Men in principle are not emotional beings. They are rational, their main purpose is to make decisions and do physical work. At most, what they are usually capable of expressing feelings - it's logical to express their thoughts about your new hairstyle, they say, it completely goes. A man prefers to limit himself to one sentence and do not go into the intricacies of compliments that you sometimes need. But, perhaps, he just does not know how nice it will be for you to open his expression of feelings and emotions? Try to teach him to express what seems so simple and natural to you, something that he keeps silent about, for fear of looking weak and feminine.
Woman and man: you feel - he thinks.
Psychologists accurately determined the main reason why men can not express their feelings about a woman openly. And any other feelings. This can easily be understood during a joint film review. If his finale is unexpectedly sad, then the woman frankly admits that she is sad, offended or simply unpleasant to see such an end. A woman speaks openly about what she feels, not what she thinks. The man immediately hit in the comments and assessments: "the end is clearly unsuccessful" or "the film is interesting, but it all ended somehow illogical." Do you know such words and thoughts? Yes, a man from childhood is called upon to express thoughts, give everything an assessment, analyze everything and compare everything. The same applies to your relationship. He will evaluate them in terms of "bad" and "good." A man by nature thinks and analyzes, and a woman - delicately feels. Therefore, women more often live in harmony with their feelings, it is easier for them to find contact with different people. You can easily tell a friend frankly: "What a good girl you are! I love you so much! ". And if the same man will tell his friend? Can we call him after that a man? So before blaming a loved one that a man does not express his feelings, think about the stereotypes of our society.
Education of men and women is radically different. The main difference lies in different life goals and priorities. Women receive upbringing, initially little focused on achieving success and career growth. That's why they are freer in expressing their feelings. A man is taught from early age to express clearly and logically his thoughts and go into unnecessary emotions. Mom from infancy inspires the boy: "Do not cry - you're a man! "As if he can not take offense, grieve and feel pain ... As a result, an adult man does not express his feelings, so as not to look like a weakling.
It is also obvious that the woman is not involved in the struggle for survival, which is constantly exposed to the consciousness of real men. And, all the same, creating a happy union between a man and a woman is not an arena for rivalry and finding out who is worth something. People live together for love, which should teach a man to fully express.
Become an emotional mentor.
Before you become her for your lover and teach him to show openly feelings for you, adjust to the fact that it will not be easy to come to the desired result. Be patient and condescending towards a man. Remember that you were originally brought up in different ways. It is through education in the parent family that your loved one has become what he is and almost does not express feelings.
Often women, when they try to teach their loved one to become more open and emotional, start a conversation with the words: "I give you more than I get in return," or: "Why do not you ever tell me about love? "Such accusations will lead to nothing good. No normal man will tolerate pressure and accusations, so he will immediately begin to resist. At best, it will be the phrase: "You already know that I love, do not repeat it every time! ". In the worst case, the man will simply leave. You will not get satisfaction in any way, pulling out such a "frank" confession from him. The reaction of a man will only offend you, instilling doubts about his feelings. You will make a sudden conclusion that all men are soulless and callous creatures!
Therefore, the first step that you have to do is to frankly admit to the beloved that you would like to bring more sensuality into your relationship. In other words, first start talking with him in the language of feelings! At first the man will perceive this language as foreign, it can seem to him at first glance difficult and incomprehensible. But if you really love an intelligent man, then he will be able to overcome any difficulties and successfully learn a new language for the relationship.
How to communicate in the language of the senses.
Women speak in the language of feelings involuntarily. For example, you can often hear from a woman the phrase: "I was so upset." A man rarely confesses that something can upset him or someone. He is only able to go into evaluative judgments: "In this situation he was not right", or: "I do not like it". The man's vocabulary in the field of feelings is extremely limited, his attitude to everything he expresses only in terms of "good" or "bad."
The most suitable place to start teaching a man to express his feelings is bed. Instead of telling him after a beautiful night: "I liked it", or: "It was good" - express your feelings directly. Replace the word "good" with "pleasant, exciting, wonderful, captivating," and so on ... And then be sure to ask about his feelings. You did not stint on the expression of delight, so let him, in turn, share his impressions of the feelings you give him! Let in science express your feelings you will be a teacher, and he - a student. And the main rule for you, let it be "repetition - the mother of learning."
The woman so wants more often to hear cherished words: "I love you." And not because she is not sure of love, not because she is afraid that she is not loved, but because words of love give her pleasure! Three cherished words make it possible to clearly feel the love of a man! When everything is so simple and clear, a woman is filled with joyful emotions and wants to give herself to the world and be happy.