Scientists have proved that about 90 percent of people's contacts are non-verbal. But how to understand what the man wants to communicate, when he communicates with you? How to learn to perform the function of a lie detector? The language of our body is a reflex.
Everything that a person feels is manifested first in the limbic system of the brain (head). And after a few nanoseconds - in the mind. This means that gestures and all kinds of gestures are real truth.It seems that it is not difficult to become a detector of lies. Just need to know what gestures mean. But even highly qualified specialists determine the meaning of the physical reactions of a person by 60-70 percent. However, you can increase your chances and read the language of the body of a man. To do this, you need to look at his behavior in his usual environment, take into account the amount of wine drunk, poor lighting in the room and other factors. In other words, it is necessary to look very closely at your chosen one. And only after that try to determine his behavior when something goes wrong.
Ask him what he often dreamed of in his early childhood. Let him relax a little, and then evaluate his behavior on the following levels: the situation, consistency, comfort and combination.
How comfortable is his body at the moment? If he wants to bend over to you, unfolds his feet and torso in a direction convenient for him, then there is contact. If he hides his hands from you, tries to turn away, often looks away, when he looks at you, then at that moment he is uncomfortable.
What does the pose say? If the first date a man is nervous, tries to avoid prolonged eye contact, fidgets in a chair, then this is normal behavior. But if he crosses his arms on his chest or leans back, he does not want to talk to you, talk. Before you begin to study his gestures, you need to assess the situation. Perhaps the cafe is very cold.
Consistency: words and actions must match. If he says that he is very comfortable with you now, but his view is removed to the exit - this is a bad sign. If he agrees with you, but slightly shakes his head - this is also bad.
Combination. Many gestures are better read in combination. If a man does not want to answer questions about his ex-wife, then this is normal. But if after this question he turns away, looks away, feels his nose or lobes of ears, knocks on his knees, then it's not all that simple! He can hide something from you.
Smile. Is it real? Does it concern the eye? A false smile will affect only the lips, and from a real smile appear small corners in the corners of the eyes. They can not be faked in the opinion of experts.
Nose. When a man is agitated or angry, then there is an increase in heart rate, his nostrils widen. Tors looks at him in the direction of interest. But if a man turns away at a conversation, he does not concentrate his attention on you.
Feet. They can tell you about the true intentions of your companion. If your feet are looking in your direction, then you are the object of his attention. If he mentally left you, your feet will look at the door.
Arms. If the hands he laid on the table with his hands up, then the person is interested in you and absolute calm. The hands hidden under the table indicate that the interlocutor wants to hide something. But maybe a person is just nervous.
Touch. Any person wants to touch what he likes. So people are arranged. If you are supported at the waist or touching the hand, this is a sign of great interest in your person. The hands hidden behind your back indicate that it is undesirable for you to approach it closely. The widely spaced legs indicate that he feels himself the master of the situation. If he crosses his legs, then the leg lying on top should be facing you. This is a very good sign.
Eyes. If a person says untruth, he will hide and look away. But this is also known by liars, so they do not aspire to betray themselves. Looking straight into your eyes, they start to lie. See how often your satellite flashes. The rate is up to 10 times for a minute. More often - a person says untruth.
Listen carefully to the person. Ask direct questions to him. If from the answers he begins to evade or, conversely, describe something in great detail, then know that you want to be deceived.
The language of your body. Always keep the body relaxed and open, if you want to make an impression on the other person. If he leans toward you, then do it too. Wine glass with wine at the same time, watch his gestures and tone of voice and imitate him. It will seem to him that you have very much in common, are similar to each other, connected by "one wave".