The first love comes to someone early, to someone late. But it always comes. For most parents, the first love of a teenage child is a great test, mainly because their son or daughter is gradually moving away from them so that in the near future they leave their parents' home and start a family.
Particularly opposed to the first relationship is the parents of the only child in the family. In this case it is necessary to talk about parental jealousy. Often in such cases, parents can not accept any relationship of their child. In school years, they forbid the child to be friends with someone, explaining this by the fact that he needs to study, in the future it is necessary to prepare for examinations, to get higher education, to build a career and so on all his life. It's hard for parents to explain that you will not go against nature. The children of such jealous parents go basically in two ways: the way of the mother's little sons or daughters, listening to their parents, and the way of Romeo or Juliet, breaking the parent's framework.
But it is very important to be able to keep a warm relationship with your child during his first love. If the child will trust you, he will share with you his problems, as with an older friend. The main thing is to let him know that you are not negative towards him or his choice. Leave your personal feelings in yourself for the time being.
Often parents are afraid of the child's first relationship, as they consider his choice unsuccessful. Basically, this is a mistaken opinion. But if this is really so, do not lock the child at home, not allowing him to meet the object of his first love. So you just strengthen his feelings. Trust your child, he sometimes knows best what to do. And if his choice is wrong, he will soon understand it. A person must make mistakes in order to know the world around him. Do not think that if your child falls in love, he immediately decides to bind himself by marriage. First love is more fleeting, not binding.
Of course, in order to avoid unpleasant situations, in particular, this refers to the parents of girls, it is necessary that the child received by this time enough information about what sex is and where the children come from. Do not put pressure on the child and ask him for details of his personal life. We need to create such an auspicious atmosphere that he himself wants to share with us his successes and problems.
It is best to allow the child to bring his soul mate to visit. So the children will always be under your supervision. The word "control" is inappropriate here, since adolescents, everyone knows, avoid all appearance of parental control, especially in matters of the heart.
Never say to a child: "You have such Tan, Kat, Len will still be so much ..." In adolescence, youthful maximalism passes all the limits of the reasonable, the child will not appreciate your participation, because his chosen one or the chosen one is the best and you must, Nilly, keep your negative thoughts to yourself.
Treat the first love of your child with parental wisdom. Recollect, what was your reaction when his first tooth was cut through? You rejoice that it grows. And when did the child go? You rejoice that he will know the world. The first love is also the knowledge of the world, of human psychology and feelings. Give your child freedom of choice and stay close to him, supporting him in difficult situations. And then nothing bad in your family will happen exactly.