To recognize in the man of the present tyrant

What associations do you have with the word tyrant? With tyrannosaurus is not confused - it's a beast from another zoo, from the park of the Jurassic period. Tyrant…. Hitler, Stalin. If we shake up school knowledge, then we remember Caesar and Peter the Great. Do you know that real tyrants can live next to us? This is the so-called type of house tyrant, but his influence on you and your family can be no less than the influence of the tyrant of past years on his era. How to recognize a real tyrant in a man so as not to become a victim of his despotism?
To begin with, find out where the tyrants come from. All our troubles and complexes come from childhood. A man could already be born with a strong imperious nature and methods accessible to the child (hysterics, whims) to get weak-willed parents to fulfill their desires. In his adult life, he, having preserved the stereotype of behavior, will achieve his domination in other ways, carrying on you moral or material pressure or even using violence. The second variant of development in men of propensity to tyranny arises, if he grew up in a despotic family, does not know another model of behavior and behaves the only way known for himself.
So, we found out the reasons, leave them on the conscience of the parents. How can a woman learn to recognize real tyrants in men? Observe your chosen one. He tries to impose his will on you, he is convinced that his opinion is infallible, he controls your expenses, when and to whom to go on a visit, and what do you put on, he decides only where to go on vacation, how to spend the weekend - your opinion is not is taken into account.
In front of you is the classic type of tyrant. But how could you not see in him these character traits? Either you were deeply in love, idealized your chosen one, were not inclined to recognize negative features in him, or he carefully disguised his essence. There are often cases when a tendency to despotism is manifested in men only in communication with you, but in society it is nice, polite and tolerant.
You tell your friend about home tyranny, and she exclaims in astonishment: "Well, you, he's so cute, you're very lucky!" Do not cherish the illusion that you can re-educate him - his personality has already formed, so if you do not have the masochism in his worst manifestations, part with it. Do not think that only real tyrants will be your support and support in life. Do not be afraid to remain alone - you are an independent person, do you really need the leader of all your actions and the master of thoughts?
Family psychologists recommend several ways that can help you recognize a real tyrant in a man: do not rush to go to the registry office immediately, as you would like to get the coveted status of an official wife. Live together, study each other. Remove quickly rose-colored glasses and try to adequately assess the actions of men. Observe him (if possible gradually) in the places of service: shops, car washes, hairdressers.
He screams at employees, finds fault with them on a trifling matter? Think about it, but suddenly you will become the next object of his tyranny. Let's analyze one more situation. You have lived together for many years, your husband has achieved promotion in the service, and suddenly began to build a career ladder at home, to guide you. In men, self-criticism sometimes disappears, it is possible that he just played the boss, correct it in a soft form, explain to him that you do not need to interfere with personal and official. Your house and family are the fruit of many years of work, which should not be turned into a testing ground for managing decisions.