him that the hope to heal and have a baby always exists.
Because of the birth of children, the husband is afraid of losing you.
Rather, your husband is afraid that his beloved and beautiful wife will change for the worse: lose a slim figure, grow cold towards sexual relations, stop paying attention to him.
In this case, you need to convince your husband that his thoughts are wrong.
Try to explain to your husband that after the birth of a child the woman acquires even greater sexuality and attractiveness, that in bed she becomes more relaxed. There are many ways to achieve the former harmony of the figure and not become fat. Tell him that you do not expect to bury yourself in the four walls after pregnancy. If all your persuasions do not work, try to get pregnant secretly from her husband. But before that, it's good to evaluate your capabilities. If all of your promises to your husband are not in vain, and you will still watch yourself, pay attention to your husband and constantly show how you love him, you can start acting.