Leave for him is stress. As, however, and reading books, meeting with friends, socializing with family. For him, life is work, work and more work ... What is the workaholic syndrome - professional combustion or sincere devotion to your cause?
WHO WORKS BEFORE DEATH
Our word "workaholic" sounds like a compliment. It means a conscientious employee who is not considered with time and effort. In fact, there is a big difference between a hardworking employee and a workaholic. A person who gives a lot of energy to work, always sees the goal and strives for the final result. For a person with a workaholic syndrome, the process is important. As soon as the work is drawing to a close, he begins to worry, he is looking for something to plunge into again. If for an industrious employee work is only a part of life, then for a workaholic is a way of filling time.
In the pragmatic West and the wise East already understood the danger of workaholism. "Living only with work is dangerous for health," proclaimed the Japanese Ministry of Labor in the early 1990s, when clerks began to literally die at work - from heart attacks, strokes, heart failure.
THIS IS A DIAGNOSIS
Today, workaholism is a diagnosis. And here are its main symptoms.
1. A person is in constant stress, loading himself with work more and more. All the problems that arise in the office, he takes so close to his heart, as if his life depends on it - in the literal sense.
2. For a workaholic there are no free evenings, weekends, holidays. This is just another opportunity to work, "when nothing is distracting."
3. "Maniacs of Labor" become stale, selfish towards their relatives. Their problems seem to small workaholics and cause only irritation. And inevitably arising because of this conflicts in the family - another reason to plunge into the work.
4. From the life of a workaholic, books, movies, walks, meetings with friends disappear - all this he considers a senseless waste of time.
"HUNTING HORSES ..."
Work less "damned capitalists" do not call out from humanism. They figured: a man working for wear, is unprofitable. Due to heavy overloads, he often has nervous breakdowns, and the constant stress in which he drives himself, entails professional combustion and leads to chronic illnesses.
In addition, a workaholic often jealously refers to the recognition of his services, offended when his zeal does not celebrate the bosses, he becomes indignant if someone tries to check and control him. All this creates a nervous atmosphere in the team.
Even worse, when the workaholic syndrome - the boss. He torments subordinates with petty tutelage and the regulation of each step. If an employee leaves home at the appointed time, the head will never give him a bonus or an increase in salary, because he considers him lazy. Such a chief has a great turnover of staff, because not all people can and only want to live by work.
The workaholic even changes the nature of intoxication. If most people, having drunk wine in the company, are kidding, begin to have fun, then the "labor maniac" becomes aggressive, seeks conflicts.
HOLIDAYS SYNDROME
In summer magazines often publish funny pictures: a man is sitting on the beach, burying himself in a laptop, and calling two mobile phones at once. In fact, it's not funny at all. Thus, the protection of a person from the "summer vacation syndrome" is manifested.
Workaholism is akin to drug addiction, in any case, the mechanism is similar. A person who enjoys a job well done, wants to experience this euphoria again and again. If he does not find such a feeling of joy in anything other than in his profession, he increases the tempo, increases the load. Constant employment, demand brings "drug addict from work" a real buzz.
If a person suddenly loses all of this, he really experiences "breaking". It turns out that after a frenzied labor race lying on the beach, it's like stopping at a speed of 160 kilometers per hour. The workaholic has depression, irritability, a sense of emptiness and worthlessness. To prevent this from happening, people who are fixated at work should prepare for the holiday in advance.
BUNGALOW IN THE OFFICE
To begin with, find a calming landscape for yourself: a bungalow on the ocean, a sunny beach, narrow streets of a medieval European city - and put this picture on your desktop or make a screensaver on your computer. Every time your eyes fall on it, the thought will arise in your head: "How good it is there! It's time to leave! "
A person with a workaholic syndrome professional combustion does not give an opportunity to stop fussing, stop running of thoughts. Try to practice. A week before your vacation, at least once a day, do this procedure: sit in a chair and stay in it for 5-10 minutes, doing nothing: not thinking, reading, not talking. Those who work for 12-14 hours, this is given very difficult. But such time-outs are "investments" in the future vacation.
For a week or earlier call customers and partners, say that go on vacation. Tell them whom they can contact in your absence. Discuss with your boss whether your work can wait a couple of weeks, or you need to find someone who will perform it.
NOT WITH "ASKOY", AND WITH "ASEI"
No matter how tired you are, you have to leave on leave, from the city where you live and work. Otherwise, you will be tempted to turn on the computer, look at the mail, chat with colleagues in the ICQ. You yourself will not notice how you will again be dragged into your precious work.
If during the year you are wound up on business trips and you can not see the planes, go on vacation by train or car. Do not take your laptop with you: things have the ability to tune us into what they personify. You see a swimsuit, a straw hat, a glass with a refreshing cocktail - there are pleasant associations with the holiday. Look at the office equipment - internally going and tuning to work. In case you urgently need to view e-mail, you can do it in the Internet salon, which are now available in any large city.
Harder with a mobile phone. If his number is known to your colleagues and business partners, then you will be forced on vacation to solve working problems. Despite the warning that you are going on vacation, someone will necessarily "break through", because this question can not be solved without you. Some people, going on vacation, do this: they buy another number and report it only to those who have the right to bother them only in case of emergency.
The most difficult thing is to switch yourself from the frenzied rhythm in which you lived recently, to a slower, more relaxed one. Strangely enough, this helps reading the classics. Take with you is not a detective in the style of action, but Turgenev or Tolstoy. A leisurely narrative, detailed descriptions, a slow development of the plot - everything tends to pacify and calm.
DESTROY YOURSELF
Workaholic, who decided to go on vacation, often thinks: "I'll just sleep and lie on the sand like a corpse." But it's just that he can not relax. Therefore, the first days should be structured as much as possible and filled with supposedly necessary deeds. So you deceive yourself, and the body will not experience "breaking".
If you are a boss and tired of making decisions, take responsibility for yourself, instruct to organize your holiday travel agency. Let them take you somewhere, they lead, entertain, lower it under the water, raise it into the mountains. Swim to exhaustion to relieve nervous tension. Go to the procedures where you will be massaged, relaxed.
If at work you only fulfill other people's decisions, you better go on a camping trip, experience extreme kinds of rest. This will give an opportunity to show initiative, feel responsibility.
And only after such a shake can you advise a workaholic to relax. And he can already try to do it. Now he will no longer perceive sunbathing on the beach, wandering in an unfamiliar city and even an hour of sleep after dinner as a waste of time. Now he can calmly examine paintings in the museum and frescoes in the temple, admire the setting sun and enjoy a glass of good wine in the coastal restaurant.