In the new year from scratch: how to learn to forgive

Before the New Year we try to get rid of trash and dirt, distribute debts, so that with the battle of the chimes a new and beautiful life has come. But Santa Claus is unlikely to put a peace of mind under the tree. We can receive this gift only through our own efforts. Start now - and by December 31 your efforts will pay off!


Before the New Year, conflicts are often aggravated. A beloved man does not want to take you to rest in hot countries, and even it turns out that he did not even plan to celebrate the New Year with you in the same company. To you at home, distant relatives ask, which you do not long to see. The boss forces you to go to work, despite the holidays. Children beg for very expensive gifts. Reasons for resentment can be many. And the only way out is to learn how to forgive.

What are dangerous unforgiven grievances?

All processes in the human body are regulated by the central nervous system and consciousness.

We eat, move, say - all these actions we can stop and start when we want. But are we able to accelerate or slow down the work of the heart, affect the operation of the stomach and intestinal motility? Paradoxically, but in many respects - yes. When we feel resentment, anger and irritation, the production of some hormones increases, which immediately affects the well-being. Heart palpitations increase, pressure rises, the work of the gastrointestinal tract is disrupted. We influence the condition of other people. In a room where tension reigns, stress is experienced by all present. And among the cheerful, benevolent people, and it feels good and warm for us.

Emotions are contagious. And what happens in the body if the infection is not treated? The focal point of the disease fades, but does not disappear. And with a decrease in immunity, a relapse occurs. Unforgiven grievances accumulate inside, poisoning and beginning to influence behavior and speech. Man becomes evil and bad. In addition, negative emotions are reflected on the face. Forgiveness is one of the best cosmetic and revitalizing procedures. Cultivating an insult, a person as if declares himself a victim and ... provokes others to offend him again and again.

How to leave grievances in the old year?

Analyze the situation. Even if it seems to you that you were unjustly offended, think, what could you cause such behavior? Answer honestly:

  1. Could you prevent a negative development of events?
  2. Did you offend those who offended you? Maybe you hurt your pride, did not fulfill your promises? Is your abuser really bad? What did he expect from you? Could he have acted differently? Maybe he just had no choice?
  3. Do you take advantage of the status of an offended person? Do not you try to hide behind grievances and shift responsibility for your life to others?
  4. Do you allow yourself to be manipulated?
  5. Are not you too demanding of others?
  6. If you are offended by life (not that appearance, lack of money, connections), then what did you yourself do to change it?
  7. Do you strive for the ideal by rejecting reality? Assess life soberly and do not envy millionaires, movie stars and top models. You are not worse than them - you are just different. And there is nothing wrong with that. Try to reach your norm, because the norm is an ideal.
Do not be afraid to see yourself not on the most attractive side. By giving yourself introspection at least 15 minutes a day, you will learn how to predict the course of events. After answering the questions, go to the action.

"All will pass, and this will pass" - was carved on the ring of King Solomon, considered the wisest man of his time. Your grievance is in fact too small to fill a lifetime or at least one more year. Of course, if you do not cherish it and cherish it ...