Echoes of Childhood
First we need to understand: why are we so rare today that we are meeting a real strong and strong-willed partner?
Turning to the statistics, you can see: a few years ago, the institution of the family has undergone some changes. If our grandparents were struggling to create a strong and indestructible cell of society, then, after a while, this tendency began to decrease the indicators. Women emancipated themselves in the desire to become independent of the stronger sex attained certain statuses in society, took new positions and were genuinely proud of their achievements. The independence of women painfully hit the self-esteem of men - they ceased to feel themselves defenders of the hearth. Some preferred to break away from the strongman, in order to avoid pressure on the throat of their male ambitions. And what did we get in return?
A lot of strong women with children in their arms, free from spouses, but such unfortunate people because of loneliness ...
Now let's imagine - what kind of man can a woman bring up with her own career? A woman without a man, without strong hands, without support ...
Probably, here are the seeds of the germination of effeminate males who were brought up by maternal love and encouragement (which is inevitable, because every mother felt guilty before her son that he grows up without his father, even if this regret was hidden deep under the mask of a businesswoman). Such a boy never saw before him a worthy example of a worthy man, before his eyes constantly flashed women who, having come from work, still cook dinner and wash clothes, despite their own social significance. Maternal education can be masculine, but the worse it is - the child gets used to the domination of the weaker sex and feels even weaker.
Of course, the option of developing a son in such a family can go on the other track - and the guy, realizing that he is a strong sex, will begin to implacable the right for the rights within his family. But such a young man can grow up a flawed misogynist who constantly recovers his title of "carrier".
How to recognize it?
It is not necessary to consider that a man of females can be cut off by your "radar" in only one appearance - for example, its form of clothing here is completely irrelevant. You will see feminity only by talking to this person. Such a man is much more vulnerable than the rest. Sometimes, having quarreled with you, he will hardly keep (and maybe not keep) tears, it will absolutely not theatrically wring his hands and ask you to forgive him even for what he did not commit.
Such men are usually pleasantly courteous, they will always give their coats, open the door to the restaurant, help get out of the car. Gestures of a woman's youthful, aristocratic even when he is engaged in everyday affairs. Pridyak to visit you, after dinner, such a young man, most likely, immediately rushed to wash the dishes, not forgetting to put on the aprons.
He will tell you about his working day very detailed, not forgetting to mention the lunch break time and the menu in details. After all, you will agree, the propensity for detail is, rather, a feminine character trait, while men, for the most part, do not like to go into detail and trouble themselves with long narratives.
If it comes to making a serious or even a little bit of an important decision - such a man will think about the solution for a long time, considering all options and at the same time fearing a miss. Be prepared for the fact that he will contact you for any help: how to darn the nipples? How to cook borscht from what is in the refrigerator? How to behave as a co-worker, who is constantly trying to knock the ground out from under his feet? How to conduct an interview tomorrow and not fall face to face in the mud?
The feminine young man will seek in the woman that very protection of the iopor, which is usually found in a man by any girl.
Feminine man: the pros and cons
After reading all of the above, many girls could get an idea: "Fi, as if they are describing a slobber, an absolutely unadapted man for life, why should I?" However, do not rush to put a cross on a soft, at first glance, weak-willed man. After all, he has his pluses:
- A woman's man is ideal for a woman who likes to command. A young man in love will perform any whim of his half - and at the same time not seem to the girl henpecked.
- Such a man will not lose his head if he has to manage the economy himself. He is able to start general cleaning, cook dinner, touching candles around the perimeter of the table ... Living with such a young man, you do not have to worry that in your absence he will dissolve, kill glasses or flood his neighbors - the sense of neatness of his own home is equally important for him , than for you.
- You will never feel a cool and withdrawn attitude towards yourself. Some men in this way try to tie a girl closer to her - they say, she runs after me, she will achieve - and then she will love more. In our case, they will try to get you, even timidly, without loud words and crazy acts - but you can not help feeling how tenderly he treats you.
- Feminine men, in general, are very romantic. They like to make pleasant to their lady of heart: they write poems, leave touching wishes of a good day under a magnet on the fridge, give flowers without a reason, take movie tickets for the last row ...
- Experiencing a strong attraction to the girl, even such a vulnerable and shy guy will be capable of a man's act, especially if the question is about your safety - in any case, you will hardly have to beat him off from bullies.
In the excessive femininity of the character of your young man you can find your own minuses:
- You do not need to rely too much on the fact that the guy will make serious decisions about life - be prepared to take responsibility for yourself even for small acts on yourself.
- In order for such a timid and vulnerable man to find a decent job, he will have to be pushed to it. It will be difficult for a guy to wade up the career ladder, even if he has sufficient knowledge and skills to improve. Most likely, less clever, but more persistent and assertive colleagues in this plan will quickly bypass it.
- If you are not so fond of constant calls and correspondence, if you are less romantic - you may be annoyed over time by his unbridled desire to spend with you every free minute. But is it bad? Perhaps it's not him, but your minus ...
- Lovers of noisy companies will feel burdened in the presence of such a man: it is not easy to relax, catching his sad look, begging you to leave everyone and sit with him alone.
It can not be said that a woman is a woman - it is definitely good or definitely bad. Rather, a woman is a man - this is completely unambiguous. Depending on the nature of the girl herself, someone will find in a non-believer and a good life partner, and someone will understand that she needs strong and confident male hands - and therefore vulnerable young men will not be able to hold on to you for long.